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whatoneearth

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First of all im no newbie, just made a new username as i dont want to upset anyone..i dont even know anyone here but you just dont know whos lurking or you havent spotted.

Iv been sharing this horse for about a year now, pay towards livery, and do my fixed days consistently, pay for livery if i cant do horse on my days.
But recently she hasnt ridden him..at all..for the last month. I only get to ride once a week on the amount of days i can have at the moment - i would have more days but cant afford cus owner wants more money for that. Currently pay £50 a month for one week day and i do him on one extra day a week when she hasnt got time - which is one day everyweek at the moment.

So on the one day i get to ride him, i cant do what i want with him, like a 45 min schooling session, or a decent hack, i have to keep it short cus im aware that you cant just pull the horse out of the field once a week and work hard! I feel like i cant progress with my riding, or do the things i want to with him.

I havent brought it up with her yet she has been difficult to communicate with in the last few months - not responding to little messages, not communicating at all unless she needs me to do something. I understand she has kids to look after so has less time but i feel like im paying quite alot for what im now getting. At first it was fine, she was riding horse alot so he was fit and happy to work.

So..opinions? Is that fair?
 
so the extra day that you do him, are you allowed to ride him that day?
Maybe you could ask to meet for a coffee and just ask if it would help any if you rode him a couple more times a week just to keep him ticking over until she was in a position to ride more. You could say that you can't afford to pay more but you would be happy to muck out on those days. She might appreciate it if she is struggling a bit. You never know what is going on in her life just now.
 
I think you are being a very good sharer by caring for the horse and not dragging him out and gallopping him everywhere on his one ride a week.

It's not fair or unfair whether she rides him or not, thats not guaranteed under a share, it's more one of those things where her failure to do so may mean it curtails what you feel you can ask the horse to do and maybe eventually you decide the share no longer suits you.

But it would certainly be reasonable to offer to exercise him more for her at no cost to her, just as a favour but keep your share ££ the same, doing the mucking out to help out in return. If she says no, then you have to decide if the share still works for you, as theres no obligation on her to agree, but she might bite your hand off. She might be happier (ie not feel like shes losing horse!) if you agree it for a short period to see if it suits, and maybe have a date when it will stop and go back to normal (when she thinks she can exercise the horse more).

good luck and well done for putting the horse first!
 
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