Nasty yo

[flyingfred]

I wouldn't normally bother but its getting me down now.

I was on a small.livery yard. All seemed good but as weeks went by other liveries left and new ones came. No long standing liveries.

Things started going missing tack, feed, hay etc. Then couple of liveries started rubbing up the wrong way. Atmosphete was horrific. Half the yard went to yard owner to explain saying it was getting us down needed sorting. Nope nothing.

I left. Took my horses and stuff and went. Then all of a sudden I stated getting abuse and harrasedd by yo. Over 40 phone calls one day. All other liveries have left this week too. She's been bad mouthing everyone but especially me. I'm quiet I try to keep myself to myself. Rode on my own. Kept my stuff on its own. Never borrowed always bought.

She's threatening to send abusive letters to my place of work. This grief has been going on weeks. And now its getting me down. It had stopped till the other liveries all left and its started again.

I've just ignored her all.these weeks. Never reacted or replied. I just don't know what to do now ?

 

[hollyandivy123]

I wouldn't normally bother but its getting me down now.

I was on a small.livery yard. All seemed good but as weeks went by other liveries left and new ones came. No long standing liveries.

Things started going missing tack, feed, hay etc. Then couple of liveries started rubbing up the wrong way. Atmosphete was horrific. Half the yard went to yard owner to explain saying it was getting us down needed sorting. Nope nothing.

I left. Took my horses and stuff and went. Then all of a sudden I stated getting abuse and harrasedd by yo. Over 40 phone calls one day. All other liveries have left this week too. She's been bad mouthing everyone but especially me. I'm quiet I try to keep myself to myself. Rode on my own. Kept my stuff on its own. Never borrowed always bought.

She's threatening to send abusive letters to my place of work. This grief has been going on weeks. And now its getting me down. It had stopped till the other liveries all left and its started again.

I've just ignored her all.these weeks. Never reacted or replied. I just don't know what to do now ?

this actually sounds like you need to have a chat with the police..............rather than talking this through on an open forum, your local station would be able to advise.

 

[MrsMozartleto]

Ditto HaI123 - time to go to the police.

 

[tiahatti]

I assume you were not at the yard very long? As others have said, I think you need advice from the police.

 

[doodle]

Def time to go to police. You can show them your phone and they can see what is happening.

 

[flyingfred]

I assume you were not at the yard very long? As others have said, I think you need advice from the police.

No 6 months at the most. I should have cottoned on as 3 others went in that time. And the 3 that replaced moved this week.

 

[Wheresthehoofpick]

It's harassment phone the police.

 

[luckyoldme]

I think youve been amazing by not responding.
Keep all txts ..have a chat with the police and block her number.
By the sounds of things the police will be familiar with her name .

 

[Christmascinnamoncookie]

Cops and I say that as a police officer’s wife. They will go and speak to her.

 

[Goldenstar]

It’s time for the police .

 

[dogatemysalad]

40 phone calls in one day and threats of sending letters to your work place is not normal behaviour. What is her problem, is this general abuse, or is she making any claims against you, such as owing money ?
Either way, I agree with the others. Call the police.

 

[southerncomfort]

I had to go to the police regarding a harassment issue.

Its really important that you tell her very clearly not to contact you again, and you must block her on absolutely everything.

The police will give a harassment warning in the first instance, but if she carries on and they charge her with harassment, you need to be able to show the court that you've made every effort to cease contact with her.

In my case a police warning did the trick.

Please don't think you are wasting police time. They take matters like this extremely seriously.

 

[blitznbobs]

Move ! She sounds mentally unstable to me

eta just re read and you have then yes contact the police and write a cease and desist letter telling her to never contact you again.

 

[splashgirl45]

did you give notice or just leave, if you just left she may feel you owe her money...not normal behaviour for a YO but does she have a good reason to harass you

 

[ycbm]

did you give notice or just leave, if you just left she may feel you owe her money...not normal behaviour for a YO but does she have a good reason to harass you

I think this is probably just unfortunate wording but there is never an excuse to harass anyone, it's a criminal offence.
.

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

Try get a recording of any messages on your phone, and print out any emails all evidence for the police, which is now time to involve the.

 

[Pearlsacarolsinger]

Another one who thinks it is time to involve the police.

 

[The Jokers Girl]

I wouldn't normally bother but its getting me down now.

I was on a small.livery yard. All seemed good but as weeks went by other liveries left and new ones came. No long standing liveries.

Things started going missing tack, feed, hay etc. Then couple of liveries started rubbing up the wrong way. Atmosphete was horrific. Half the yard went to yard owner to explain saying it was getting us down needed sorting. Nope nothing.

I left. Took my horses and stuff and went. Then all of a sudden I stated getting abuse and harrasedd by yo. Over 40 phone calls one day. All other liveries have left this week too. She's been bad mouthing everyone but especially me. I'm quiet I try to keep myself to myself. Rode on my own. Kept my stuff on its own. Never borrowed always bought.

She's threatening to send abusive letters to my place of work. This grief has been going on weeks. And now its getting me down. It had stopped till the other liveries all left and its started again.

I've just ignored her all.these weeks. Never reacted or replied. I just don't know what to do now ?

This is harassment and she needs reporting to police. if she has put this in text messages you have more then enough evidence. Do not let the police palm you off with it being a civil matter and if you can afford get a solicitor to write to her too. They don't normally charge much for a letter so may well be worth doing.

 

[doodle]

Also you could block her number.

 

[The Jokers Girl]

did you give notice or just leave, if you just left she may feel you owe her money...not normal behaviour for a YO but does she have a good reason to harass you

There is never a good reason for harassment. Gracious me. If op does owe money the yo has processes to follow. I.e send a legal letter setting out what is owed, how much and when the bill was accrued. Livery yard are just like any other business. Would you accept British gas phoning you 40 times a day, sending you threatening messages and saying they would contact your employer etc!

 

[CouldItBe]

Definitely time for the Police

 

[Christmascinnamoncookie]

However, keep all of the call logs and messages as evidence, tempting tho it is to delete them.

Another one who thinks it is time to involve the police.

Did you see ‘your’ thread in Clubhouse?

 

[MiJodsR2BlinkinTite]

Firstly as a YO myself may I say how sorry I am to hear this; YO's like this give us all a bad name unfortunately.

All I would say....... and I'm saying this very tentatively, is to enquire (politely) if there IS any reason that she's got to be on your tail. I say this cautiously, but if there is anything such as a silly dispute over a piddling sum of money, a bill? - or something like that, it might be acting as a reason for her current behaviour? Please note OP I'm NOT saying that this is the case, but this is very extreme behaviour and I'd be looking at any little reason, however piffling, which might go towards explaining it.

If there is nothing which could be the issue, then as others have said I think you need to take this to the police. To threaten contacting your employers would be the cruncher, for me. That is nasty! Of course, it could be a mere threat; but if you do think she is capable of this, then I think I'd be inclined to just have a quiet word with your boss too and just say what's happened. Cover your own back basically! But I think most employers would totally ignore this anyway and would treat it with the contempt it deserves.

I would, as others have said, keep all "evidence", but not respond to any more garbage from her. You can block her on FB (I've had to do it with someone) and I guess on other social media as well. Best is not to give her any attention for what she's doing.

But police, yes! Do it. You need to feel safe and protected from this woman. One would very much suspect from the behaviour described that she has some serious mental health issues, but OP you need protecting from this, dammit!

Ohh...... and (edited) PLEASE allow yourself a little treat. I mean it. Someone has rubbished you and you need to feel good about yourself again. Go on-line and order yourself that little item (horsey if you like! - or perhaps something nice like perfume, some good chocolates or pamper-items) that you've fancied but put off getting .......... seriously, you need to build your confidence and self-esteem up again after this experience. It's about cherishing yourself.

 

[Lois Lame]

I doubt that the OP has done anything to warrant the YO's wrath. The YO, I think, is just targeting the least threatening person.

I agree with all those who say to keep all evidence and go to the police.

 

[Frano]

Do not respond to the person harassing you. please talk to the police.

 

[Rowreach]

Well it all sounds a bit odd to me, and I'm pretty sure there's more to it than we're being told (as is usual from this type of post from a new user).

And what does threatening to send "abusive" letters to an employer mean? Presumably telling an employer something about the OP, rather than being abusive, which although obviously unacceptable must have a root somewhere.

If the YO really is "harassing" the OP, then I expect it's something to do with them taking their horses and leaving (which doesn't sound like notice was given), and that leads me to wonder whether money is owed here.

 

[Goldenstar]

If money is owned then OP has to deal with It I would do it through a third party .
However the yard owner who is owed money still has to behave in a reasonable way .
So when a commercial relationship breaks down totally that would straight to the small claims court .
The Story on the face of it makes it sounds like the yard owner is having some sort of breakdown .
But harassment is harassment OP might decide it’s a good idea to mentoin the situation to her employer .
I do think she should also speak to the police .

 

[southerncomfort]

The police told me to inform my employer at the time.

The harassment warning forbade the people concerned from contacting me, my family, my place of work or going anywhere near my horses.

They were so concerned that they also advised me to move my ponies for a while.

 

[Frumpoon]

I do know a YO who has done this to a few people

The last bill would include a load of invented charges for services/situations that were not requested or needed but were a nice little earner and an excuse to continue to contact people who wanted to be as far away from her as possible

This included harassing the parents of a child the YO had bullied mercilessly, for money that was never owed

 

[Rowreach]

Oh believe me, I know there are batsh1t YOs out there, it’s just that this type of post always has more to it than we hear initially ?