Leaving a yard

[eahotson]

Want to leave current yard.Feel bad as actually I like yard owner quite a lot but it is not a yard that suits me as I need more help than they have the time to give.A few years ago I would have been fine there.Its not a conventional yard but a dealership with a few liveries.I can move to the yard where my old boy is on retirement livery.
It also runs a full livery service and has excellent facilities including an indoor.I am getting old and need this now.The staff I have met over the last couple of years strike me as very competent and also friendly.My old boy is very well looked after.
I just feel so bad though and find it quite stressful.Must be old age I think.Support needed.

 

[The Xmas Furry]

Going from other posts, I'd ensure new yard could take you in v short timeframe in case current yo changes into yo from hell when you hand notice in.
Try and leave on good terms tho. Good luck, sounds like a sensible move

 

[eahotson]

Thank you.

 

[Rowreach]

If you get on with the current YO then try not to worry. It sounds like a professional sort of set up and I'm sure they've had the same thoughts as you, and will totally get why you're leaving.

I moved yards last May, for decent hacking mainly. When I explained to the YO she was lovely, completely understood, and the next time she saw my current YO told her she was very happy for me. Previous YO's husband cried when he heard I was leaving

 

[eahotson]

Thank you.

 

[Mfh999]

You can always keep in touch, perhaps either make time for a coffee or take in a box of choc's sometimes so they don't think you've ditched them. I always have old liveries either popping in for a cuppa or FB chats; it's great to have a catch up and hear how they're doing and it is appreciated that they keep in touch too.

 

[MuddyMonster]

Livery is essentially business a transaction. If the service is no longer working for you, you wouldn't keep buying any other goods or services, so there's nothing to feel guilty about.

Just thank the YO and explain your needs have now changed.

Good luck with the move!

 

[eahotson]

Livery is essentially business a transaction. If the service is no longer working for you, you wouldn't keep buying any other goods or services, so there's nothing to feel guilty about.

Just thank the YO and explain your needs have now changed.

Good luck with the move!

Thank you.

 

[Pearlsacarolsinger]

I'm sure your YO will have noticed that what they can provide is no longer suitable for you, just thank them very much for all that they have done for you and explain, as you have done here, that you need to be able to access more support as you get older.

 

[ycbm]

I saw them advertising last week, and that's a very sound move.
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[Bobthecob15]

Well console yourself you are not at our yard!! A few of us have just given notice at ours due to lots of issues with the management of the place and general cluelessness of the owners. They have been disinterested for months and we are clearly too much effort for them (full livery yard)… they keep imposing stupid rules, the most frustrating is no entry until 10am! Fencing is also dire and our horses keep getting injured on them and losing shoes (mine lost 5 in the last 3 months, all of them have been on the poorly maintained wire fence!).

Anyway we gave notice and it’s been a nightmare since, they have been harassing us since, trying to get people to change their minds by making excuses for their poor management and basically ambushing people on their own. It’s horrible and I cannot wait to go! They have successfully bullied one person into staying…offering incentives such as extra bedding (we currently get about 2 inches on a good day) it’s pathetic. We now go up in pairs so we are not alone with them…it’s awful. My daughter is getting super wound up by the environment now and we are counting down the days! Going a week early as I can’t stand it!

I swear yards should have some sort of minimum standard because the stress they can cause by poor management is unbelievable!!!

 

[cauda equina]

Well console yourself you are not at our yard!! A few of us have just given notice at ours due to lots of issues with the management of the place and general cluelessness of the owners. They have been disinterested for months and we are clearly too much effort for them (full livery yard)… they keep imposing stupid rules, the most frustrating is no entry until 10am! Fencing is also dire and our horses keep getting injured on them and losing shoes (mine lost 5 in the last 3 months, all of them have been on the poorly maintained wire fence!).

Anyway we gave notice and it’s been a nightmare since, they have been harassing us since, trying to get people to change their minds by making excuses for their poor management and basically ambushing people on their own. It’s horrible and I cannot wait to go! They have successfully bullied one person into staying…offering incentives such as extra bedding (we currently get about 2 inches on a good day) it’s pathetic. We now go up in pairs so we are not alone with them…it’s awful. My daughter is getting super wound up by the environment now and we are counting down the days! Going a week early as I can’t stand it!

I swear yards should have some sort of minimum standard because the stress they can cause by poor management is unbelievable!!!

Gosh, that's so weird!
If they are worried about losing clients you'd think they'd be super-nice to anyone leaving, then you'd be more likely to recommend them to anyone else who was looking
Also it's generally better to be a decent human than a d!ck

 

[Bobthecob15]

Gosh, that's so weird!
If they are worried about losing clients you'd think they'd be super-nice to anyone leaving, then you'd be more likely to recommend them to anyone else who was looking
Also it's generally better to be a decent human than a d!ck

Yup! I get they are worried about lost income but they are not exactly recommending themselves for future!! Obviously they are playing at running a yard, be amazed if they bother running it in the near future

 

[eahotson]

Well console yourself you are not at our yard!! A few of us have just given notice at ours due to lots of issues with the management of the place and general cluelessness of the owners. They have been disinterested for months and we are clearly too much effort for them (full livery yard)… they keep imposing stupid rules, the most frustrating is no entry until 10am! Fencing is also dire and our horses keep getting injured on them and losing shoes (mine lost 5 in the last 3 months, all of them have been on the poorly maintained wire fence!).

Anyway we gave notice and it’s been a nightmare since, they have been harassing us since, trying to get people to change their minds by making excuses for their poor management and basically ambushing people on their own. It’s horrible and I cannot wait to go! They have successfully bullied one person into staying…offering incentives such as extra bedding (we currently get about 2 inches on a good day) it’s pathetic. We now go up in pairs so we are not alone with them…it’s awful. My daughter is getting super wound up by the environment now and we are counting down the days! Going a week early as I can’t stand it!

I swear yards should have some sort of minimum standard because the stress they can cause by poor management is unbelievable!!!

Sorry to hear that.

 

[Goldenstar]

I cannot understand why Yoer get into a sweat about people leaving the local horse world is small and it’s bad for business.

 

[Bobthecob15]

I cannot understand why Yoer get into a sweat about people leaving the local horse world is small and it’s bad for business.

Oh 100%!!! It’s a very small world especially locally!

 

[Pearlsacarolsinger]

It really is up to horse owners to decide what are the minimum standards they will accept for their animals. If the yard doesn't meet those standards, find another. The message will get through eventually.

 

[Rowreach]

Generally when I was a YO and people left my yard, they were the ones I was delighted to see the back of. I'd let them off their notice and even help them to pack

The nice ones stayed indefinitely

 

[Muddywellies]

I wouldn't worry at all. Its just business. You're probably not the first person to leave, and won't be the last.

 

[Bobthecob15]

I wouldn't worry at all. Its just business. You're probably not the first person to leave, and won't be the last.

Yes I have to keep telling myself this!! They provide a service that you no longer require, simple as that at the end of the day!

 

[gallopingby]

I don’t understand why people feel they have to stay for the notice period? Surely if things are so bad you could just move either pay your notice up front or after you’d taken your horse away?

 

[little_critter]

I don’t understand why people feel they have to stay for the notice period? Surely if things are so bad you could just move either pay your notice up front or after you’d taken your horse away?

I assume some people can’t afford to pay double livery for the overlap between old yard notice period and new yard arrival date.
Also new yard might not have space early.

 

[ycbm]

I don’t understand why people feel they have to stay for the notice period? Surely if things are so bad you could just move either pay your notice up front or after you’d taken your horse away?

The thread starter and the second contributor are in full livery and to do that you have to find around £600, or more, you can afford to just throw away. Not everyone has it.
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[Rowreach]

It's a bit sad that the YO in this case hasn't done anything wrong or reacted in any way at all, yet people are making assumptions. As I said waaay upthread, they are probably well aware that the OP's requirements have changed and won't be one bit surprised they want something different.

 

[Bobthecob15]

The thread starter and the second contributor are in full livery and to do that you have to find around £600, or more, you can afford to just throw away. Not everyone has it.
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Yep its £600 ish for us too, but we are going a week early and paying double livery....the stable isn't ready until then.

 

[eahotson]

It's a bit sad that the YO in this case hasn't done anything wrong or reacted in any way at all, yet people are making assumptions. As I said waaay upthread, they are probably well aware that the OP's requirements have changed and won't be one bit surprised they want something different.

Yes on a personal level I have to stress that I have no quarrel at all with the YO or her yard.It is just not suitable for me,that is all.When I was younger I would have been perfectly happy there.