I've not stopped crying practically all wkend...

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I'm getting fed up of myself now I keep crying cos I am missing having Merlin around and because I do not have another horse as yet to fill this empty gap (I am working on this) I have a good ball every now and then but quickly snap out of it, but for some reason this weekend has been terrible, last night I just broke down and again today.

I really need to get a grip and get on with things, and I do try my hardest I think it's because he was taken from me so suddenly he was such a well loved horse and I did anything for him, even stayed the night at the yard with him when he was ill before.

I would've thought I would be OK by now surely, I am even getting sick of myself lol.... :/

I will probably be fine once I get the new horse and can concentrate on him/her....

Please do not think I am after any self pity or sympathy I just need a great big swift boot up the behind and get a grip....

Sorry for the indulgence.....please help yourself to a Galaxy hot choc...i'm out of squirty cream though sorry :(.....lol
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. Just let it all out, your allowed to loosing a horse is like loosing a family member especially one very close to you.

If I was you, I'd get some Ben and Jerry's, chocolate, a nice warm blanket and some films and just chill in front of the tv and let it all out.

Best of luck finding a new horse, it has really helped me :)
 
I know what it's like to loose a horse and it can take a very long time to get over a loss sometimes.

Are you looking for another one yet? I honestly believe that will help you and give you a new friend to focus on. You will have to make sure though that any new horse you have, you don't make the mistake of constantly trying to compare it to your old one.

It will soon be spring and on a lighter note, If I were you I would make the most of not having a horse at the moment and enjoy doing something else for a while. Chin up x
 
Come on, pull yourself together! Your old boy wouldn't have wanted to see you moping around!

Is there anything out there that you can ride to keep you ocupied?

Sorry - sometimes a kick up the arris is what you need
 
Hugs Sweetie!! I know it must be hard to look forward when you have nothing to look at but that should soon be changing as I recall? How you getting on with that gorgeous gelding you were looking at the other day?

***hugs and kick to snap you out of it*** :D

Pm me if you need a chat
 
Awww, bless ya heart. xxx Just feel what you feel its called grief and is normal. If you didnt feel that way it wouldnt have meant much all those years would it? It will pass and you will have wonderful memories to treasure forever. xxx
 
Hun there is no time limit on how long we grieve for a loved horse - if you want tocry just cry but also think of the good memories that you have and hey if you cry again it doesnt matter - it just shows youre are human hun and slowly the tears will dry but let time take its course - big big big hugs to you xxxxx
 
sorry to hear of your loss :(

i think you should just try to keep busy by doing things, shopping (maybe not so good for the bank balance, lol), sports, hobbies seeing friends.

Maybe you could go and help at a local yard or riding schools? They are always keen for helpers and they will keep you busy and it might help you to grieve by playing with some other horseys!

I hope you find another horse soon so you have something to focus on.
 
Its been eleven months for me, but I still have those down days. Dont worry about it, its perfectly natural, you are grieving. Be kind to yourself, and give your feelings permission to be there. (My God, I sound like my counsellor there!) There is no right or wrong ways to get through this, I find it much easier to let myself cry when I am feeling like this, if I try to bottle it up and pretend I am ok, those down days last much longer. Take care hon. xx
 
Thanks for the kind words, I should be well over it by now as it was over a year... doh! :(

I am focusing on getting my new noble steed and hoping that the 2nd viewing/trying out goes well and I can then arrange for horse to come home with me. (all being well).

I hope the next thread I put on here is of a much happier one and I am bouncing all over the place coz boy I am looking forward to it... lol :) :) :)
 
Awww, bless you! but don't worry you'll soon get back on your feet , as for the new horsey , have you tryed:
horse quest
adtrader
pony club websites
horse and hound
horse and rider UK
I hope these websites help xxhugsxx:)
 
Oh Hun heres a hug, i dont know what to say as im griefstricken too at the mo losing my baby Kitten as you know which is all still very raw...i hope your feeling better and goodluck for the second viewing, nothing will replace Merlin but another horse will certainly act as therapy and you will form a special bond with another horsey sharing your life. K xxx
 
It's perfectly Ok to be upset. Normal in fact.

Could you do something for others eg volunteer for RDA or volunteer for something non-horsey to give you a purpose/meet more people Meeting more 'other' may find you meet that vital someone who knows someone who has that horse that needs riding.
 
I've cried every day since June 22nd last year. I felt like I needed a kick up the @rse too, and was getting really worried that I hadn't "snapped out of it", until I read a thread on here around Christmas time (sorry can't remember title or who's it was, maybe Koko's?). Someone else asking the same thing, was it normal to be feeling like this. Thanks to everyone on here who commented, I now feel that I AM normal, that I'm grieving, and that it'll take time. Nobody can say how much time, we're all different. It's ok to cry and it's ok to miss them like crazy. Don't fight it because you'll just feel worse like I did.

Take your time.

xxx
 
As many others have posted here - there's no time limit to mourning. It most definately is Mourning - and neither are you soft or silly for so doing - as you can see - I am a rather large hairy bloke ( older and greyer now than the avatar) and very rational in every other way except suffering physical pain when "she" went. I don't think the pain ever goes in people that feel it, time dilutes it but it certainly doesn't make it go away.

I decided not to buy another horse - there certainly couldn't be a "replacement" and the thought of another lot of emotional turmoil when I'd be that much older too was the end, my boots were hung up.

I found several friendly sorts "helpful" in this respect as they offered me rides and even loans which for one reason and another all failed to materialise as feedroom promises often do. I still have the odd moment - when I can't look at Snaffles "Finest View in Europe" and the little piccy just inside this week's issue almost did it too!

Here we go - happy days:-
http://www.worldgallery.co.uk/art-print/The-Finest-View-In-Europe-108994.html
 
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Thanks again everyone I was just being a daft old boot lol I am feeling so much better now nice to know I am not going nuts...well not yet anyway lol. :D

I actually can't wait to get myself another horse to 'play' with :)
 
Arrrhh bless, I lost my old horse nearly 9 years ago and a few weeks ago dreamt of him galloping around a field, it was very real - I woke up and burst into tears - not a day goes by when I dont think of him but once in a blue moon something hits me and I shed a tear...

Even now I am welling up..

You dont need a kick up the ****, you just lost someone that was very dear to you

xx
 
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