i should feel guilty or should i ?

[cassie summers]

In march my big ID died he had melanomas i had owned him for 6 years he had a wonderfull character but was an absolute sod to ride really unpredictable put me in hospital twice and my sharer broke her collar bone 2 times on him,i totally lost my confidence riding and in the end only rode him a couple times a week on short hacks and let my sharer ride him most the time so after he passed away i bought my mare she has turned out to be a wonderful horse for me has completely restored my confidence even though she wasnt broken and had been a brood mare she is 8 years old but together we have done so well we hack out all the time she isnt fond of the school but it will come in time she had a few trust issues but i have sorted them but i sometimes feel guilty as i am having such a good time with her i do miss him but not riding him

 

[digitalangel]

I know how you feel. I lost my old pony mare 2 months ago after a long battle with laminitis - i never rode her as she was teeny tiny and old and she was just a pet to me really. However her passing ( and me quitting smoking ) meant i could get something a little younger for myself to event as my grey needs a quieter life. I dont feel guilty because i know i gave my little mare the best gift - a fabulous, spoilt life with everything she could ever want. And she didnt suffer. And life goes on - its sad, but irs a fact. I remember my old girl in my own way - same as your old boy! but please dont feel guilty. x

 

[cassie summers]

thats so nice and yes very true he was thoroughly spoilt always had nice bed feed hayalge and an easy life considering what a sod he was because when i wasnt riding him he was so loving to me and even protective but i sometimes forget about him when i am out on her just feeling abit down tonight so thankyou for your kind words

 

[FionaM12]

Nothing to feel guilty about! You had a difficult horse who was hard for you to ride. Despite that, you loved him and gave him a good life, and his death was through no fault of yours.

You cared for him and your reward is the fun you're having now with your mare. Enjoy it, don't feel bad!

 

[Queenbee]

In march my big ID died he had melanomas i had owned him for 6 years he had a wonderfull character but was an absolute sod to ride really unpredictable put me in hospital twice and my sharer broke her collar bone 2 times on him,i totally lost my confidence riding and in the end only rode him a couple times a week on short hacks and let my sharer ride him most the time so after he passed away i bought my mare she has turned out to be a wonderful horse for me has completely restored my confidence even though she wasnt broken and had been a brood mare she is 8 years old but together we have done so well we hack out all the time she isnt fond of the school but it will come in time she had a few trust issues but i have sorted them but i sometimes feel guilty as i am having such a good time with her i do miss him but not riding him

Aww hun, bless you. this made me remember what something I was told years ago when talking about dogs. We love them for them, they are never a replacement, they are unique. I also remember discussing with my sister my fear... I loved my nephew with all my heart and when she fell pregnant I was actually scared, I didn't want to end up with 'favourites' and couldn't believe I would have THAT much room in my heart for another nephew or niece, since the day sorrel popped out and into this world there has been no question of how much I love her... It is the same as my love for Christoper. Do not feel guilty, Your old chap was much loved by you and to find a horse that you can carry on your passion with and that has obviously given you so much in such a short time is wonderful and doesn't take anything away from the time you had with your boy.