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Loss of a horse - when would you buy a new one? *DELETED* *DELETED*
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YorksG
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Different people have different ways of coping with grief, the way the animals dies has a big effect too. For some people getting another one straight away is the right thing, for some it isn't. I would not be upset that other people do things differently, just leave them to deal with their loss in the way that works for them.
tye_bo
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A pony on my old had to be PTS - he had ragwort poisoning which is terrible way to go. I too was suprised when the stable was cleaned and within a couple of weeks they had another one. As YorksG says different people cope in different ways but I think it would take me a long time. In fact if I doubt I would get another one.
RedDevil
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Grief hits people in different ways. What is right for one, is totally wrong for another.
It took me 18 months before I found a horse I could love again, however, having lost a very dear one this year, will be replacing* (not quite the right word I want) soon, as my child would like another.
It doesn't mean you forget them, however soon you have another, it just helps seal the wound...
It took me 18 months before I found a horse I could love again, however, having lost a very dear one this year, will be replacing* (not quite the right word I want) soon, as my child would like another.
It doesn't mean you forget them, however soon you have another, it just helps seal the wound...
hadfos
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Different people have different ways of coping with grief, the way the animals dies has a big effect too. For some people getting another one straight away is the right thing, for some it isn't. I would not be upset that other people do things differently, just leave them to deal with their loss in the way that works for them.
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Agree!!!
Me personally,think when my lad goes there may not be another
,unless i can afford to buy another when i semi retire him!Yrs away yet!!!!
Different people have different ways of coping with grief, the way the animals dies has a big effect too. For some people getting another one straight away is the right thing, for some it isn't. I would not be upset that other people do things differently, just leave them to deal with their loss in the way that works for them.
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Agree!!!
Me personally,think when my lad goes there may not be another
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YorksG
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Sorry if I came across as snotty, having a difficult evening
RedDevil
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My question was not ment in a nasty way, I just wondered what others veiws were
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I hope my post didn't come across as angry? It wasn't meant to... I didn't take your OP as nasty
My question was not ment in a nasty way, I just wondered what others veiws were
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I hope my post didn't come across as angry? It wasn't meant to... I didn't take your OP as nasty
Paddywhack
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Different people have different ways of coping with grief, the way the animals dies has a big effect too. For some people getting another one straight away is the right thing, for some it isn't. I would not be upset that other people do things differently, just leave them to deal with their loss in the way that works for them.
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Agree!!!
Me personally,think when my lad goes there may not be another
,unless i can afford to buy another when i semi retire him!Yrs away yet!!!!
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Same here,it took me 3 years before i could own a horse again after the loss off my old boy,but i got friends who starts looking straight away ..Everyone is different and copes with the loss of a horse in different ways
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Different people have different ways of coping with grief, the way the animals dies has a big effect too. For some people getting another one straight away is the right thing, for some it isn't. I would not be upset that other people do things differently, just leave them to deal with their loss in the way that works for them.
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Agree!!!
Me personally,think when my lad goes there may not be another
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Same here,it took me 3 years before i could own a horse again after the loss off my old boy,but i got friends who starts looking straight away ..Everyone is different and copes with the loss of a horse in different ways
zigzag
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I lost 3 horses in two weeks in December 07, can't face another one at the moment, plus can't really afford it as still paying off vet bills
so I have decided not to get another one til A] can afford it, B] until I finish uni so probably sometime in 2009, luckily I have the use of a friend's horse to ride and her pony to drive whenever I want so that is suiting me at the moment,
AmyMay
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Not sure why you delted this.
But - I bought Thumper about four weeks after having Amy put down.
But - I bought Thumper about four weeks after having Amy put down.
xSandraMx
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If I had enough money, I would get a new horse almost straight away. Dont really see what the problem is.
jacksmum
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I know this is deleted but will answer anyway, i bought my new one when i knew the end was in sight for my horse of a lifetime. Didn't feel guitly in anyway and it helped to soften the blow of losing my special boy.
Faithkat
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After I had my filly PTS following an injury, I couldn't face having another horse for a fair few months; I was totally paranoid about kicks/field injuries but then a friend was selling her mare who I had always liked so I bought her. We never "gelled" so I have just sold her but she did produce a stunning WB filly for me who, spookily enough, has the same birthday and feet markings as the one I had to have PTS.
Doublethyme
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Again not sure why it was deleted, but interesting topic (well in a grim way). When I lost my mare, I knew the week after that I needed another horse, it wasn't to replace her as that was impossible, but I needed something to hang on to as I was so devastated.
I started looking about 6 - 8 weeks after I lost my mare and brought my current mare about 3 months after it happened and I have never regretted it (except maybe financially!!).
As others have said, there really isn't a right or wrong answer to this. Probably to outside people who don't know me really well, I looked a bit hard - I was up the yard the day after etc, but believe me no one could have been more devastated - my horses are my life, sad but true! But for me, I felt I had to carry on with day to day things and keep in contact with the equine world or I would have just shut myself into a dark room, curled up in a ball and stayed there forever - that is how I felt.
It got me through a very very dark time in my life, but I have known friends who have left it years to get another horse and to be honest in all cases I know, they have either never quite moved on from their loss or never actually got back into the horse world at all, which just wasn't an option for me, but it really is down to the individual and I don't think it is for anyone to judge another person when this happens.
I started looking about 6 - 8 weeks after I lost my mare and brought my current mare about 3 months after it happened and I have never regretted it (except maybe financially!!).
As others have said, there really isn't a right or wrong answer to this. Probably to outside people who don't know me really well, I looked a bit hard - I was up the yard the day after etc, but believe me no one could have been more devastated - my horses are my life, sad but true! But for me, I felt I had to carry on with day to day things and keep in contact with the equine world or I would have just shut myself into a dark room, curled up in a ball and stayed there forever - that is how I felt.
It got me through a very very dark time in my life, but I have known friends who have left it years to get another horse and to be honest in all cases I know, they have either never quite moved on from their loss or never actually got back into the horse world at all, which just wasn't an option for me, but it really is down to the individual and I don't think it is for anyone to judge another person when this happens.