It's a bobber...

[MrsMozart]

When you do everything you believe to be right and yet it still all goes wrong.

My young ID is broken and can't be fixed. I'm afraid my clear thinking went after hearing the words along the lines of "major damage to the rear suspensories ", but the gist is a birth defect in his vertebrae (joint) - it's fused and the next joint along(?) has an issue.

Been here before with badly damaged rear suspensories with two other horses. Nothing to be done when there's an unfixable primary issue.

I swear the universe sends me horses that aren't right, knowing that I'll do my damndest for them.

 

[ester]

sometimes I think we should have an additional room for members with a succession of problematic beasts.

But yes, I do think sometimes they get sent to those who will try hardest for them.

 

[FestiveFuzz]

Oh lovely, so sorry to read this! Nothing useful to add, but my thoughts are with you xx

 

[MrsMozart]

Thank you folks.

You'd think by now I'd be hardened to this but nope. Can't stop the tears. Wish I could just crack on but he is the sweetest lad and I want to rant at the universe about how bloody unfair it is on him.

 

[Rowreach]

I am so sorry to hear this. I have been thinking about getting another horse, and then I run through all the things that have gone wrong with the previous ten and I really really can't do it again. Thinking of you xx

 

[Tiddlypom]

Oh no, Mrs M, how awful. Life can be so unfair.

 

[SEL]

sometimes I think we should have an additional room for members with a succession of problematic beasts.

But yes, I do think sometimes they get sent to those who will try hardest for them.

I'll have a seat in that room.....

Sorry Mrs M. It's heart breaking when you'd do anything to fix them but you just can't.

 

[ozpoz]

i'm so sorry to read this. I wish I could think of something helpful to say but sometimes there isn't anything. Hugs.

 

[Pearlsasinger]

I am so sorry to see this. It is awful when you just wish that you could do something.

 

[EventingMum]

I'm due a seat in that room too, I think the fittest of ours is the one who's retired. One of our's also has psd to add to his uveitis and headshaking issues. He's the sweetest horse imagineable and a year ago had no problems at all. You have my utmost sympathy Mrs M.

 

[MrsMozart]

Thank you. Stopped crying for now. Banging headache and still hope I'll wake up from it.

E - I'll have a wing chair in that room please, then I can hide in it and pretend I'm somewhere else.

R - if it's in your blood it's so hard to step away lass. Still have the others, though Grey Mare is under investigation as she's dropped weight, but she's twenty-three so something's expected with her.

Aye. I thought it was going to be injection to the sacroiliac and then the suspensories might come right or need a bit of help. I definitely wasn't expecting this.

 

[MrsMozart]

I think I should order a few of those chairs and maybe a couple of sofas for that room lass.

 

[Rowreach]

I think I should order a few of those chairs and maybe a couple of sofas for that room lass.

I think it could fill up quite quickly. I really am stopping. I have one pony left, he is 13 and been retired since he was six. Enough.

 

[Mari]

I’m also a member of this club. Am on horse number 4 now. Full investigation under way. Been here before! Hoping this time outcome will be different.

 

[MrsMozart]

R - know that feeling only too well.

M - I really hope all goes well for your horse (and you!).

 

[OldNag]

I am so sorry Mrs M.
Might need to join you depending on suspensory update scans next week. Bloody horses - why do we do this?! Argh.

 

[Dave's Mam]

So sorry Mrs M. Big hug.

 

[FestiveFuzz]

Thank you folks.

You'd think by now I'd be hardened to this but nope. Can't stop the tears. Wish I could just crack on but he is the sweetest lad and I want to rant at the universe about how bloody unfair it is on him.

I remember that feeling so well. I don't think you ever truly harden to it, just know you've done everything you can for him.

 

[vmac66]

So sorry. It's so hard when there's nothing else you can do. Sending you my sympathy and a hug

 

[Inda]

I'm really sorry for you. It's rotten when you get an animal and there's a congenital defect you couldn't have predicted or seen. I suspect my dog has the same issue, a sacralised lumbar vertebrae?

I know a ridden horse and dog are different but since diagnosis and we've started correct treatment she's moving normally, she used to track wrong and was plain nasty to people. She's now a soppy lump that can outrun most dogs.

 

[Remi'sMum]

So sorry to read this. Sending hugs.

The problem is, is it’s a vicious (virtuous, maybe? if you’re brave enough to see it that way) cycle, if you’re a certain type of person. You have one that breaks, you go through the process of investigations and work ups, you learn along the way. You have another, what you learnt before alerts you to small signs you otherwise might not have noticed. You’re that certain type of person that won’t ignore those signs. You go through the process again, you learn more.. and so it repeats.

I sometimes wish I could be one of those that trundles along in blissful ignorance of the subtle lameness, subtle behavioural issues etc. But I’m not.

The room is not a room for those damned with broken horses. It’s a room for those blessed with knowledge and with the guts/strength to act on it for the best outcome for our lovely animals.... but I’ll have a seat in there too, please, and agree that it totally and utterly sucks 😥

Sending more hugs MrsM x

 

[blitznbobs]

3 ... the number of overly expensive lawnmowers I have at the moment. 1 the number of horses that actually can do some work. Does this qualify me for a seat?

 

[dibbin]

Oh MrsM, I'm so sorry. Poor lad (and poor you) xxx

 

[gryff]

So sorry to read this. Sending hugs.

The problem is, is it’s a vicious (virtuous, maybe? if you’re brave enough to see it that way) cycle, if you’re a certain type of person. You have one that breaks, you go through the process of investigations and work ups, you learn along the way. You have another, what you learnt before alerts you to small signs you otherwise might not have noticed. You’re that certain type of person that won’t ignore those signs. You go through the process again, you learn more.. and so it repeats.

I sometimes wish I could be one of those that trundles along in blissful ignorance of the subtle lameness, subtle behavioural issues etc. But I’m not.

This, in bucket fills. So, so true.

I'm sorry. These things always seem to happen to the nicest people.

 

[Midlifecrisis]

Truly sorry to hear this news. I think you are entitled to rage at the universe...and he is a lucky boy to have you as an owner who cares enough to investigate and discover the problem. There is a place in heaven for you mrs m.

 

[Michen]

This sums it up beautifully.

So sorry to read this. Sending hugs.

The problem is, is it’s a vicious (virtuous, maybe? if you’re brave enough to see it that way) cycle, if you’re a certain type of person. You have one that breaks, you go through the process of investigations and work ups, you learn along the way. You have another, what you learnt before alerts you to small signs you otherwise might not have noticed. You’re that certain type of person that won’t ignore those signs. You go through the process again, you learn more.. and so it repeats.

I sometimes wish I could be one of those that trundles along in blissful ignorance of the subtle lameness, subtle behavioural issues etc. But I’m not.

The room is not a room for those damned with broken horses. It’s a room for those blessed with knowledge and with the guts/strength to act on it for the best outcome for our lovely animals.... but I’ll have a seat in there too, please, and agree that it totally and utterly sucks 😥

Sending more hugs MrsM x

 

[Rowreach]

So sorry to read this. Sending hugs.

The problem is, is it’s a vicious (virtuous, maybe? if you’re brave enough to see it that way) cycle, if you’re a certain type of person. You have one that breaks, you go through the process of investigations and work ups, you learn along the way. You have another, what you learnt before alerts you to small signs you otherwise might not have noticed. You’re that certain type of person that won’t ignore those signs. You go through the process again, you learn more.. and so it repeats.

I sometimes wish I could be one of those that trundles along in blissful ignorance of the subtle lameness, subtle behavioural issues etc. But I’m not.

The room is not a room for those damned with broken horses. It’s a room for those blessed with knowledge and with the guts/strength to act on it for the best outcome for our lovely animals.... but I’ll have a seat in there too, please, and agree that it totally and utterly sucks ��

Sending more hugs MrsM x

This is it.

 

[Bernster]

Very nicely put remi’smum. Very sad situation.

 

[BBP]

So sorry to read this. Sending hugs.

The problem is, is it’s a vicious (virtuous, maybe? if you’re brave enough to see it that way) cycle, if you’re a certain type of person. You have one that breaks, you go through the process of investigations and work ups, you learn along the way. You have another, what you learnt before alerts you to small signs you otherwise might not have noticed. You’re that certain type of person that won’t ignore those signs. You go through the process again, you learn more.. and so it repeats.

I sometimes wish I could be one of those that trundles along in blissful ignorance of the subtle lameness, subtle behavioural issues etc. But I’m not.

The room is not a room for those damned with broken horses. It’s a room for those blessed with knowledge and with the guts/strength to act on it for the best outcome for our lovely animals.... but I’ll have a seat in there too, please, and agree that it totally and utterly sucks 😥

Sending more hugs MrsM x

This is all so very true. But such rotten luck for you, I really am sorry. You’ll be aware of the BBP’s colourful and extensive Vet history, it doesn’t always feel fair. I’m lucky so far in that he is a very happy horse now (even with a fracture) and I am happy just being around him, even if I don’t get to ride. I just love his bright electric energy, it never fails to make me smile seeing his tightly pricked ears and bright shiny expression every morning. But I long ago gave up my ambitions for the two of us and just accept what I have.

Huge huge hugs (I’m not a hugger but seems like you could do with some, so virtual ones I can manage).

 

[MrsMozart]

Thank you all.

R-M - wise and oddly comforting words, thank you.

G, M - I don't think I am and I'm not sure there will be but thank you.

Woken after bobball sleep with innards tied in knots (joys of IBS and sadness and stress). Was Googling till the wee hours in case there was a hopeful nugget of info somewhere.

It's been a really rubbish year.

ON - all my bits are crossed lass.

BnB - it's a bobber for sure. Have four and it's the bog-off coblet who is, technically, rideable and who has, at the moment at least, a long and fun life ahead of him. He's with D1 so I'm sort of down to none.