Jealous partners? Anyone elses OH feel they are put after the horse?

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My boyfriend is moaning pretty much 24/7 about my horse at the moment, he says he is not jealous of him what do you guys think?? He said mickey is put first and is not main proiririty ( sorry bad spelling writing this quickly before he comes home!!) he moans when mickey gets new things, comments that he doesnt get presents, he moans when i worry about mickeys diet/ health etc and comments his only a horse etc... he also moans about the amount of money i spend on him ( its my money by the way!! ) he moans about taking us to shows when his there even though he ways fine about it when i asked him 2 weeks before hand ( i do bribe him with bacon butties and cakes ) he is quite supportive by taking me to the shows and occasional trips up the yard its just the moaning and the sideways looks he gives his competitior in the man stakes ( mickey) Does anyone else have a man like this?? How do you keep these man happy and not put there noses out of joint?
 
Tell him to grow up, horse was here first. What is he going to be like if you ever have a kid? Because he will definitely never get a look in then! LOL but maybe I'm not the best person to ask I am single!
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Oh, I've had this problem.....one of my ex's said that if we moved in together and got into any problems with the mortgage, the horse would be the first thing to go........I got out of that relationship pdq!!

But it seems to me that all men are the same at least all the ones i've ever met......much prefer my horse!!
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sounds like my OH...... I got over it my not asking him to take me anywhere or come with me or have anything to do with the horses....in return I don't winge when he buys the expensive new toy for his hobby ( astronomy). However it is a little bazaar as he does ask how the horses are going and seems to have a better insight into them than I do!
 
Whats wrong with these insecure men !

Soon after we married I bought my wife a horse and have continued to buy her more ( she now events 7 up to 2 star )

I cook , ( she has not cooked a meal in 12 years ) I drive the lorry , put studs in walk horses off bla bla

In return I never get any grief if I want to do anything ( like go to Badminton ) or go to the pub , I get to look at gorgeous females all day when we are out competing

If she is happy I am happy, its all about partnership , tell him to get a life , grow up and stop being so insecure.
 
Well said - this is why my OH No 3 is to stay - he never complains about horses costs, went out and got his own horse and knows I will come home when I am hungry.

He doesn't do shows - hates showing but will come and watch other types of events. That said, he gets the trailer out for me and puts it back and makes sure all is ready to go.

Personally OP, if he is like this now - start looking for a better model.
 
Hee hee!! I have this problem too! Oh says that he is 5th on the list
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Horse
Dog
Cat
My Mum
OH!!!

I just laugh at him and tell him to behave
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!! The other argument I use is that the first three rely on me for their survival....he's old enough and ugly enough to look after himself
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!!! He's coming along quite nicely as a groom at events, he loves parading around in his 'unpaid groom' jersey
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, I also bribe with bacon butties but never 'need' him to come with me so he's always free to go and play golf instread....perhaps you should encourage your otherhalf to take up a time consuming hobby then you can spend time with Mickey without the guilt
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This is EXACTLY why I'm single atm!

Previous bf told me that I loved my horse more than him....turned round and told him it was true and walked out.....not seen him since (although we had only been together about 4 months so not totally attached!)

Sorry no help to you
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At least your partner wants to be with you!! So many of my friends have men who never take an interest in what they do, couldnt care less what they were up too and dissapear off with their mates to chat up other girls at the first opportunity.

My bf can be a bit like yours and is a little jealous of my horse BUT like yours he comes to shows and the yard. He holds my excited girl and walks her round 4 hours while i walk the course twice and then insist on watching half a dozen others. He puts up with my nervous sniping. Hes put up with my tantrums when things go wrong and my incessent chattering and 'isnt she amazing' when things go right. He poo picks my field and even has taken riding lessons so one day we can go for a hack together. So when he has those days when he says 'wot about me', 'why dont i come first' i'll put off my hack/show/cuddle time with my horse and give him the attention he deserves instead
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sounds like the green eyed monster
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My hubby used to moan, but has given up, well mostly. He has seen my horse probably 3 times in 4 years. Suits me, i think it's healthy that we have our own interests. his is motorbikes and the gym.
He also has no idea what i buy or what it costs. Never asks, so i don't tell him.
He also works out of the country for quite a chunk of the year.
all in all, the perfect relationship
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My OH is fine, I was in love with horses long before him, since I could form thoughts even, so no point trying to compete, lol. Funnily enough, a friend on my yard was saying her OH was complaining abot us going to a ODE on Satuday, whih means she won't be with him. My answer was tell him to shove that thought where the sun don't shine. I said he could be with you, he coud be supporting you at the event and out in the fresh air. What's more annoying is we're on between 9 and 10.15 so should be back on the yard around midday The horses are out 24/7 so shouldn't take to long to sort them out and turn out she could be over his house at 2, FGS.
Then she said he'll probably be playing his new Grand Theft Auto anyway, so I said exactly, men whinge about us not being there but what do we do when we are? Post on HHO while they play their video games, lol!
 
As I share Ellie I tend to ride during the week but when she does shows at the local RC I go to support (not confident enough to compete yet). When OH is at home in the week - which admittedly isn't often - I spend the morning with him and go riding in the afternoon.

A successful relationship is about compromise. Mind you it took me and OH quite a few years to work out a compromise we were both happy with
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tell him to grow up, my ex was like this and thats why hes an ex!

my OH is great. He leaves me to do the horses, isnt bother about how long I stay with them, never pesters me when im there, and most of all, he knows they were here before him so he knows that hes got to accept them.
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Weirdly, my OH complained about it until he saw Eight Belles break her legs on the TV. Then he sent me a text saying how heartbreaking it was & to make sure I look after my boy.

I thought that was really sweet, though I am lucky as my OH works in the UAE so can't complain too much! In fact, it is because he is there that I got back into riding! I always tell him he should be grateful that I got a man with 4 legs rather than 2!!!
 
I'm in the same sort of situation, my other half cant understand that my boy is more than 'just a horse' he says i put him first (funnily enough when he badly cut his leg errr yes i did!!) and even though he says he isnt jealous i think he is. I dont spend that much time at the yard as it is...
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Do you think though that 'horsey' people just understand (hence the tell them to grow up responses - which i do agree with!) whereas non horsey people just dont get it!?
 
To be honest, I am not sure what my boyfriend REALLY thinks of mine but he lets me get on with it, doesn't moan about the time I spend with them (after all, they were here first!) and does help out with them and maintaining the field etc. He drives me to get my horse food, he doesn't like that much, and I know he begrudges how much they cost. Despite that, he would never ask me to get rid of them, unless of course we were on the verge on bankruptcy!
 
My OH is definietly jealous, he just can't understand that looking after and riding a horse takes time. I do try to keep it to a minimum at times, but then i think why should i? Its my relaxation and hobby and mid life crisis - better than clubbing it every friday!!!
 
My OH never complains about me going to the yard, but then thats probably because it doesn't really affect him that much as during the week he is at work when i go to the yard !
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makes me think how lucky I am, We have two horses between us and my other half totally understands how much the boys mean to me, treated me to a trailer and changed his car to a 4x4 so if we go to shows and need extra room etc he can help out, mucks out can be self sufficiant at the yard well had to be when youngester broke two of my ribs a while ago, and although he owns one of the boys he cannot ride nor has no want to ride and totaly lets me get on with it, very supportive and understanding, so glad i have agreeded to marry him.

as for OH who are insecure, i dont uderstand it to be honest my ex is an ex for a reason you cannot and should not change who you are for anyone else, compromise yes change no if they cannot accept your hobby and interest then are they the right one
 
My hubby jokes about my obsession with Tobago, but in a nice way - I don't think he feels at all threatened or insecure.

He happily drives me to the stud to visit Tobago (I can't drive) and will sit patiently reading a book in the car, or at a nearby pub, while I play with my horse and chat with the YO/staff, etc.

He's not horsey, and his eyes glaze over after about 3 minutes of horse-talk, so I don't bore him with details. But he loves all animals, and has finally learnt to be quiet/calm/slow around Tobago, so he doesn't keep accidentally spooking or over-exciting him any more. He's even learnt how to do neck-scratches, bless him.

In return, I never, ever complain about the time he spends on any of his own interests and hobbies.
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