Im so annoyed!!!

[elliefiz]

Ugh i really feel the need to vent. I was down at the yard last night riding when the lady who owns the yard came down. It was obvious that she was in a bad mood from the word go she was giving out that someone had left the tack room door open and her cat had got in and peed all over MY rugs and this somehow was my fault! I just continued to ride and ignored her despite the fact that she was shouting across the arena at me and then her son came into ride on his new showjumper who was being really naughty and she asked did i mind finishing riding since i was distracting her sons horse!
I said nothing but finished up riding and then stood with her and my OH at the fence watching her son ride and started to tell her about my plans to send one of my horses to stud. This has been in the pipeline for along time in fact only a couple of weeks ago she was discussing stallions with me! But last night she went into a rant that she wasnt running a stud and that if the mare got pregnant then i would have to find somewhere else to put her because she didnt want a pregnant mare on the yard as it would be a liability!Plus she said that all studs are full of all sorts of diseases and that my mare would come back ill and spread stuff around the yard!!I honestly was completely speechless by her ignorance!!So despite the fact that my other horses are there and that I have practically run that yard for her for the past two years Im going to have to find somewhere else to put my mare. Its completely ridiculous I have put so much work into that yard finding liveries and schooling horses and taking full charge of the place when she goes on holidays. Plus my mare is going to the stud which bred two of Pippa Funnells eventers (the stallion is Vechta) its hardly a disease ridden dump of a place!!I got such a lecture off her that in the car later on my OH actually asked me if she had a mental problem because she completely flew off the handle!!
Sorry sorry sorry its a v long rant but im so so annoyed and im stuck in an awkward position because my other horses are very happy in the yard so i dont want to move them but i cant keep one horse in one place and the rest in another id go round the twist!Any advice??

 

[Blackhawk]

Why are you still there?

I'd move all your horses somewhere else.

 

[madhector]

see if she thinks differently whens shes in a good mood? she sounds like she ranted at you because she was in a bad mood and decided to take it out on you, very unfair! she what she says in a few days but if she carrys on being like it then i would move anyway, cant stand people taking there grumps out on people

 

[viola]

Oh dear! What a situation! Any chance YO calms down and realises how ridiculous was her behaviour??
If not, I would move all the horses away - there is nothing worse than interacting with the mentally challenged individual.

 

[no_no_nanette]

Sounds like you were getting the stick for something completely else going on in her life .... and had the bad luck to be in the firing line! Has she ever done anything like this before? Do you usually get on with her well? If you have had on the whole a good relationship I'd speak to her directly and say that you were really surprised and taken aback by what she said yesterday, and the way that she went for you, and would like to know what was behind it, as you don't want there to be any continuing ill feeling. Perhaps you could also say that you were really surprised at her reaction to your mare being put in foal, as you and she had talked about it before and she had seemed fine .... The strategy is to make her feel guilty, and hopefully she will realise what a total prat she made of herself, and will apologise!
On the other hand, if she does have a track record of being a moody **$!+ then you might be better trying to find an alternative yard where you can keep all your horses together ...

 

[rema]

She sounds abit fruit loop to me!!.One minute discussing potential stallions then go a complete 360 and tell you your mare wouldent be welcome at her yard when in foal.CUCKOO!!.I would be searching the local rag for livery right now.

 

[the watcher]

I think it sounds as though she was having a bad day, and suggest having a discussion with her again when she has cooled down a bit. If you point out how much you have supported her yard and that you would be reluctant to leave she may see sense.

As an aside though, I think there is a place for mares and foals, but it is not on a livery yard in my opinion, unless they can be seperated from other horses

 

[elliefiz]

Im asking myself that question all morning!!Its so handy because its beside my house and like i said i got all the liveries for the yard by bringing my friends horses in so im loathe to move elsewhere plus Ive been there for over 3 years now and my horses are so settled there. I would move them if i could find a yard with such good facilities that was close by but everywhere else involves a bit of a drive plus its mainly hunting country so very few local yards have a floodlit arena or walker id have to go about 10 miles away to get the same facilities

 

[AmyMay]

Well, if it's any consolation, I had to move my mare when I deceided to put her in foal - some yards just don't feel that they want the responsibility, which I can fully understand. Youngstock can be a huge liability.

Maybe, however, last night wasn't the best time to talk to her about it if she was in such a bad mood???

 

[EllieBeast]

this sounds like something that happened to me. YO had a bad day, got angry at everyone and handed out eviction notices to all liveries. then, a week later apologises and offers for us to stay. i left anyway as i couldent stay there under the pressure that i could be thrown out on a whim if she was having an 'off' day. i still get on with her well - no hard feelings either way. but i am now on a bigger yard which has actually turned out more convenient(sp) in the long run.

 

[elliefiz]

i can completely understand her not wanting to take responsibility for a foal even though when discussing stallions with her a few weeks ago she was deciding what stable to put the mare and foal in!!and she was quick enough to point out that id be paying livery for the foal aswell!!i dont know what set her off last night i was just having a casual conversation with her there was no need to take her mood out on me especially considering i pay her a serious amount of money every month!she has an awful reputation in the area for being a complete b*tch she has thrown people off the yard before because she takes a sudden dislike to them but ive always got on with her and have defended her!I would love to move yards but like i said all my friends are there and we share a lorry so if i moved it would be an awful inconvenience. The thing is my OH's father runs a foaling stable ie he foals horses for people, mainly racehorses and the mare will be going up there for a few months once she gets nearer to foaling time. The YO knows all this so its not as if i expect to foal the mare in her yard or anything!the ideal situation would be to send the mare up there once she gets pregnant but its 120 miles away from my house and i would hardly get to see her if she was there. The YO said she wouldnt be willing to make grazing available to the mare by herself despite the fact that she did exactly that for one of the other girls in the yard all last summer!I said i wouldnt mind turnign her out with my other horses but she then brought up the point that studs are full of diseases and she didnt want her back at all!!how silly an attitude is that??!!