Livery yard woes WWYD?

[lottiepony]

choccy bics at the ready here goes....

Currently on a lovely yard, get on with everyone etc been there 8 months. Coming into winter there has been a few issues come up.
At the moment one lady turns my mare out in the morning as her gelding doesn't like being out by himself and she comes to the yard v early before work. Haven't got a problem with this as of course does me a favour but now I feel obliged to turn him out as I can't bring in to return the favour (both are bought in by the lady that runs the yard). Ironically my girl is quite happy out by herself in the mornings even though she can't be last left out by herself (she makes no sense I know!) I more than happy to return favours etc I'm not that mean but I'm having to get up so early so I have enough time to sort him out as well and just to add to the fun I'm also doing another girls horse on the yard including mucking out etc as she's broken her back! My alarm went off at 5.30 this morning and the most ironic part is I live on site! Now to make matters worse the gelding injured the yard girl being an idiot to bring in so now the owner has told her she will get him in and has asked if I will leave my girl out to keep him company. I've said I don't mind as long as she doesn't get stressed by everything else coming in. I hate it as just feel I have no control over my horse any more, I know I'm probably just being a cow etc please feel free to tell me. Just wish I could do my horse and be done not really sure what I can do about it without causing trouble between me and the other owner what you you lot suggest? Reading back am I just being picky as before I been used to having her at home or on yards that I've been in complete control of (By the way moving isn't an option)

Gold stars to anyone who has got this far and a glass of wine for later!

 

[AmyMay]

I would do the mornings, and ask the geldings owner to do the evenings.

I would also consider telling the broken back lady that she may need to consider getting the YO to do her horse if she is going to be off longterm (which it sounds as if she is).

Having help is invaluable - and I would be keen to retain the good will of the gelding owner, as long as you can both do things that are mutually beneficial.

Out of interest what time do you start work?

 

[Tinypony]

It sounds as if you are all basically DIY am's and the YO sorts out them being brought in at night?
The lady who is turning your horse out is doing it because she needs to so that her gelding has company. So at the risk of sounding callous, I wouldn't feel any obligation to return the favour, it's something for her benefit. You'd be perfectly happy going up a little bit later and turning your own horse out. Maybe you could offer to turn her horse out with yours at weekends?
The poor lady who has broken her back is going to need to make some longer-term arrangements, so as said above, you need to talk to her about it. Tell her that you're running short of time.
When do you get a chance to enjoy your horse? Do you ride in the evenings, or bring her in for a groom? Because it's all very well to say that you don't mind your mare staying in the field to keep the gelding company, but what happens if you want to go up and ride on a day off? Or bring her in early to ride or just pamper her?

 

[lottiepony]

Thanks for the replies I do sound a bit wingy dont I!
I agree I don't want to be rude and end up getting no help when I need it. I think the whole bringing in thing just tipped it for me this morning, as the geldings owner basically said I could bring them in but she gets to the yard before me every evening so can't imagine her waiting for me to turn up so her horse is in ?!? I have to leave home at 8 so basically need to fit in mucking out 2, turning out 3, walking the dog and shower and breakfast. The horses are all in separate fields so I can still do what I want with mine. The lady who had the bad fall will hopefully start doing bits and pieces again soon which will help and I know she'll more than return the help I've given her.
Think the best thing will be to talk about it tonight and I just need to be firm and make sure I do right by my horse.