Im disheartened and gutted: Its not fair- gah!!

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Ok,

so i have been unable to find a a suitable horse to loan for the past year.. (very disheartening)

Now, im currently riding a pony up my yard for my friend- her daughter is an extremely hot headed 16yr old and the said pony is a georgousely gentle 5yo..

The girl is extremely rough with him, she hasnt bonded with him and doesnt want him- she wants some whizzy firecracker (which he is nothing like, its not in his nature)
She keeps widing him up, kicking him into the bit and holding him back and its heartbreaking to watch..he gets very stressed and wound up.
Hes ridden in a pelham wih a whip and is finding it hard to work in an outline, i believe his back is sore and he is barefoot which i believe (as hes sooo foot sore) he needs shoes wih the sort of road work in the area.

Now when i ride him hes a different horse- quite and gentle.
I ride in a snaffle, no whip and very gently..

I want him so badly and i know the girl doesnt, shes even said so but her mum wont have any of it.

Just gutted really...
 
Yes, and she knows the girl hasnt bonded with him and knows the girl wants another one.. but i think she sees it as not to spoil the girl shes got to live with what shes got..

But i fear she is going to turn him into some naughty pony, her mum can see the same thing but she wont full loan him to me and i definatly cannot buy him as she wont sell him.
 
yeah i've been here too. i really feel for u and the poor horse. not much u can do unless u can talk the mum into selling u the horse or letting u loan him.
it might be tough but if u can't suffer watching it and there's nothing u can do, then maybe u should walk away from this 1. tho in my situation i couldn't just walk away either, i just bit my tongue till my circumstances changed and i had to leave the situation. least the horse in question was later sold to someone really nice, but i felt like i'd abandoned him and the guilt was heart breaking.
 
Im thinking about walking away, i'll cry my little heart out- its crazy i think about this pony all the time, hes constantly on my mind and i always think about all the things id change, all the differnet things i could do to make him comfortable and happy.

Im completely in love with him- hes like my 100% perfect pony!
 
i know exactly how ure feeling. i'm sure if the horse in my situation hadn't have been sold i'd still be worrying about him even now.
is the girl in question not open to improving her riding? does she not get lessons? have u told her she's going to ruin the pony? how about the mum, maybe u need to have a heart to heart with her? tell her ure worries and that its upsetting u so much ure thinking about walking away?
 
The girl is actually a good little rider- just not on this pony, shes rough because she looses her temper and boy, does she whack him!!
Ive mentioed as best i can to the mum about the possibility of riuning the pony and she says that the girl is only young and she wll learn/improve etc.
 
be more assertive about it!! tell the mum you think its disgusting how the pony is ridden-if you care about this pony you have to do it or it will continue and that pony will have lost all spirit.especially if you walk away-this girl is just being a spoilt stupid b***h
 
What do i do if the mother turns around and says: forget it, i dont want you to have anything to do with us anymore if thats how you feel?
 
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