Is this really stupid............

[skychick]

On saturday the person that is going to be loaning my horse is collecting him but i wont be there.....
Basically the story is....i bough horse in march as a laid back happy hacker/allrounder to have fun....turned out he isnt and is extremely difficult as in napps, bucks, rears, bronks, leaps, plunges etc. So i have made the heartbreaking decision to part with him. Rather than sell him...as this would prob be a one way ticket to the meat man i am putting him out on loan to an old owner of his who had a great relationship with him and really wants him back but due to university fees and having 1 horse already she cant afford to buy him at the moment but works with problem horses and has been the only person that has got on with him. I love him dearly as when he is nice he is lovely, but working 6 long days a week i dont have the time that a horse like that needs. We both want to make sure that his future is secured, so she is going to have him on loan from me for 2 years and then buy him from me.
I have got a loan agreement in place etc.
As she needs to get someone to drive down with her trailer between trying to get that organised and my work etc she hasnt been able to collect him yet. I am away this weekend and the following weekend i am working and cant get out of that.
So i have said that she can come and collect him on saturday. I wont be there but will get my side of the loan agreement signed and witnessed ready to leave for her to do the same on saturday.
My mum will be there to give her his stuff and also to sort out the loan agreement etc. My mum is not really horsey as in wont be leading him into the trailer etc, but this girl is happy to put his travel gear on and do that.

Is it really silly for me not to be there. I will be distraught to see him go as i love him so much so maybe from the point of view that i will be in bits its best that im not there, but part of me is thinking that i should be there even though its a case of loading him etc.

The reason its come to this is because otherwise he will be with me for another 2 weeks, which isnt a problem, but i have stopped riding him and its time that she can be spending with him whislt she is on a break from uni.

Is it a really stupid idea??

 

[eatonbraynat]

Ok, IMO, if it was a new owner i would be worried and would prob make sure i was there, but seeing as it is an old owner of the horse then i am sure she will be fine dealing with him etc etc. Your doing the right thing making sure your mum goes down to get the loan agreement signed and witnessed and i would be happy with the situation as it is if the lady who is coming to get him is.

 

[skychick]

I think i am just panicking about everything because i am so upset to see him go even though i know its the best thing all round.

Thanks for replying

 

[eatonbraynat]

No problem, i guess at the end of the day you have to look at the horses best interests. He will benefit from being worked by his old owner and if she has time to do it now then IMO its better she comes and gets him asap. I know it is upsetting that things havent worked out as you would have liked ((((((hugs))))) but you are doing your best for him and that is all you can do

 

[Holly Hocks]

I think your horse will be fine. The person getting him knows all about him and his "quirks" so knows what to expect. I don't think your being there would necessarily make a difference.x

 

[skychick]

These are my thoughts exactly. He hasnt really done much for the last couple of weeks except the odd short hack or 25 mins in the school or being led out etc. So he is prob getting a bit bored etc. So he will benefit from some work with somone who understands him etc.
Thanks for your kind words, i really appreciate it as the whole thing has been very upsetting.
I feel awfull for mum having to be there as she is equally as upset but she suggested that it happened this way, as even tho my mum is not very horsey the person who is having him knows him way better than i do even as she had him for several years etc.

Also with the loan.....at least we can go and see him regularly and keep in touch with him.

 

[skychick]

I think your horse will be fine. The person getting him knows all about him and his "quirks" so knows what to expect. I don't think your being there would necessarily make a difference.x

Thank you for your reassurance. I feel like the worst horsey mum in the world at the mo! so hearing that him going without me there isnt the worst idea in the world is helping a bit to make me less

Thank you guys x