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Where do I start? My troubles started about two years ago when I had to move my horses from the yard I'd been happy at for 17 years. At this time I had 3 horses, my welsh D Flyer, my 16.2hh Ralph and William a coloured part bred aged 2 years.

I was give a weeks notice to move all three horses as the new owners of the yard did not like the fact that I was looking to move! So I started to look in sheer panic as we are all aware finding the right stable for one horse is hard enough, let alone 3. I found a yard out in the sticks which could take all of them.

I was nervous about taking the youngster as he had put me in hospital a few weeks before, having kicked me and catching me full in the face, luck would have it he was unshod, but I still ended up with a facial fracture, but kept my teeth, thank god.

My friend said she would take him on loan for a while, but I did not want to unsettle him, so she bought him from me, one problem solved, now I only had to worry about the older boys.

We moved out into the country and what I thought would be perfect!! The location was, but unfortunately the yard (8 stables) was not. After only a few weeks, we had a break in and I had a few bits taken, but my pony was deeply disturbed by the whole thing. I stuck it out for 6 months and enjoyed the excellent hacking, then the 40 min journey became too much, so I started to look closer to home.

We moved back to a yard just 5 mins away in September 05 and despite being very noisy and bigger than the previous yard, we all settled into the yard well and met some great people. The yards had its ups and downs, but for me, its been more down than up.

Everything started to go wrong in the December when my beloved Flyer died of a heart attack in my arms. Ralph was devastated by his death and his personality has completely changed, they were best mates. He started to get better after about 6 months, but still has a tendency to attack other horses if I greet them in the field and god forbid I have to catch one.

The following year October 2006, Ralph became lame with a tendon sheath injury, after box rest and gently resuming work, Ralph picked up and then the next blow in November, we had a break in with a loss in excess of £20,000 of tack, which 4 saddles were mine, I could not bere to move Fly's saddles, I so wish I had.

I kept Ralph ticking over with lunging and then a friend lent me a saddle and it fitted well, so I was able to hack out and get Ralph fitter in order to have a new saddle fitted and start lessons again.

My sister treated me to an air ticket to Thailand for a 3 week holiday in December, just what the doctor ordered! My cousin looked after Ralph and I was oblivious to what was going on at home until I turned my phone on at the customs lounge at Heathrow. A voice message asked me to call ASAP and it was from a friend who was overseeing my young cousin. Panic stricken I called her to be informed that Ralph had Strangles and was really poorly...........

Six weeks of box rest and then Ralph was back to normal and I could get my saddle fitted. All was going well this year, until 3 weeks ago when my friend and I were involved in a near fatal Road Traffic Accident. Both of us are lucky to be alive according to the police/surgeons and the rest of the medical staff looking after us. My dog is a miracle and got out with one scratched paw, not sure that she will want to get back into the car again though.

I have got off lightly, fractured ribs, head injury (again), knee prob and both shoulders, along with bruising in areas I did not know you can get them? My friend, also into horses has not she is still in hospital and will be there for sometime, bless her.

Ralph I am told has gone back to being aggressive and is very depressed. I have managed to see him once since I came out of hospital, but could only tolerate a few minutes with him.

I know that we will bounce back and get going again, but, how can someone have so much bad luck? I'm sorry if this has bored you, but I needed to get it off my chest and share it. Will it get better?
 
It does sound like you have had a pretty tough time. Life does sometimes feel like that, doesn't it, that it's just one thing after another? I'm glad you are ok and I hope your friend is going to pull through. It sounds like you have some very supportive friends/family though, which is def a good thing
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If it helps, I went through a patch a couple of years ago when I as so depressed I couldn't see myself ever being happy again - I didn't even want to be, TBH. Now, things have slowly turned around and (touch wood) life is good. I'm sure that things will pick up for you - it may take a while, but don't give up. I'm sure once you are able to spend some more time with Ralph he will cheer up and he will be good therapy for you
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Oh gosh, (((Hugs)))

I'm sure that things will go better now! No one deserves that kind of bad luck. Sounds like Ralph misses you and needs you, I hope you and he get to spend some time together and that it will cheer both of you up.

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What a rough time you've had, I'm sorry to hear about it all. I think you need to concentrate on getting yourself better for now. I'm sure when you're up on your feet a bit more the situation with Ralph will improve because you'll be able to spend more time with him. My horse is very possessive of me too, so I know how difficult that can be! Do you have anyone who could take over from you for a bit and give him some one-to-one attention, even if it's just grooming and fussing? Maybe a sharer or loan for the short term would help you out? I hope you can sort it out and that you get better quickly. Wishing you lots of luck!
 
You sound like you've been having a truely dreadful time, but it does sound like Ralph needs and misses you, so hopefully when you are better you will be able to rebuild your bond. I do hope your friend is better soon as well {{hugs}}
 
Hey, Pocket, I have been thinking about you this afternoon and it occurred to me that there is another perspective to your situation....

You have a horse who obviously is very attached to you, whom you care about, you have friends and family who love and care for you, (which not everyone has), your horse has been injured a few times (read the posts on here - it happens to all of us) but you were lucky enough for him to get better and return to work, you managed to find a good home easily for your youngster, and to top it all off, you and your friend have survived what could have been a fatal car accident!

I have lost 3 friends in RTA's, another friend lost his leg and another in a wheelchair. Two other friends sustained brain damage/disfigurement. You are so lucky to have come out of that alive. Maybe you need to take a fresh look at your life from a different perspective? Ok, it may take two years for you to get back on track - but that is two more years than you would have if you had been killed! You can get your life on track again and you can regain some control. Find a new yard if you are not happy where you are. Get a new job, move house - I think you need a change and some goals to work towards - even if they are just 'ride horse again within 6 months'. I'm sure you have loads of things going for you and just need a kick start to get yourself back on track
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