leaving yard, but owner is a good friend!?

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hi everyone, just wondering if any of you have had experience of moving yards when you are good friends with the owner, and how it went?

i know it sounds stupid but i feel awful about telling Y/O im leaving, i dont want to offend/upset her. its her private yard, and i want to move but i'm finding it hard to break it to her. i know she wont be happy about it...i help her with her horses and she lets me have cheap livery, but there is limited good hacking and no school so im struggling to keep my horse fit.

i've found somewhere a lot closer to home and work, which has excellent hacking, again no school but im not losing anything there. and also there will be people to ride with. my current Y/O doesn't ride so i get quite bored hacking alone. the new yard will cost me more but its still a very good price.

but its not really about the yard, its just how to tell her. i feel like i'm abandoning her on her own...maybe it wasn't a good idea to move there in the first place (been there a few years now) maybe it was better keeping yard owners as a 'business only' kinda thing?

sorry for the silly post, i need to just man up i know :rolleyes:
 
I used to livery with a very good friend and moved for similar reasons to you, best advice I can give is tell it to her straight, don't get all fluffy and start making little excuses and reasons that aren't true as that is when it allows for bargaining and guilt.

Simples, ask her if you can have a word. Explain that you are leaving, tell her why and unless she isn't as good a friend as she seems she will thank you for telling her and you will be fine :) It is always scarier in the mind than in reality.
 
I was in this situation this february - leaving a friend's DIY yard where I had been nearly 15 years, to go on part-livery at a yard that is closer, has more facilities and has people to hack out with. I dreaded breaking the news, and when I did the YO was upset and surprised, and a bit curt with me, but the next time I saw her she was fine and said I was welcome back if it didn't work out.
I explained my reasons, which were all valid, and wrote her a thank you card and gave her a prezzie when I left.
I didn't want to leave on bad terms, and it was hard telling her, but I made the right decision and we are still friends. At the end of the day it's up to you where you keep your horse and she will respect your decision if you explain your reasons. x
 
I have had to do this and yes like you I dreaded it. It was awful and she cried and I may have got slightly teary but like you there was a reason behind my decision and it was far from personal, she understood and wished me luck.
The thought is worse than the doing and after the relief makes up for all the worry!
be brave x
 
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