If you don't cry, you have to laugh... kids found out today about Juno.

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Conversation went something like this;
H = yay, we're going to Meg, Juno and Penny at Granny's house.
Me = Umm, actually, Juno isn't there anymore.
Son= Why? Where is she?
Me= Juno has gone to heaven.
H= Who took her?
Me = God did, it was her time to go.
Son = Oh, I am sad. When did she go?
Me= She went on Friday
H= How did she get to heaven?
Me= God does magic, he came and took her.
Son= Can horses go up stairs?
Me= When God comes, horses can do anything.
H= I surpose being a horse, you can't do church services (funerals) because they don't understand English.!!!

I had to smile, they have been so brave, and when we got to the field to see Meg and Penny, it was totally normal, no mention of Juno again or since.
We are not religious, but God Magic seems to solve all sorts of problems, (including 'where did I come from' conversations!) so I am happy to keep it as it is for now.

I keep surprising myself, coping very well. I have to think this means it was so the right thing. I have had a few moments of feeling sad, but haven't actually flooded the place. We will still miss her like mad, but she is really in a better place.
I have yet to gather my thoughts to read all the poems thou, I feel I am not that brave just yet!!!
 
Hurts doesn't it but you know it will get better and it does in time, just let yourself grieve, you need some time to yourself, Oz :)
 
children always surprize us - so tiny yet so knowing - but you hun have to quietly let yourself grieve - dont deny your thoughts dont try to walk away from your memories - go when the little ones are a sleep sit on the door step look to the stars and cry - hey it feels good sometimes just to sit and weep and youre no lessor person to do that - hugs to you hun - the little ones sound cool adjusted loved ones - just allow you time to love yourself and go read the poems and just allow self to have some self pity time . just big big big hugs and alays a shoulder here xxxxx
 
My son kept telling people that my old boy had gone to "Devon", no matter how many times I tried to explain it was Heaven, he got quite worried when recently, his Dad went to Devon on a camping trip.

He also couldn't get his head around how God got horsey to heaven,,, we ended up totally confusing each other the more I tried to explain:confused::D

Kids can be a great tonic x
 
Kids are amazing and naivety is a great thing.They often cope better than adults as we know too much, that we probably dont need to know!

You are coping well as you know you have been a good caring owner and did right by your horse. Thats being a good owner.

Kids a good leveller!
 
My parents were the opposite totally honest and up front about everything (I never believed in Santa...).

First death was my parents pet rabbit when I was about 18mnths, autumn time.
They thought it went fine.

Come spring I asked Mum why she was pruning/fertilizing 'dead' plants. She said it would make them come back for summer.

They caught me later emptying sand from pit onto where we'd buried the rabbit... 'to make him come back for summer'.

At that point was was a bit upset... death was fine as long as it was temporary!

I'm very sorry for your loss. And very pleased your kids are coping well. No harm in gently explaining some of the 'truth' (whatever you personally really believe about after lives etc) if they ask more questions.

For the moment though sharing your smile at them.

You can always take to a Horseman's Sunday service http://golondon.about.com/od/septemberannualevents/p/horsemansunday.htm if they'd like a service for Juno.
 
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