Moodymare88
Well-Known Member
Hi All,
I am looking for some advice. If only I won the lottery, my problem would be solved.
So i moved to my current livery yard back in June last year as i moved house, but the yard is still 13 miles away (there sadly is nowhere closer with vacancies).
The yard owner took back control of the yard from who he was renting it from in September with promises to make lots of improvements, including the menage and fencing. Over a year later, we still have a very leaky barn roof, the fencing for some of the fields has been down for months (luckily doesn't affect my horse, but not the point!) and the menage needs a lot of work doing, the fencing collapses and when we have heavy rain, the surface escapes through the bottom part of the school where the fencing needs to be redone.
All he has done really is paint the yard and upgrade the electrics. My stable flooded badly, which i raised when i changed stables back in December and i chased it up, and he basically had a massive go at me for chasing things and gave me a warning to leave! So, i daren't chase anything up as i have nowhere else to go. Yard politics seem to play a massive part these last few months, where certain people seem to get everything the want and others get nothing. It is a shame, as it used to be a lovely yard where everyone was very friendly and we were like a family. I suffered a nasty accident back in January, i got kicked in the face and have suffered mentally with PTSD, Anxiety and depression. Sadly, i found out that a 'friend' complained to the yard owner saying i have changed since January and that i am the main problem on the yard! Yes, i changed, but who wouldn't change after suffering a nasty trauma and i am upset and hurt that someone i confided in, who was also a nurse...has stabbed me in the back several times...but i just stay out of her way.
Anyway, a friend of mine who is sadly leaving has her horse stabled next to mine, which works well but means it will be vacant. I have been told someone who has 3 horses will be moving one of theirs next to mine, which i wouldn't usually have an issue with but they don't have great stable management skills. They bed on straw, but by the morning there is no bedding (on concrete) and the smell of ammonia through the barn is really strong. My mare suffers with allergies and i have had to have the vet out several times this year because of it (i don't really want to move stables as the leak has been fixed, she has a back window which helps for ventilation and its a big stable). I have asked if they would reconsider as the vet informed me (and most people know) the affects of ammonia on horses health. I have basically been told, i either lump it and like it, or move to a stable which is not as well ventilated, opposite their horses with the smell of ammonia still being strong, so seems pointless! Their horses also kick the stable doors, which has sadly taught my mare to do this (i put tubtrugs with water in front of her door to stop her).
My main concern is my horses health, which i feel will be put at risk. Sadly, these owners moving next to me aren't overly friendly, i always tried to say hello etc and barely get a grunt, so i don't really tend to bother. We have offered some friendly advice previously, because the parents aren't horsey (although the daughter works on an eventing yard, so should know better) but it didn't go down very well. The yard owner is basically non-existent and has given 'management roles' to 2 other livery yard owners. I mean, we have waited 3 months for a lightbulb to be replaced in one of the tack rooms! I have been meaning to do it myself, but I am no longer in there. I hate yard politics, i am on waiting lists for a couple of other yards, but who knows when a space will become available.
I have never been on a yard where things don't get done and the yard owner just doesn't care but is happy to continue taking our money! We do have signed contracts as well. I haven't really been in a position mentally to think about changing yards, and now i am, there aren't any available. I really just want to enjoy my time down with my horse, i struggle enough as it is but then i do wonder if i would be better moving because i am attending the place where i had my accident every day, twice a day.
If you have gotten this far, thank you. It is frustrating as i have run a yard before, and i just don't feel like everyone is being treated fairly. I found out i need to move bays in the barn from another livery on the group chat, without it being discussed with me first, so someone seems to like stirring things as well.
Do i just continue to brush everything off and try not to worry about having this horse move next to mine? There is nothing i can do about it, but i am sure if it was someone else who had the issue...they wouldn't be allowed to swap, so i feel there is some bullying going on towards me.
I am looking for some advice. If only I won the lottery, my problem would be solved.
So i moved to my current livery yard back in June last year as i moved house, but the yard is still 13 miles away (there sadly is nowhere closer with vacancies).
The yard owner took back control of the yard from who he was renting it from in September with promises to make lots of improvements, including the menage and fencing. Over a year later, we still have a very leaky barn roof, the fencing for some of the fields has been down for months (luckily doesn't affect my horse, but not the point!) and the menage needs a lot of work doing, the fencing collapses and when we have heavy rain, the surface escapes through the bottom part of the school where the fencing needs to be redone.
All he has done really is paint the yard and upgrade the electrics. My stable flooded badly, which i raised when i changed stables back in December and i chased it up, and he basically had a massive go at me for chasing things and gave me a warning to leave! So, i daren't chase anything up as i have nowhere else to go. Yard politics seem to play a massive part these last few months, where certain people seem to get everything the want and others get nothing. It is a shame, as it used to be a lovely yard where everyone was very friendly and we were like a family. I suffered a nasty accident back in January, i got kicked in the face and have suffered mentally with PTSD, Anxiety and depression. Sadly, i found out that a 'friend' complained to the yard owner saying i have changed since January and that i am the main problem on the yard! Yes, i changed, but who wouldn't change after suffering a nasty trauma and i am upset and hurt that someone i confided in, who was also a nurse...has stabbed me in the back several times...but i just stay out of her way.
Anyway, a friend of mine who is sadly leaving has her horse stabled next to mine, which works well but means it will be vacant. I have been told someone who has 3 horses will be moving one of theirs next to mine, which i wouldn't usually have an issue with but they don't have great stable management skills. They bed on straw, but by the morning there is no bedding (on concrete) and the smell of ammonia through the barn is really strong. My mare suffers with allergies and i have had to have the vet out several times this year because of it (i don't really want to move stables as the leak has been fixed, she has a back window which helps for ventilation and its a big stable). I have asked if they would reconsider as the vet informed me (and most people know) the affects of ammonia on horses health. I have basically been told, i either lump it and like it, or move to a stable which is not as well ventilated, opposite their horses with the smell of ammonia still being strong, so seems pointless! Their horses also kick the stable doors, which has sadly taught my mare to do this (i put tubtrugs with water in front of her door to stop her).
My main concern is my horses health, which i feel will be put at risk. Sadly, these owners moving next to me aren't overly friendly, i always tried to say hello etc and barely get a grunt, so i don't really tend to bother. We have offered some friendly advice previously, because the parents aren't horsey (although the daughter works on an eventing yard, so should know better) but it didn't go down very well. The yard owner is basically non-existent and has given 'management roles' to 2 other livery yard owners. I mean, we have waited 3 months for a lightbulb to be replaced in one of the tack rooms! I have been meaning to do it myself, but I am no longer in there. I hate yard politics, i am on waiting lists for a couple of other yards, but who knows when a space will become available.
I have never been on a yard where things don't get done and the yard owner just doesn't care but is happy to continue taking our money! We do have signed contracts as well. I haven't really been in a position mentally to think about changing yards, and now i am, there aren't any available. I really just want to enjoy my time down with my horse, i struggle enough as it is but then i do wonder if i would be better moving because i am attending the place where i had my accident every day, twice a day.
If you have gotten this far, thank you. It is frustrating as i have run a yard before, and i just don't feel like everyone is being treated fairly. I found out i need to move bays in the barn from another livery on the group chat, without it being discussed with me first, so someone seems to like stirring things as well.
Do i just continue to brush everything off and try not to worry about having this horse move next to mine? There is nothing i can do about it, but i am sure if it was someone else who had the issue...they wouldn't be allowed to swap, so i feel there is some bullying going on towards me.
and that doesn’t mean you have to go from frying pan to fire, just that you might find yourself somewhere you wouldn’t previously have considered.
