Just need to rant - childish OH?

[Lucky Snowball]

OH has always been keen to grab handfulls of food and feed horses over their doors. I've asked nicely and explained about diet etc but all to no avail. To keep the peace as he tends to sulk - I turn a blind eye to carrots - though it makes me mad that they whicker when the feed room door opens. Anyway, now he's started giving his left over lunch to the dog. Doggy has started to beg for food and also had a poorly tummy the other day. I stated that he was to stop feeding my animals. Now he's stormed off and says he'll eat in the car on his own. Not seen him since! Childish or what?

 

[ycbm]

To keep the peace as he tends to sulk

This is not a description of a healthy relationship. Are you sure you want to be in it?

 

[Barton Bounty]

Explain my story of COLIC. When my FRIEND fed my horse bread when she knew he was allergic to soya.. but THOUGHT HE WOULD BE FINE AS IT WAS ONLY A COUPLE OF TIMES He wasnt he nearly died and cost £3000 !!!

 

[PurBee]

Yep, childish. I couldnt cope with such actions or reactions from an adult!

 

[Spotherisk]

He sounds like a right tool tbh.

 

[BSL2]

How old is your other half.?

 

[AShetlandBitMeOnce]

How old is your other half.?

Unless he's under 6yo, it doesn't excuse the behaviour!

 

[scats]

Yeh I’m afraid I couldn’t put up with that level of sulking. You’ve explained why feeding the animals isn’t ok and he ignores you and continues to do it… I’ve got no time for that kind of person.

 

[Denali]

Yeah….. I would sit back and evaluate the relationship because there are probably more instances where your wants, needs etc. are disregarded. I think you held firm because it’s the animals.

My moms ex would feed handfuls of nuts to my horse when a handful of ration balancer is all she got. Looking back, she really didn’t respect my boundaries nor did she respect my brothers. My mom knew this and ultimately it led to their breaking up despite my mom saying she’s the love of her life.

I cannot imagine how much that hurt my mom, but at the end of the day she unselfishly made the right choice.

 

[Lucky Snowball]

Explain my story of COLIC. When my FRIEND fed my horse bread when she knew he was allergic to soya.. but THOUGHT HE WOULD BE FINE AS IT WAS ONLY A COUPLE OF TIMES He wasnt he nearly died and cost £3000 !!!

So sorry to read this. Glad your horse was ok.

How old is your other half.?

mid 60s !!!

 

[BSL2]

Unless he's under 6yo, it doesn't excuse the behaviour!

Agree, but I like facts. Is he a 16 year old or a forty year old?. My answer would be different.

 

[Tiddlypom]

Well, his behaviour is unacceptable. How long have you been together?

 

[JBM]

I’d skin him alive
Me and my bf both own our dog and he STILL asks if it’s alright to feed him things before he does
I cannot imagine putting up with this behaviour

 

[Spotherisk]

Mid 60’s, hmm, is this a new thing? Could it be the beginnings of dementia?

 

[McFluff]

Your rant is justified.

Only you know if you can cope with sulking as a response. As mentioned above, if this is new behaviour (the sulking) then maybe sign of bigger issues. Hope you are ok.

 

[luckyoldme]

The kindest thing to do would be PTS.

 

[Lucky Snowball]

Thank you all for your kind replies. We've been together for over 20 years but never lived together - guess you can see why! Dementia - I have to admit I'd not thought about that, I will monitor. He has always been sulky, goes home then appears again sometime later. Takes all sorts but thank you for confirming that I'm not being unreasonable.

 

[Denali]

Thank you all for your kind replies. We've been together for over 20 years but never lived together - guess you can see why! Dementia - I have to admit I'd not thought about that, I will monitor. He has always been sulky, goes home then appears again sometime later. Takes all sorts but thank you for confirming that I'm not being unreasonable.

I’ll speak for myself but I am here and I’d being willing to bet I’m not alone.