Nasty piece of work.........

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A little while back I posted on here about someone at my yard who I had a row with about turning out in the school. Long and short of it is I wanted to ride and his yearling was in there galloping around full pelt unsupervised and had been for 20 mins or so. I asked nicley when he would be finished and he started f ing and blinding at me saying I had decided to ride on purpose just so that his horse couldn't be in school ( we do have fab turnout BTW) called me a fat b*tch and threatened to beat me up. I was actually quite scared but knew really he wouldn't. A few weeks after this incident said person left the yard this was about middle of summer.
Just had a call form our YM who is a good friend to say that this guy is coming back to our yard. He has been told one bad move and he's out and that he must appologise to me for the above incident. Before he left last time the atomsphere was awful and I hated being at yard with him on my own. There are many more people on our yard now so hopefully this won't be a problem, its just that I love going to see my horses and it had got to the point where I was avoiding going to the yard just so I didn't bump into him. How should I approach him? I'm just about to leave for the yard and I know he is there. I'm quite upset as I don't understand why such a nasty person should be allowed back on the yard. He has a horse transport business and only has a horse so that he can advertise himself as a horse owner. Really he has no idea. Ahhh I don't know what to do
 
Ignore him unless he approaches you. After all, he has been told to apologise to you, and you have no reason to speak to him. Just go about your business and ignore him, I would.
If he does apologise, tell him that he really upset and offended you, and thank him for apologising. Don't say you accept it, though!
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For the sake of you wanting a quiet life, quite honestly I'd take the high ground and if you see him, say "hello" and "x is looking well" about his horse.

Should totally disarm him and show you aren't going to be funny with him (not that I'd blame you if you were) but it just makes for a quieter yard, and hopefully no more nastiness from him.

I've tried it before and to be honest, you get a little kick from knowing you have been nice and they then HAVE to or look like total arses!

Manipulative? Who me? *innocent smirk*
 
Thats what I thought. He's been asked to leave his present yard aswell. Doesn't that tell you something!!! We have had no trouble since he has been gone!!!
 
yes I agree. He is a bully and probably treats lots of people badly, so try and not take it personally. He is obviously a miserable person, who makes himself unpopular where ever he goes. It will be tough at first but don't leave your yard and keep your head held high.

Don't let bullies win!!! Best of luck to you.
 
Poor old you. If the YM is a friend then I'm surprised she is allowing this person back. Did anybody witness his threats last time? Was he not disciplined or asked to leave? Did he fall out with anyone else?

Really I do think it is the YM's responsibility to maintain a happy and certainly a threat free environment in which client's can enjoy their horses. After all, they are happy enough to take our money.

Anyway, keep your chin up and let us know how it goes.
 
Just to update anyone that is interested. Went to yard yesterday and this person was not there he turned up whilst I was playing mith my girl on the yard. I said hello and initially he ignored me but his son said hello. I then made a point of wlecoming him back and he then stated ' I think I owe you an applogy' so he appologised and I thanked him and then he started going on and on and ona bout how lovely my new girl was and that he wished that his youngster was doing as much as Aleeta etc etc. Feeling a little guilty me thinks!!! Anyway it broke the ice and there seems to be no atmosphere which was my main concern, although he never will be my favourite person. But hey ho we can't get on with everyone in life!
 
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