lennysmith
Well-Known Member
Well i went down to yard armed with my letter, did my deep breathing saw friend and busied myself til it got quiteter.
However, she decided to take D for a walk and promclaimed very loud, 'God this headcollar is awful, I cant believe you've been putting this on him'. I graciously went over and adjusted it, so it did fit, (she had it on upside down) then she said, 'you didn't need to do it, I dont appreciate interferance, you could have just told me how to do it.'
Well, all my deep breathing and the bloomin letter went out the window, you know, I think I actually saw red!! I took my last deep breath and finally stopped ranting at her about 10 mins later, dont think I actually came up for air. I'm not proud of how I reacted at all, feel awful about it, I actually think I swore at her more than once, and I stunned the whole yard into silence! It's just not me, I dont do confrontation, esp with friends. But this is my baby.
She said she thought she was helping, and was sorry she'd made me feel this way. She denied most of the things then when I gave her examples she went the other way and said she'd just stop sharing with me. I told her thats not what I wanted, but, just stop looking down on me. I may know f*ck all about f*ck all but I got him this far, hell I got him born, when it looked like nature was trying to get rid, for crying out loud.
She was very upset, and applogised profusley (sp). She insisted that she was really only trying to help. With Josie being 2 fields away and having to trudge up and down to her twice a day, she didn't think I'd have the time. As for the way she's been speakign to me, she said she gets carried away. Her horses are all she's got and gets possesive of them, but, rightly he is mine.
We have agreed that we will share both mornings and evenings. I have made a pact with myself to make the most of the time youngest is at nursey, and spent propper time with D on my own.
I feel like I've regained control again, and I doubt after the reaction I agve her tonight she'll push it again. I do think it was a genuine mistake. Just not proud of the way I dealt with it in the end.
Thanks again for listening xx
However, she decided to take D for a walk and promclaimed very loud, 'God this headcollar is awful, I cant believe you've been putting this on him'. I graciously went over and adjusted it, so it did fit, (she had it on upside down) then she said, 'you didn't need to do it, I dont appreciate interferance, you could have just told me how to do it.'
Well, all my deep breathing and the bloomin letter went out the window, you know, I think I actually saw red!! I took my last deep breath and finally stopped ranting at her about 10 mins later, dont think I actually came up for air. I'm not proud of how I reacted at all, feel awful about it, I actually think I swore at her more than once, and I stunned the whole yard into silence! It's just not me, I dont do confrontation, esp with friends. But this is my baby.
She said she thought she was helping, and was sorry she'd made me feel this way. She denied most of the things then when I gave her examples she went the other way and said she'd just stop sharing with me. I told her thats not what I wanted, but, just stop looking down on me. I may know f*ck all about f*ck all but I got him this far, hell I got him born, when it looked like nature was trying to get rid, for crying out loud.
She was very upset, and applogised profusley (sp). She insisted that she was really only trying to help. With Josie being 2 fields away and having to trudge up and down to her twice a day, she didn't think I'd have the time. As for the way she's been speakign to me, she said she gets carried away. Her horses are all she's got and gets possesive of them, but, rightly he is mine.
We have agreed that we will share both mornings and evenings. I have made a pact with myself to make the most of the time youngest is at nursey, and spent propper time with D on my own.
I feel like I've regained control again, and I doubt after the reaction I agve her tonight she'll push it again. I do think it was a genuine mistake. Just not proud of the way I dealt with it in the end.
Thanks again for listening xx
*hug*
