My new boy, has got to go...

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Well, i have decided that an ex racer is not for me, I am gonna take some time out and have a break from horses altogether!
He is a lovely boy a real honest horse ( for a tb), I had a bad fall off a friends horse and my confidence has totally gone! One day i am hoping it will come back, but he is too much of a good horse to hang around and wait for me, god i feel sick!
Sorry but am really emotional and just had to tell someone
Kate x
 
A very brave decision to make. better for both of you for him to go to a new home than for you to try and carry on if you're not right for eachother.

The right horse will be out there for you when you are ready.
 
very brave decision to make.
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i hope one day you come back and find the perfect horse for you, maybe riding lessons at a local riding school might help boost confidence?
 
I think that's such a brave decision! I sympathise... I have confidence issues too and have, on occasions, wondered if my gorgeous boy would be better off somewhere he'd be used more...
However, luckily I have age on my side and I don't think 'taking it slowly' will be a bad thing for him, at 4yrs old.

Don't know if it would interest you but some things I've found have worked are regular lessons, self hypnosis CDs, riding other peoples safe horses, reading books and my next step which I'm really excited about is actual hypnosis from someone who specialises in equine related issues.

I hope you manage to get back in the saddle and find a horse that can help you if/when you feel up to it.
 
I had a serious accident a few years ago on a new horse, i made the tough decision to send him back (coincidentally a tb)
I bought a haflinger as a confidence booster and have made the transition up to a completely different type of tb!Im now very happy with him. I totally understand you're situation so plenty of hugs ur way! Don't give up horses altogether, find yourself a confidence giver to rise or share
 
poor you. i really sympathise.

like many on here, i also lost my confidence massively due to a combination of things (wrong horse/accident/being a parent/friend's bad accident). i gave up horses for a few years, and missed them soooo much.

eventually, i bought myself a confidence giver. and i had to literally force myself to ride him. everytime i got on him, i'd shake so much, he must have felt it. i made myself ill with nerves every time i even thought about going to the yard.

however, within a week of having him, he'd started to make me feel safe, and i continued riding him until i was more than 7 months pregnant. because i trusted him totally. i can't wait to have the baby so i can get back on him again!

i'm SO glad everyone forced me to try again, i was empty without horses in my life.

i see you're in lincolnshire... i'm just about to move to South Lincs, so you're more than welcome to come and potter about on my fabulous confidence giver if you live nearby. he'll revive your confidence. xxx
 
I too lost my confidence on a loan horse. She went back and now I have a little hairy cob, who has given me back my confidence in leaps and bounds.
I fell off her a few weeks ago and when I told everyone they all asked if I'd got back on again, after knowing I really struggled with the loan horse after a fall, but I said, yes of course I did.
It's sad that you don't think the new TB is for you, but, as Debsflo said, lifes too short to not be enjoying it. Have a break then I'm sure you will find your perfect ponio. I know I did!!
 
For some reason my confidence took a real knock recently (maybe because Bridie was off for a year..) but i have been doing TONNES of ground work and its so rewarding, its shown me theres more to horses than just riding...going to go in the big 8 acre paddock tonight and play with Bridie on the ground....see if i can get her jumping some logs etc! its amazing how quickly horses can learn (apparently turns out Bridie learns much faster than some others....not always a good thing!) ....im saying this so that you dont feel you have to give up horses all together just because you dont feel confident!

I do understand things not working out with a particular horse, its not fair on either of you so you are doing the right thing! just dont give up all together!

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A brave decision. But far better to do than risk having an accident for either you or the horse due to a lack of confidence. It is all too easy to keep soldiering on

I have had a break from horses due to pregnancy & not being able to afford a new one for almost 3 years & this has led to a lack of confidence. So I have been along to the local stables & hacked out on a lovely safe haflinger & my confidence is soaring & I have remembered that I can ride & that I enjoy it. So much so that tomorrow I go to ride a friends ex intermediate 17.2hh eventer…
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Why not think about going out to the local riding stables & hiring a safe happy hacker to get your confidence back & remember why you love riding so much in the first place?

Good luck with what ever you decides & have some (((Hugs)))
 
Hi Kate, I think I know you from your description of what has happened. I have an elderly TB & recently broke my collar bone out hunting, though it wasn't the horse's fault. I've suffered from a few bouts of nerves over the last few years, & my confidence comes & goes but I just can't be without horses. I'm a bit hesitant about jumping now, but will take things slowely. You can come & have a ride on mine if you like. Feel free to PM me.
 
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