My coblet died suddenly

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I don't post very often, usually just tend to lurk, but I am really struggling at the minute. My dear little coblet was found dead in her field last Monday morning. She was only 11. It is a complete and total shock and I am absolutely devastated and heartbroken. The vet who came out to issue the death certificate thinks that the likely cause was a massive heart attack and that she had gone quickly and peacefully. Her hooves were clean and the ground around her wasn't disturbed so she hadn't been thrashing around in distress. I was completely distraught all of last week and couldn't stop crying. I am not crying so much this week, but just feel as if I am completely in limbo. I know it has only been a week but I just feel in absolute turmoil. I keep thinking I need to look for another horse and then I think I can't go through this again. The problem is that I suffer with confidence and my nerves. I had my coblet 2 and a half years and I was just beginning to feel I had really cracked it and we were a real partnership. I just don't know if I can go through all that again with another horse. And then sometimes I think well I am very lucky to have ever owned a horse, I have a lovely life perhaps I should just keep the memories and be thankful for what I have had.

Sorry for the long post. I guess I just needed to offload to people who would understand and just wondered if this had ever happened to anyone else and how people get over the death of a horse whether it be sudden or not, and how long you wait before getting another if you ever do.
 
Oh my gosh,. how traumatised you must feel :-( All these feelings are perfectly normal and you are obviously coping very well!
You must take comfort in the lack of struggle, sounds like your precious baby was just mooching around and then blacked out, and had a pain free passing.
There is no right or wrong time to get a new horse, some people need time to get over a loss of a pet, and others actually find immediately getting another pet helps them heal.
Do whatever makes you happy, don't worry what anyone else says, you won't be replacing your coblet, they are all so different and it's ok to love another horse and still remember the one you lost.

Massive hugs and kisses XX
 
Gosh what a terrible shock for you.

Please keep trying to remember the good days and take one day at a time.

Happened to a friend of mine, it has taken him about a year to start looking for another pony.

Hugs
 
I'm so sorry for your loss i can't imagine what that must be like to go through.

Give yourself time to grieve. There is no hurry to make any decisions now. If you do want a horse again then you will know when he time is right.

XxBig hugsxx
 
I can only imagine how you must be feeling. What a terrible shock for you.

Be kind to yourself, let yourself grieve and don't feel you have to apologize for posting your feelings. Huge hugs. xxxx
 
Im very sorry for your loss.

Do what you feel is best, no need to rush into anything, but dont decide to call it a day just yet.

I lost one in very similar circumstances, and if I didnt already have anther I likely wouldnt have for quite some time I suspect, but I had to carry on regardlss. I wouldnt say Im over it and I dont know if or when I ever will be, Ive lost others but this one hit me hard. I love my new one very much though, hes worth the potential heartache.
 
I am so sorry, I lost one of my first foals at 22 months suddenly and horribly and it takes a very long time to get over the shock. Take your time, you don't need to decide about another horse right now and give yourself time to grieve. I am glad for you that you know at least she did not suffer at all.
 
That' awful, what a shock. In all the years I've kept horses this has never happened to me although I have had to have four put to sleep (over a long period of time).

It's nothing you have done, it will take time to get over the shock and then you can think about enjoying horses again.

This is unlikely to ever happen to you again, but, in any case, if we weighed up every risk or everything that could go wrong, we'd never do anything. In all likelihood my horses and dogs will die before me, but the joy of being with them now outweighs the pain I shall feel when they go.
 
So sorry. I've never lost one quite so suddenly but have lost a pony when it wasn't expected so know what the shock is like. I was devastated and had all the "what ifs" going on. I think all you can do is cope how you feel best and console yourself somehow in the knowledge that your horse would have known nothing about it and they would not have suffered.
 
(((((HUGS))))) so terribly sorry for your loss. You will grieve like you would losing a special friend and in time you will feel better and ready again to let another horse have a wonderful home with you.

Its been a bad week for some HHF people - their horses will all be together now racing each other over the rainbow Bridge. (((((HUGS)))))
 
Oh, that is terrible, I am so sorry for your loss. I haven't lost a horse since I was 5 (remember it very clearly though) but I lost my old faithful GSD at Christmas after 13 wonderful years. He passed away peacefully in front of me. Really and truly, it was very peaceful and quick, and I took comfort from that and the fact that I hadn't had to make the decision to have him pts. Different for you of course as 11 is no age, and it was so sudden. Please don't hurry the grieving process or worry about a new horse yet. In my experience, they find you, and just when you least expect it. I picked up our GSD pup in January 4 weeks after our old fella died, because I knew we could love him enough and wanted to give him a nice home. You sound like a great mum and any horse would be lucky to have you, if that's what you choose.

I am thinking of you at such a difficult time, and hope that the pain eases for you as soon as it can.
 
Thank you all for being so kind. I have had tremendous support from all my friends at the stables, loads of cards and flowers and I think I have eaten my body weight in chocolate with all the boxes I have been given. I wasn't too bad yesterday, but it has hit me really hard again today. My head feels like it is going to explode and I have such a heavy, sinking feeling in my heart. Sometimes I feel like I am going completely mad and am going to just crack up. I am not going to rush into anything. I believe in fate and if it is meant to be then the right horse will find me, probably with a bit of a helpful shove from a little coblet up above !
 
What a horrible thing to happen - my sympathies and big hugs. It's bad enough when you know they have to go, but when it happens suddenly and out of the blue it must be terrible.

Give yourself time and eventually you'll start to feel more positive and perhaps think about another horse. But don't rush that process - it took me at least three weeks before I could muck out my horse's stable after he was PTS, and several months before I could think about replacing him. But believe me, eventually you start to remember the good times you shared and you find you can start to move on...
 
Feel for you as I had the same,when Kestrel my heayweight cob died at 11 from a heart attack over 2 years ago,and like your cob he was fine when I fed that evening,just a little slow cantering up for his grub, had a phone call next morning he was dead.But I now have Lenny Cylsdale/welsh colt, who in many ways is like Kestrel(PBW) same temperment and outlook.:):)
 
So sorry :( thats awful news. just one thing tho, dont look back thinking you were lucky to have owned a horse, life is short and if you love having a horse around there is no harm in getting another as soon as you feel ready. It doesnt mean you'll ever forgrt coblet or your being disrespectful. My mother in law lost a dog recently and she spent a good two months getting up early and walking the same route she did with the dog every day. She swore she'd never get another as she couldnt bare it but then a littlw jack russell walked into her life and she fell head over heels. Shes said shell never forget lucy, first dog, but cant believe she was goin to spend life without ever getting another. No one can tell you what to do as youll know whats right when the time comes but dont let anyone tell you its too soon etc xx
rip little one xx
 
I am so very sorry to read this. I have lost a few horses over the years, but never without being aware beforehand that this would be so. It must be very difficult to deal with, I can only imagine what you are going through.

Very hard for you, but maybe a kinder way for your beloved coblet to leave you than many months of ill health etc. etc. I'm sorry that sounds a little trite, now I read it back, but I hope you understand what I am trying to say, just to offer you some small bit of comfort in the midst of your tremendous loss.
 
I am so sorry, it must have been a horrendous shock for you.

I hope you have lots of wonderful memories to treasure, take time to come to terms with what has happened, and you will know when the time is right for you to look for another coblet to trust again. xx
 
So sorry you lost your lovely cob. I can't imagine how traumatic that must have been. Don't put any pressure on yourself. Decisions are the hard bit. Give yourself a break, you don't need to decide anything yet. When the time is right you will know. Big hugs and good luck for a happpy horsey future.
 
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