Need a rant sorry but if i dont say it some where ill explode

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so its my daughters 7th today and im throwing a bday party for her in the house my ex who is her father has done nothing towards it ive paid for it my self and its cost me over £100 not moaning she is my baby after all but hes called asking what time it i and said he cant afford to pay for anything as hes buying a new car today! he said i could afford it myself if i didnt have my ned! im sooooooo pi**ed off
 
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Just rest assured that when she grows up, she will remember the parent who was always there for her, and the one who valued a new car more than he did his own daughter
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Dont let it get to you and spoil her (and your) day x
 
yeah i know but hes made me sooooooo agry now! i was up till 3am last night making cakes from scratch! and i have to go sort ned stable in a bit for 2night as when im down it will be dark and he said ive put my priorities wrong! forget fact i was doing stuff from after school run (10 am) till 3am last night then up at 7am this morning to finish rest/clean house poor ned saw me for 10 mins yesterday but its ok for my di*****d ex to go buy car today and may be late because of it!
 
Well, you see, I never ever did the party thing for any of mine. They had the choice - big pressie and no party - or titchy pressie. The big (ger) pressie won every time - what a surprise! Can't be doing with other folks' kids either.

Much better now they are grown up
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I hope your day goes well and it was worth it.
 
Ignore the prat.

He isnt worth the oxygen. And anyway, it doesnt matter what HE thinks, after all, your little girl will know how much effort you put in for her party, and will equally know how much effort he has put in.

And if he makes anymore comments about your ned, just laugh at him and tell him its amazing how you have noticed since you split up that even your neddy is more intellectually gifted than he ever was!

On a serious note, enjoy your daughters party, they grow up far to quickly (unlike most men......
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What Guido 16 said is so true, enjoy the party! Rise above it all, be the perfect mum-who-has-organised-the-party, be civil and nice to him, it'll come back and bite him on the bum later on in life.

My friend is divorced from her *******ex, and she has been the paragon of perfect mother to look after them..... Her kids, now in their teens, acknowledge their father for being a rubbish dad, friend says they have the bestest of relationships with her because her kids have come to that conclusion themselves - they ask NOT to go and see him because he will just sit and watch footie on TV which is sooo boring, and most of the time if he makes arrangements he breaks them anyway, even forgets birthdays, doesn't buy presents because he has no money (having just booked a holiday in the sun(?!) etc etc.
 
Enjoy your daughters party and sod the pratt. They grow up far too quickly, and I am sure she would much rather have you there, relaxed and happy, rather than you all uptight because he is there. Why dont you ask him to come over afterwards, there will be more time, and I am sure she can share her birthday cake with him.

I dont know what it is with men and horse quite frankly. Much as I love hubby, if he gave me an ultimatum of him or the horse, I expect I would probably miss him at some point, but I wont part with my horse.

Enjoy it and sod him.
 
A reminder of why you left the sod.

Ignore him, you have a very lucky daughter, having a lovely mum going to all that trouble for her.

He is not worth getting angry over, have a lovely day enjoy it, enjoy your daughter and enjoy your horse and enjoy the fact you are not with the sod anymore!
 
I'd be inclined to suggest he bring something as a contribution - food, perhaps - and also ask if he can afford to buy a present for her. I must admit I'd be petty enough to want to disinvite him, but of course that's unfair on your daughter. Horrid situation for you.

I'm all for rising above things, particularly in front of a child, but that doesn't mean they get to eat you out of house and home while they're there or treat you like dirt. FWIW, as the daughter of a rubbish mother, kids work out very quickly who's a decent human being and who isn't, and while she's still young enough to just want to see her dad the time will come when it all bites him on the bum.
 
I hope you've managed to put by enough for a bottle of wine for afters!!!

Just ignore the selfish b****** and enjoy your daughter's day. Long term she'll know who was there for her and who was behaving like a child instead of a parent!
 
My friend has the same problem,
just do what she does,
be really really nice to him and his GF.....seriously it frightens the sh*t out of them!!
 
Lucky you and daughter, you got rid of him,poor gf she has to put up with his tight ways. but artypants is right and lets face it isn't your ned much better than the half-wit in your life
 
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