I'm having a crisis !!

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Ok I will explain this as best as I can !!
I kept my horse on his own ( horses in field next door ) on a smallholding for 9 years very happily. Had 2nd daughter who is very allergic to horsey so last July I moved horsey to stay with a friend who is willing to look after him for me. All is great there !!
The chap who owns the smallholding has mental health problems, so much so that I have been caring for him for the past 3 years ( paid) and this is kept seperate from the fields.
It was agreed with the family that I would make good the fields and fencing when I left ( when I arrived I had to muck out cow plop from field shelters etc), anyway..... I had the fields topped, and oh did the fencing and i disinfected the shelters and tidied the muck heao and trimmed the over growth. All done and finished last October and phoned to say I had. I get a phone call tonight.........
Someone is renting the fields in April and the family have walked round the fields and noticed a few things..... could I sort it....
1. can i get rid of the muck heap....wtf !!!!
2. can I cut back the brambles......I did in october,....these things grow!!!
3. there is some dodgy fences..... was fine when i left, oh did it.

Also the tap was leaking in Nov ( i left the july before) but i got a friend to sort it for £30.00 on a sunday !! Its leaking again and they want me to get my friend back coz they dont think he did the job properly !!

Now bearing in mind I look after the man who owns it and dont want to fall out with the family ( they pay me to look after him ) what do I do ???????
Should I get on with it quietly or tell them i am cross......should i be cross or am i being unreasonable?????
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I don't think you are being unreasonable.
Perhaps explain to them that you don't feel these things are your responsibility anymore since you did leave everything in satisfactory condition.

I know how you are feeling though. If you are anything like me you will do this stuff because you hate confrontation!!!
 
Now bearing in mind I look after the man who owns it and dont want to fall out with the family ( they pay me to look after him ) what do I do ???????

tell them straight.....you have to the best of your knowledge made good the field for the next people and as far as you are concerned you have completed your contract with landowner
and would hope they understand........
 
It seems to me that they think everyone else is responsible for looking after their things (including relative) so they dont have too!!! I would in the nicest posible way tell them that you left it in more than a reasonable condition and that its no longer your responsiblilty. Maybe hint that if you were to complete the work on the field that it would leave you no time to look after said relative?????
 
yep I agree.....................they r taking this too far.....what the F**k do they expect you to do with the sh*t heap.
Just like you said.....that made me laugh
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Tell them they r asking too much of you.
 
I think you should try having a polite chat with them and point out that you left the fields/shelters/fencing in better condition than when you took them on. The muck heap is probably made up of a lot of the cow muck that you had to shift from the shelters anyway before you could use them. Brambles do grow through the winter and if you trimmed everything back in October and told them, it is really not your problem to do anything further. I know it is hard, but if you don't stand your ground now, you might be put upon further down the line. As for the leaking tap - that is really the land owner's responsibility anyway. Good luck
 
I think the main thing to remember is that if you weren't working for the chap as his carer, you would have left for good having put the field etc. to rights, and would be having nothing more to do with it. You said yourself that the caring and the field were separate, but it's only because you are 'still there' that anyone thinks that you are still responsible. If you had really left, you wouldn't still be there. See what I am saying???
The point is that your responsibility towards the field has now ceased, and you should tell them that. The caring is completely separate.
 
you are absolutely right !! I will point that out to them when I speak to them. ( dreading it coz im such a wimp in RL !!)
I am going to look myself this afternoon to see what they are talking about re the fencing and i will have to tell them to get a plumber for the tap. ( it seems to be creeping into being my problem when it happened after i left !!) (general rust problem ) Thankyou xx
 
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