if someone is rude about your horse....?

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A post about the adorable muddy faced cob got me thinking (always bad news on a Sunday evening after a glass or 2 of wine!).

Anyhow, has anyone ever been rude about your horse? What did you do about it, if anything? Did you forgive them or did you even agree?

Ill kick off...

The chestnut in my siggy who I competed as a show hack. I had her on a predominantly dressage yard and one of them commented to a new livery 'oh that's useless, just a pretty face'. I was so cross I trained for bl00dy weeks and even took a residential dressage course and then took the person on at a dressage competition, and beat them. Never did another Dressage comp ever again!

The one on the left of my ciggie who is quite smart in the summer but a giant shetland pony in winter was called a mule and just a hacking horse by a 'friend'. I was quite upset and felt like having a pop at her, but didnt. I can say rude things about my gorgeous horsey but nobody else is allowed to!

The grey in my siggy is a loan LOU horse. Friend said he is a pointless waste of space and a Randy rig to boot. I agree entirely with her but am fond of him anyway!
 
People are always rude about my horse. I couldnt care less to be honest.....they are the people who dont know her and how genuine she is. She isnt outstanding at anything, and isnt built to be especially good at anything (till we discovered hunting!), but she will try her best at absolutely anything, and is a safe and sensible ride who I love to pieces!

I would choose her over any higher bred horse who is a complete arse anyday!
 
Names that my chestnut horse has been called by my trainer:-

The Yak
Slab-sided, sway backed, ewe-necked and gutty
Lard horse

What did I do? I paid her £20... Vigilante justice at its best.
 
I also have a LOU horse, so have had endless comments along the lines of 'isn't it useless/lame/can't do this/can't do that etc etc'

I don't dignify it with an answer, I just invite them out hacking with me. When they see I have a well-mannered, utterly bombproof horse who loves nothing more than to go for a gallop and leap an imaginary ditch or two they soon change their minds
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If someone said Doug was ugly i'd tell them where to go, but i doubt many would, as he is just so cute and fluffy and ginger
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Someone called him obese once *evil stares*
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ETS: i dont think any horse is ugly, and wouldnt dream of saying it, but i do say "that horse isnt my type" and to be fair quite a lot of people say Doug isnt their type which is fair enough, but calling them ugly, just because its not their type of horse is damn right rude!
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Your horses are all beautiful! I don't know how anyone could be rude about them!

The only person who ever slagged my horse off was my farrier but I had to let at him seeing as my naughty pony was a bit of a monster with his feet. Harsh but fair I reckon.
 
My farrier makes rude comments about my horse every time he visits. My OH does the same every time I get a vets bill, as does my mother every time I fall off.

Couldn't care less!
 
As you say I can say what I like about my horses but no one else can! My ex boyfriend really liked my cob but was incredibly rude about my neices sec A and B ponies who are very pretty (and thats not just my opinion!) but his absolutely fatal and terminal mistake was the day after my new boy arrived. Now I realise I am biased but he is a very handsome Oldenburg with the sweetest nature to match - he took one look from the distance and said 'I don't like him'. This just seemed to confirm what i had been thinking - that i didn't really like him....like I said ex boyfriend.....
 
As I work giving carriage rides for the public I have to put up with this alot.... one springs to mind in particular who said while on the back of the carriage "oh they're only cart horses, do you get them from other people when they're too old to work?" I do have a bug bear about people calling our boys cart horses and any vehical a cart. They are carriage horses and carriages/vehicals/specific name i.e. wagonette brake

I lost the plot a little bit.... ended up getting disciplined... Its like kids, you can say your own is ugly but you don't say it about someone elses.
 
well, a "friend" once told me that i should sell merlin as he is so accident prone that he is never going to make an eventer.

shame as her horse has been off all summer due to injuries from its shockingly bad conformation. and it is an "eventer".

thankfully i do not rise to such comments, yes he may like to aim for things that he could impale himself on, or the fact that he can now never go out the day before an event due to the 100% possibility that he will loose a shoe, but that can be managed - and at least his injuries are self-inflicted and not conformation caused...!

but im easy going and take it how it comes - IM rude about my horse
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Well I have had my pc chief instructor tell me I had wrecked the horse in my siggy, and she meant it! That really pi**ed me off but I get on quite well with her now - 12 months later, I have a different pony and think she just wanted me on the dressage team to start with but now shes genuinely friendly - there are some very funny people and they all seem to be in my pony club!

Oh and people say my tb is a psychopath and they wouldn't get on it their self let alone allow their child to ride it! - well I don't really mind cause I hate other people that I don't really like riding my horses and the people that say it can't ride themselves anyway!

People always laugh at my big cob but he's been round ou area eventing 4 years in a row with 4 different riders and beats bsja horses in a jump off sometimes, which they really hate!
 
Most people are rude about mine! Take it with a pinch of salt! Life is hard enough without people transferring rudeness onto your horses too!!! They are there for you to enjoy, and your hobby...not anyone elses!!
 
hmmm... now let me think.....
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Meh! The yummy muddy cob isn't even my horse and I was cross.

I think that even if you personally think the horse is shocking you should find something good to say face to face to its owners. Just good manners. They don't cost anything & so many people lack them these days.
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With regard to what I would do? Welll, probably put it down to small minded jealousy
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Or beat them in a competition & prove them wrong? I suppose at the end of the day all that really matters is that you & ponio are good together!
 
my old farrier used to refer to my tb has the scanky thoroughbred lol. he didnt mean it horribley but he soon hushed when i asked him if he wanted me to pay him for his job lol.
 
There's always a horsey person quick with the un-thinking side swipe comment. Not my horse but a remark about my bed just recently springs to mind - "What kind of bed is that exactly?". And that's by a friend too!
 
Nobody has ever insulted my neds, but thats because they are both bootiful and peeps value their teeth
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people are always rude about mine!! i get to the point where i don't give a flying f*** anymore.....i know my horses are ugly and pretty much useless and badly schooled but so am i!!!!!! I pay the bills at the end of the day!!
 
i have only ever had one person rude about my horse, when i bought her before they could put an offer in..

'well i dont want her now as your bound to ruin her, mind you, you take so long to get a bl**dy horse in an arena im sure i dont have to worry about competing with you...'

i was shocked! i replied that at least i didnt need the aid of draw reins and spurs to get my horse to work in an outline, that at 3, my horse had much better extentions then her suposed 'advanced' horse. so we entered the same novice test, my horse fot 81%, hers got 59% oh happy days!
 
the first yard I was at the groom wasn't very pleasant at all. I was watching a dressage clinic there and she said all smiles, well I guess watching dressage is as close as you and George will ever get!!! As a first time owner who'd only had G 3mths and had never been to a show it really hurt and stupid as it sounds still haunts me.
 
Had a comment that Dozzie may have done a ligament because she was a bit overweight and tbh is always fatter than I would like. She is a good doer!
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But actually she hoolied and slipped in the mud. I saw it happen. This came from someone who's horses are usually verging on obese!

The same person made a comment about unpulled manes.
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She offered to help anyone who needed help to pull their horses mane!
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Looking straight at me!
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When I jumped at the chance she began to back track! I think my comment was " You can come and pull my boy's mane any time you like. Have you got life insurance?" I then went on to explain that it was the only thing my old chap really objected to. And he would actually try to kill her!
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Bless him, he is such a sweetie, butter wouldnt melt, until you try to pull his mane!
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Funnily enough she never offered again!
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tbh i have been very lucky....everybody that meets h thinks he is fab
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however a girl many yrs ago that used to bring him in for me(he was 5 and jumped on her toe and broke it
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),said he would never amount to much and be the spookiest horse ever!!I was damn mad and never said anything...just thought i will see you again in the future...and yes i did
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Local show...my lad looking VERY well stood like a gent,hers was behaving like a complete tit,lol...how smug was i!
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There is no need to be rude about anybodys horse if you dont like..it may not be your type or taste but you be polite..i always have been as i would hate for anybody to slag mine off to my face....i am very protective also,if i havnt asked for an opinion on him,dont give me 1
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I used to ride fell ponies and sometimes people were a bit dissmissive of them especially in terms of what they can do and stuff - usually it's just ignorance. But what does annoy me is when people can't appreciate quality - Arabs aren't my type of horse but I can appreciate a beautifully put together one or a really stunning one as well as I can a quality cob, shire, wb or tb. That's what really used to annoy me with the fells - so called expert horsey people couldn't see that they might not have been their type of horse but they were good examples of their breed and just quality horses to boot!
 
Aren't some people just plain b****y! All horses and ponies have their good points and besides, their owners love them, doesn't matter if they're worth £500,000 and a champion show horse or 50p and eat their heads off in a field.
Just ignore it, smile sweetly and go give your hairy/cobby/ old/useless/fat etc etc friend a big hug. Bu**er 'em all, I say!!
 
Yeah I know what you mean, I am much less bothered these days - the chestnut episode was quite a lot of years ago - and she was the love of my life!

I am certainly not going to get all competitive again (or even get the clippers out come to that!)

People are odd though, if they are not horsey I don't mind the insults, but horsey people should know better!
 
When excited my NF gelding tends to throw in a little buck of joy de vivre. A somewhat overconfident friend decided to canter him with no reins (horse archery style) and subsequently took a tumble. My OH burst out laughing and my friend called my lad an "effing childs pony".

He is now often referred to (ironically) a my 'childs pony' as he is such a tough, willing and spirited chap.

As for the friend, I never allowed him to suffer the indignity of having to ride my 'childs pony' again
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