Just to get an idea incase worst comes to worst

[Overgrown Pony]

Hey guys

Some of you might remember the post I did a few weeks back about me trying for a baby and my beloved horse having to go once I fall pregnant. Well i'm still not 100% sure on what to do. I've been putting out my feelers for a loan home with friends and that will hopefully be a possibility.

If worst comes to worst and he has to go to someone else how much do you think I should advertise him for?

17.2hh rising 8 year old gelding (in siggy). Loads of presence. Fantastic to do in everyway. Done everything in the past year; cross country, showjumping, dressage, working hunter, endurance. Training with riding club every week. Total gent out hunting. Goes first or last. Bold but steady. Snaffle mouth. Great to hack out alone or in company. Good in traffic and around farm machinery. Will happily live in or out. Good to shoe, load, catch. Personality to die for, absolute honey

 

[Bozzy]

No idea on price, especially in the current climate but he looks and sounds fab, really hope you manage to loan him out instead of having to sell, good luck

 

[AmyMay]

Why does a horse need to go once it looks like a baby is comming on the seen??

 

[3BayGeldings]

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Why does a horse need to go once it looks like a baby is comming on the seen??

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Lack of time and money perhaps..?

 

[lilylotus]

Indeed. Babies are more expensive than you can ever imagine and as for time, there is none left when you have one. Thank god I only know that because my sister has them!! Not for me thanks!

 

[Kayfm]

keep the horse it will be cheaper !!!!!! xx my children cost a fortune !

 

[sarah23]

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Indeed. Babies are more expensive than you can ever imagine and as for time, there is none left when you have one. Thank god I only know that because my sister has them!! Not for me thanks!

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Sorry but that's rubbish. I have 3 kids all under 8 and 4 horses. I don't have a fancy well paid job and my hubby does not help me out with the cost of the horses (I want them i pay for them is his motto). Yes it's hard work sometimes, but it is possible.

 

[Firehorse]

i'm a single mum, with 2 kids and a pony. plus other animals. i run a small business when the kids are at school or away with their dad every other weekend. its tough, but i cudnt be without a pony. i sacrifice things like nights out, hairdressing appointments or holidays away, but TBH, a pony is more important and satisfying to me than those things. we make ends meet, just! and i pray that i never need to fork out a huge vet bill, coz that wud cripple me.

its a case of keeping it in the balance. dont sell you horse if you dont absolutely need to, you'll regret it once your baby has gone to school!

 

[Hippona]

OP explained in her original thread that OH has a condition that when she becomes pregnant....horsey must go because he doesnt see why he should pay for said horsey whilst OP is on maternity leave etc.......opened up a whole can of worms as you can imagine...general gist was keep the hoss, bin the bloke!

But thats easy for us to say I spose....

PS 1Kimmy....your horse is gorgeous, sadly I have no idea how much.....if I didnt have 3 already I could be persuaded to take him off your hands for a couple of years.....

 

[scotsmare]

Kim is there no one on your yard that will take him on loan for a year or so? I'll keep my ears open for you - try advertising him on Gordon Dressage Group and the Riding Clubs websites

 

[AmyMay]

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OP explained in her original thread that OH has a condition that when she becomes pregnant....horsey must go because he doesnt see why he should pay for said horsey whilst OP is on maternity leave etc.......opened up a whole can of worms as you can imagine...general gist was keep the hoss, bin the bloke

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[AmyMay]

Kimmy, just been reading your other post. Why is it ok for your OH to dictate that the horse should be sold if and when you become pregnant?? Has he also told you that you will no longer be able to see friends and family as well?

Having children is a joint decision - not about one person dictating how life should continue thereafter.

Please re- think your situation very, very carefully. This is about control - and it is not a nice way to live ones life.

I'm assume that your OH will be very happy for you to be doing the washing, ironing, cleaning and childcare whilst you're on maternity leave?

 

[Overgrown Pony]

Hey guys

This seems to be getting everyone reved up

Yes my OH is adament that my horse has to go when/if I become pregnent. Reasons are the money side of things, the time and also the fact that I have health issues which leave me more susseptible to miscarriage so I can't/won't ride at all once pregnant.

To be honest I agree with him on all parts, only problem is that I am absolutely besotted with my horse. I'm expecting my baby to take over on the list of priorities once i'm pregnant and that it'll be easier to say bye to my horse. I am considering loaning him out, but i'm really fussy over who rides him. Basically I only let my sharer ride him and that's cause needs must. I'd be so worried that the loanee spoilt him then I have to start him all over again when I get him back. Then again he could go to someone and have a whale of a time and gain fantastic experience.

 

[Bozzy]

Blimey, everyone's being a bit harsh!! It's the OP's decision as well as her OH's as to whether or not they can afford to/have the time to keep her horse.

Kimmy, I'm with you on this one, though I'm currently horseless having sold my boy last year, I definitely couldn't afford to have a baby (with a year off work) and have a horse. And OH couldn't afford to pay for it as well as the mortgage, bills etc!

The ideal situation (if I were in your shoes!) would be to loan out neddy, take a year (or 2 inc pregnancy) to enjoy bubba and re-evaluate your situation then. There are plenty of fab people looking for a loan horse to love and enjoy, you have plenty of time to look for the perfect home and most loaners are more than happy to keep in touch and give regular updates

 

[Overgrown Pony]

Cheers Bozzy

I like to hear everyones opinions on things. It's good to talk/type

You're right that there are plenty good loanees out there. I'll start to put my feelers out and see what the interest is.

 

[Hippona]

I think you will have no problems loaning out your gorgeous boy.....and if you want to sell at a later date, then you still can.

Good luck, hope everything works itself out x