I'm turning into a pathetic, neurotic old woman, HELP

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Or so my hubby thinks,
I used to be so brave, would get on anything, jump anything and always the first on an unknown horse.
Since losing Jess i worry about everything, today my friend hacked William out, i had to go with her just in case....
He was very joggy and tense, but she rode him through, but at one point he side stepped towards the ditch, WELL!! i nearly had a heart attack, in a split second, in my mind, he had gone down the ditch, taken her with him, and they were both upside down!
She actually leg yeilded him over and everything was fine. But i can't stop thinking the worse in every situation!
Hubby thinks i'm going insane (he's probably right)! he reckons i'll start walking everywhere soon just incase....
Hmm reckon i'll get in touch with Jo Cooper in the new year.
Anyone else had these odd neurotic moments or is it just me? !!
Jo
 
Don't worry you're not on your own. I'll be right there with you. Before i lost my trusty steed earlier this year, nothing seemed to bother me. He was no angel, but if he had a moment i found it amusing. Now i see danger in everything, after a couple of nasty experiences with a new horse. Tried a horse this week and found myself singing all the way when i tried it on the road. Think horse thought i was a bit odd, but who cares. Just wish my big lad was here to call on to retrieve my dented confidence. (miss him billions)
If you find a cure, be sure to give me a shout. Happy new year xx
 
I reckon if you are not naturally this way inclined then you have probably got in to a habit of thinking the worst.
I went through a phase like this and I have to keep it in check all the time.
I have watched "Worrying" turn my Mum in to someone who is so worried of something bad happening, she doesn't do much at all!! I don't want to be like that.

You will get through it
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I know exactly how you feel, I used to be fearless, now I get paralysed with nerves, more than anything else its infuriating. I'm going to have a go at TFT this Spring also, so we can compare notes - we mustnt accept defeat
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This happened to me when my horse was PTS and I was only 22 at the time so I don't think it's an age thing! (am 27 now). I became so worried about bad things happening to them that I quit altogether for a few years. My mum still had a horse and anytime her YO called I used to get slight panic attacks incase she was calling to give bad news.

After a few years or so I couldn't resist getting involved again and for the first few months I just hacked about on a lovely, steady old cob which was so hassel free that it built my confidence really well. Now Its about 2 years on and I'm doing everything I used to and more. Just stick with it, it will get better I promise x
 
can relate to this. i lost my horse of 14 years and my mum the same year and have become increasingly anxious about my horses and children always thinking worst case scenario.i try really hard to keep this in check and now have a lovley warmblood who has a lovley temperament. i have thought of doing some neuro linguistic programming, theres lots of stuff around on challenging negative thoughts. the worst thing you can do is start avoiding things but set yourself small realistic goals and give yourself loads of encouragement. i drive my husband mad too.
 
Well listened to what you all had to say, and made a new years resolution to step out of my comfort zone.
Went to the yard this afternoon, tacked up and went out and cantered across the big field!!!
Never done this before with him, as was terrified he'd go into race mode!
He was an angel! had a little buck and a fart, which was to be expected and was suprisingly controlable.
I cacked it for a bit though, but actually enjoyed the rush off it.
Got back on the yard and everyone cheered, bless them. might pop a jump next week, we'll have to see
Thanks for your posts they really helped
Jo
 
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