Its difficult to share...

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As most of you know I have been part loaning a gorgeous pony for two years now. Its becoming increasingly hard to 'share' as I become more attached to him and am bringing him on considerably. His owner has put the costs up this month and has been forgetting to leave tack etc and feeding them late..... Its starting to really grate on me since I pay and am kept waiting for tack for up to an hour or that he hasn't been fed at 12pm! I work so don't have time to be waiting around.

I want to ask for him on full loan or if she'd consider selling him, but I know she'd ask 5k plus for him (although a lot of that value has been from me doing RC activities and dressage with him). I really need a kick up the backside to ask her!

Anyone else have problems with sharing or find it hard?
 
Well you don't get unless you ask, sounds like you have put a lot of work into the horse so really your fully entitled to ask without feeling cheeky or uneasy about it and explain that the horse has come on since you have been riding him/her.

You never they might agree, if not well at least you have asked.
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You really to discuss the whole tack and feeding issues, what do you mean by not being fed up to 12pm?
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and ideally you should both have access to the tack when ever you choose to ride, can you not communicate better with each other?
 

This is the downside of getting involved with a horse that doesn't belong to you
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I'd never share, loan or even get involved on a long-term basis with someone elses horse now due to previous experience
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It's not worth the potential heartache and knowing of course, that there's absoutely nothing you can do about it.

Anyway in regards to this horse, ask her to sell and see what she says..you never know
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I've been finding it difficult recently i have to admit, only past couple of weeks. Tbh i've owned my own in past so knew sharing would be difficult for me as i'm so used to donig what i want/when i want.

When i found my share horse i was ecstatic, still am, him and his owner are lovely and i love them both. However, just the past couple of weeks i've just felt a bit fed up- like fed up of constantly having to ask if i can do stuff. I LOVE jumping, it's all i used to do on my old pony, but haven't done any really on share horse cos 1. i'm scared of breaking him (even though i have insurance but still) and also because the owner said that she doesn't really want him jumped too much, i can jump him but not big ones (and im not sure what she classes as big as he's a cob!) So whilst my dressage has come on leaps and bounds, my jumping isn't much improving.

Sharing was only meant to be a short- term solution until i finished uni and got a permanant job to be able to afford to keep my own (have some money still from 21st b.day and savings that could get me what i want i think)

Meh, lol maybe im just having a bad week, in fact i am, i love my share horse more than anything and am really enjoying him, i should be very grateful. BUT, i still cannot wait until i can afford to get my own again.

If the owner's not turning up when she said she would and it keeps happening then i'd be having a word, it's not fair that you're left standing around!
 
Thanks Kenzo, I will have a word if she is around tomorrow about full loan with a view to buying as he is a super pony and I have put a lot of time and money into him whereas she rarely rides him. Where she keeps the horses doesn't have a tack room so she keeps the tack 5 mins away at her house. I offer to pick it up on my way in but she prefers to drop it off in the morning at the yard, leave it in the spare stable and lock it in there. The problem is she often forgets to leave it despite the fact I have been riding on the same days for 2 years! If I ring her she normally brings it as soon as she can but thats not the point. Often its 11.30am when I get there and they haven't been fed or looked at yet let alone the tack been left. I appreciate that she is a busy mum but I think the management needs to be better really. Its my own fault I've put up with it for a few months now so I think I'm going to need to say something politely about the tack situation. Trouble is she is a lovely person, just got too many things on her plate.

I need to just save I buy my own but I'm so attached to the little devil!!!
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Sharing was only meant to be a short- term solution until i finished uni and got a permanant job to be able to afford to keep my own


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As it was for me whilst I was in my final year at uni! Two years on and I only have 1k or so saved
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I think I'm just awful at saving (probably due to the fact I keep taking loan pony to events all the time!) :
 
I share and the owners are lovely and even let me keep a pony with them rent free but it always a compromise with something and often feel I can't do right for doing wrong! I have ups and downs with it, I've often been ranting to OH that I've had enough (like being told to clean the brushes as someone else was coming to ride!) but then other times it runs really well and we all get on great.

At the end of the day she's a lovely horse and I can't manage my own full time at the moment so I try to keep it in prospective.....although that's sometimes easier said than done!
 
I have just part loaned my boy Today I have loaned in the past and as far as am concerned they are paying for the horse so leave them to it as long as the horse is looked after I wont interfear. They are doing me a favour as am spending a fortune on full livery and he will get lots more attention which is a bonus I would like to think I would never lord it over my sharer. Or make them feel uncomfy
 
If she rarely rides could you not keep the tack and leave it for her if she wants to ride? She might be relieved to full loan if she's really busy as long as she knows she can keep in touch?
 
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