I want to give it all up. I've had enough

Holly Hocks

Holly Hocks

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As per title really. I just want to give up on horses. I've had as much as I can take.

Some of you might know, that I've had a very poorly mare in horse hospital for almost two months now. She has been very ill, but they thought they were on top of the matter and I was due to pick her up tomorrow. Vet phoned me just over an hour ago to say that they had turned her out in the paddock and when they went to get her in, she has managed to hit her head on something and injured her face and her eye. He was talking about x-rays, so possibility of a fracture methinks.
I moved my old horse to a DIY livery yard yesterday where he was attacked in the field and I found him trembling like a leaf when I went to get him this morning and he had lost a load of weight overnight. Anyway, bully's owner has been told that she had to put him in the starve patch and this has been done with a lot of complaining and moaning - mine is now back in with the boys and when I left tonight was happily eating grass. However I'm not sure what the long term solution is going to be.
I just feel like everything is going wrong and that maybe I should get the mare PTS and send my old boy to a civilised retirement home.
I feel really upset about it all and just feel that if I gave up now, all the problems and upset would stop. I really feel like telling the vet to put her to sleep when he phones tomorrow because I am wondering what the next problem will be....
 
O hun. Chin up. I'm sorry it is all going wrong right now. I have had rubbish patches like this and they are so depressing. All I can say is that if you do give up and PTS will you feel even worse? Worth thinking about as you might just end up feeling like you should have tried harder or something. I hope the horespital will fix up your girls face without too much trouble. Even if it is fractured she should be home really soon I would have thought.

Sorry I can't be more helpful but my thoughts are with you
 
Oh no how awful for you. I hope you're mare is going to be ok poor thing. It is always difficult moving horses and as a YO I really try to make it as easy for my clients as possible. Your poor boy sounds like he had a tough night but hopefully that situation will right itself now he has some friends.
I really feel for you and a couple of weeks I felt the same...sometimes it just all goes wrong and you really wonder why you bother. But you will feel better in a few days....If you really do decide to send your boy away please contact me as I have been thinking of starting retirement livery on my yard.
The real question is....can you live without them? That is what always turns me around!
Chin up and have a large glass of wine. Hope things improve soon. :):)
 
<<<<Big Hugs>>>>

So sorry to hear about your mare, hope she ok. Don't give up hun your just going threw a rough patch atm where things arn't on your side. In a few weeks when your mare back at home your boy playing with his field mates you'll be so happy that you didn't have her PTS and that you didn't take your horse to a retirement home! Hope things pick up soon xxx
 
Aww hun sorry to hear of the trouble your having at present. ITs a rough patch your going through and in a few days it will all be sorted. If you do decide to have her PTS do you think you will regret it in a few weeks. If so then don't do it. I reckon she will be fine and the vets will sort her out and she will be home good as new in a few days time :D
And I hope your boy settles soon and he'll be having a great time in the morning with his new friends :D
 
Don't do anything too hasty and live to regret it. We all have rubbish times and this sounds like exactly that. I really hope your mare pulls through, and your lad settles in his new home. Moving is very traumatic for them as they have pecking orders to re-establish.
 
oh no.big hugs ,i know how you feel.i was talking to vet last week re my horse thinking the same thing .put us all out of our misery with ongoing problems.all i can say is things seem to have a run of all going wrong together.dont make any rash decisions before you make them.
 
One month ago, I felt exactly the same as you, and swore that I wouldn't ride again... (have just had bad luck with my horses when it comes to their health)

It gets better I promise!
 
((((((big hugs)))))

I know exactly how you feel hun, I was ready to give it all up earlier this year, but I really dont know how I would cope without them. Wait for vets diagnosis, see what they say about girly, as for Rebel he sounds happy and settled now that the bully is moved, if bully horses owner kicks up a fuss point out that her horse has done it to a lot of others so she needs to take responsibility and sort other arrangements for him.

Dont make any decisions whilst your so upset and angry, see what vets say and take a few days to think. Remember if you need to talk or just rant to someone Im here xx
 
Really sorry you feel so low, but same as everybody else, think you should hang in and ride out the black patch. You always sound so nice and helpful when you post, and this doesn't sound like what I presume is the normal you. It's a shame that your poor boy was attacked and I hope the YO gets things sorted out for you. And at least your mare IS in the right place to get the best tratment for her poor banged head.

Chin up and keep posting. We're all here for you!
 
Big Big ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))). I'm sorry to say I know how you feel. :( Sometimes you realy wonder if it's all worth it. But then I go out to the field and see Horrids little face looking at me and I can see that all the c**p from the last year and the on going c**p now is so worth it. I realy don't think I could carry on if I didn't have my horses.
Sending your mare massive ((((((((((((vibes)))))))))))) I hope she's not done anything to bad and can come home soon.
If you ever need someone to talk to or just need to let it all out i'm only a PM away.
 
The news gets worse....
Old boy is settling in now that Bully pants has been told to move and she has been given another field for her horses, so all is calm in the field mine is in.......

However news for the mare gets worse. She has been x-rayed and there is no fracture, but there is damage and some sort of lump which won't go down. Unfortunately, it also showed that the infection has spread to the other side of her face and as it was an antibiotic resistant bug the chances of being able to clear it up are "concerning" (the word the vet used). I asked how much further do we go on and although he didn't say as much, I think that if the pseudomonas bug is back then there is nothing more they can do. It seems that it is starting to clear up in one area and then just finding another place to start. They have taken a culture and the results will be back from histology in 3-5 days, but to be honest I'm not holding out much hope. I've had a good cry today, so feel that I am preparing for the worst. I just wish they had found this earlier and made the decision weeks ago......waiting to hear is the worst part. No matter how ready I am, I know that if it comes to it, I'll still be devastated. I only bought her in April and have only ridden her about 15 times...gutting..
 
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