Need Help Bonding With My Pony

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Hello could you please help me i have a mare and she is very hard to create a bond with i have had her a year and 6 months not and i still feel that she doesn't trust me i always give her treats and pats whenever i see her but nothing seems to work please can you give me some advise on how to create a bond with her or give me some exercises to work with her thank youu olivia :D:)
 
I agree, one thing I've found good is just getting a book, turning over a bucket and just sitting reading, maybe even out loud so she gets used to your voice.
 
It took me years to bond with my mare! She had a lot of homes before me I've had her 10 years now! Just preserve and don't give up and u will get there! As already said just spending time together, grooming, in hand and hacking. Good luck x
 
spend time with her, like the others have said, just being there will help. i've got a great bond with my boy, it didn't come overnight but him having a dodgy tendon for a few months after t****ing about in the field and us going for walks in hand certainly helped. :-)
 
Agree with the others. Spend some quality time with her on the ground, grooming, walking out in hand, generally making a fuss of her. Find out where her likes being scratched etc....

I spend alot of time with my horse just grooming and fussing her, taking her for walks in hand and also I am constantly chatting away to her, I often just sit with her in her stable for half an hour just watching her and giving her a fuss. I think this keeps us quite bonded :o

I think you need to spend periods of time in each others company in order for a bond to be built. A quick pat and a polo wont really help build a strong bond in my humble opinion.

Good luck, you will get there I am sure of it :)

Sadiemay
 
I am going to go against the flow here. I think if you have owned this pony for 1 year and 6 months and you have been caring for her all this time, then the relationship you have, is not going to change. Not all horses are cuddly and loving, it does not mean she hates you, it just means she is a horse and you are a human and she sees no reason to get pally with you.
 
BigRed said:
I am going to go against the flow here. I think if you have owned this pony for 1 year and 6 months and you have been caring for her all this time, then the relationship you have, is not going to change. Not all horses are cuddly and loving, it does not mean she hates you, it just means she is a horse and you are a human and she sees no reason to get pally with you.
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Unless you are on full livery and only see her to ride then I agree with this. Some horses just don't 'do humans' in the way others do
 
I agree with the above ...
I owned my last mare Rosie for 5 years, I got her when she was 11 and after 5 years we had never bonded, she wasn't nervous around me but just wanted nothing to do with me unless I had food, she didn't even appreciate being groomed, just wanted to mind her own business. I sold her this year as I wasn't enjoying riding her anymore, felt we had taught each other as much as we could. I bought an 11 month old friesian filly in April and already our bond is much more than mine and Rosie's ever was she neighs and runs to me in the field, always grooms me and just wants to be around people all the time.
So I believe some horses will always be quite detached from people.
 
Hey guys thank you so much for the advise every single one of you it means alot to hear your advise and BigRed thanks so much i have never looked at it like that i guess i just thought that if u don't have a bond u don't have anything really but thats not true she might just not be that kind of horse that is cuddly and follows you around like you said thank you so much :) :D
 
In my experience this can be particularly true of mares, don't get me wrong I love mares and have one myself, but I think they tend to be more independent minded. Can you find an itchy spot on her that she then reciprocates? This is a good time of year if she's in to find what she does/doesn't like. You could possibly do some basic parelli stuff - whether you are a fan or not the 7 games are a good excuse to do something with her on the ground and get her thinking about you, and I don't think it would do any harm if it doesn't work. Could be she's never going to bond with you, or it could be your just not on the same wave length yet. Good luck!
 
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