In tatters and having to make a massive and hard decision

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As some of you may know I introduced rosie to you all.
I am having to make the aggonising decision to have her pts. She sustained an injury to her achilies tenton, it was healing and coming along well and then on saturday night she hurt herself again, on saturday I realised she really had buggered herself so boxed her and got the vet out for today.
The vet came out tonight and confirmed my suspicions and now I am having to organise my head and the actual deed.
I will be saying bye to a fabulous friend and will miss her more than I can think about.
I love you soo much rosie!!
 
ex racer rider said:
As some of you may know I introduced rosie to you all.
I am having to make the aggonising decision to have her pts. She sustained an injury to her achilies tenton, it was healing and coming along well and then on saturday night she hurt herself again, on saturday I realised she really had buggered herself so boxed her and got the vet out for today.
The vet came out tonight and confirmed my suspicions and now I am having to organise my head and the actual deed.
I will be saying bye to a fabulous friend and will miss her more than I can think about.
I love you soo much rosie!!
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Oh goodness what a horrible thing to happen. It must be the hardest decision to make but you have her best interests at heart. Sending big hugs to you both x
 
Thanks and I do know in my heart of hearts that it is the right thing but seeing her so full of live and 'healthy' makes things soo much harder. If she was ill and depressed then it would be easier. What makes it harder is that she is my first and I will be her last, I have had horses inbetween but she has always been a constant.
the little things will be the hardest like sorting out the feed she has left and brushes and all of the little things. Mucking her stable out for the last time!
 
I am really sorry. And you are right, its the little things that really hurt. I had to ring the dentist and cancel an appointment for my little girl's pony when the mare died. I cried for hours afterwards. But you are doing the right thing and it is the most loving deed of all. xx
 
soo sorry to hear you are going through this - I have been through it not with my own but with 2 of my friends horses. Make sure if possible that you have someone with you when the time comes, not sure I was much help to my friend as I was blubbing almost as much as her but it did mean we went through it together and she could then talk to me about it all - a friend could also help you to sort things out such as the stable (although it maybe that you want to do this yourself).

Thoughts are with you, I am sure she has had a wonderful life with you and she is lucky that you are such a caring mum.
 
i am so sorry to here about Rosie :(
i know it is a hard thing to do, but your are doing it for her so she doesn't stuffer any uneeded pain, and she knows she is well loved by you, all you can do now is be there for her when the time comes and let her know that passing over to the giant field in the sky she will never be alone, as you will always be with her in spirit and she will want you to know you will never be alone either as she will never forget you
hope you are ok, really thinking of you here
**hugs**
 
I'm so sorry OP. I had to have my horse PTS a couple of months ago, he had torn his meniscal ligament, and we'd given him just under a year to recover.

So I know how you're feeling, with an otherwise healthy & happy horse that just has no future :(

You have made a brave & tough decision. Remember, she won't think anything about her future, so don't feel guilty. Be with her & see her peacefully into the next life. Hugs to you
 
So sorry to hear about Rosie.
When I had my old boy PTS a few weeks ago it was a split second decision. It must be so much harder for you, having to make plans for it. My thoughts are with you.
 
I have a few questions. I know her eyes wont close ( :'( ) but what else should I expect, I want to be as prepared as I can. She is going by the injection, will she just drop or will she lie down or if against a wall lean and slide down of she just collapses it will be terrible but thats my main question but what else should I expect as I will be with her when it ends
 
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I have a few questions. I know her eyes wont close ( :'( ) but what else should I expect, I want to be as prepared as I can. She is going by the injection, will she just drop or will she lie down or if against a wall lean and slide down of she just collapses it will be terrible but thats my main question but what else should I expect as I will be with her when it ends
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i dont want to worry you but i have been around 2 horses when they sadly were PTS and both went differently
first one just lay down and it was almost as if she went for a nap and never woke up
the second was stood up and wobbled about before falling (not violently) but the vet told us to let go of her so we wouldn't go with her and she will find her own way to the floor (he said it will look scary but she wont be felling it so try not to be upset) it is not the nicest thing to lie down that is better, the way both are the 2 horses i was with went by injection they had 2 injections first one knocked them out and the second one let them pass over so most (not all) but most horses will lie down as the first takes effect

if your worried about her put her favour rug on her to keep her warm
i know this is a very hard time for you and we are all here if you need us.
i found one thing that comforted people was to plait the horses tail and cut the plait out, another lady i knew toke a horse from her boy, and one woman i knew ( i wasn't there when her mare was laid to rest) but she wrapped her horse up in all 4 of her stable legs and bandaged her legs, she said it was to keep her warm through the winter and i think it was easier for her as she didn't have to go back and look at her rugs because they were, where they belong on the horse

my heart really goes out to you x racer you are a braver person then i, i don't think i would be able to make the choice or even be there when my own horse would be passing over, but i think of it as passing over because they are passing in to a pain free life with all there long lost friends and we all get to see them again one day (welling up here sorry )
 
Thank you, that has sort of helped me, at least I know she isnt likely to crash down and the other day before I called the vet or reallised that she would have to be pts I took a plait of her tail. For no reason and it really freaked me out but thats just one of those wierd things that have no explanation be we just 'know'
 
I have mine shot but the one I saw go by injection staggered then went down,
I never look directly at mine as I see the vet get ready to actully do it I shut my eyes and keep talking to them til it's done then I walk away.
Thinking of you, just have to be brave there's nothing more I can say.
I don't go back until the kennels have been that's how I get though it.
 
it was probably your subconsciousness (spelt very wrong i know but i am unsure how to spell it and spell check is not helping me!!!)
another thing you might want to take into account is, let her pass over close to were you want her final resting place to be (grave) as horses are large animals to move, and what ever you do take her out of stable, my friends mum made that mistake and trying to move poor pony to his finaly resting place was rather hard, luckily he was only a 12'2 but i am guessing Rosie is a lot bigger, i know that is not a nice through but when your upset that might not cross your mind and then you get in a pickle, any other question feel free to drop me an inbox they pop up on my phone so i can get them any time of the day or night, i know this wont be easy for you so i am here for support if you need it,and remember your doing it with her best interest at heart and don't feel guilty because when the sunshine brakes through the clouds on a horrible day, that is her looking down on and you and saying thank you for all you have done for her, so keep watching for the sun shine!
keep strong **hugs**
 
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Thank you so much sibbystar. And as she lives at a livery I wouldnt be able to give her a permenant resting place so I am getting in touch with the 'disposal' people (such a horrible name) tomorrow and she will be taken away. Im sure the local kennels would but as she has never even been hunting before I dont think it would be the best place for her to end up (dont get me wrong I agree with HUNT horses going) but thank you for offering support like that.
 
I'm so sorry for you :(

As others have said, when horses are PTS by injection they do sort of find their own way to the ground. You can manoeuvre them so that they fall away from you. You can close horses eyes after the vet has checked they are gone, I always do. I have my horses PTS in an area which is accessible for the deadstock wagon to get in easily. I leave my horses lying in this area and I always book the deadstock people for about an hour and a half after the deed has been done so that I never ever have a "what-if" moment.

I always talk to my horses in a calm way as though there's nothing special about this injection so that they go in as peaceful a way as possible. You may also want to consider any special field mates Rosie has. I always let best-buddies in to see and sniff the dead horse so that they also have closure.

Thinking of you, be strong for your girl x
 
Ex Racer rider, My thoughts are with you, have been there more than once and it's a ruddy awful thing to go through. But it really is the final act of love. Your Rosie will always be with you, there's a little place in your heart and mind that she has reserved for her self and it belongs to only her. She will always be there.

By the same token when she leaves, she will take your love with her, along with a piece of your heart. She will always have you close by.

It's not going to be easy, doing what's right rarely is, hence the easy way out. Try to be strong for her, have someone around to be there for you. You are being very brave and strong for your girl.

Lot's of big hugs, to you and Rosie. So sorry you have to go through this.

BTW many years ago I once let one of mine go too long, Guess which one hurts the most to remember? Yes, the one tinged with guilt.
 
Ex Racer rider, My thoughts are with you, have been there more than once and it's a ruddy awful thing to go through. But it really is the final act of love. Your Rosie will always be with you, there's a little place in your heart and mind that she has reserved for her self and it belongs to only her. She will always be there.

By the same token when she leaves, she will take your love with her, along with a piece of your heart. She will always have you close by.

It's not going to be easy, doing what's right rarely is, hence the easy way out. Try to be strong for her, have someone around to be there for you. You are being very brave and strong for your girl.

Lot's of big hugs, to you and Rosie. So sorry you have to go through this.

BTW many years ago I let one of mine go too long. Guess which one hurts the most to remember today? Yes, the one tinged with guilt. I am so sorry my darling Rainy, you deserved so much better.

"Sorry for double post, very slow connection ,thought first post had not worked"
 
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