New horse but miss my old pony

[madsb]

At the start of the year I thought it was a good decision to sell my little pony. At the time I thought I wanted to move further up and do more out of her abilities. I eventually sold her and bought myself a new horse. He is so lovely but I’m still struggling with fact that I miss my pony. I’m constantly doubting wether it was the right idea or not and regretting selling her. I’m trying to look on the bright side of it that everything happens for a reason. My new boy is lovely but so different to my pony. I’ve only had him 5 months so we’re still getting used to each other. My pony was my first one I ever bought myself too and she got me through a lot of tough times. I miss her so much but iknow she is in such a lovely home and teaching their young girls new things. Do you ever stop missing them or stop thinking like this? Really struggling with it at the minute

 

[Bradsmum]

I’m sure you will always have feeling for your pony and happy memories but once you start achieving those aims that you bought your new horse for, it will hopefully all fall into place. As you say she is in a lovely home and doing what she liked doing.

 

[spotty_pony2]

Echo above, sounds like he has found a good home and is happy, in time you should grown a stronger partnership with your new horse and it should get a bit easier. You could ask for first refusal if they ever sell your old pony/if you could have him back at retirement age perhaps and get something drawn up?

 

[J_sarahd]

I completely understand this. I sold my first horse a few years ago and even after buying 2 horses, I still miss him and regret selling him. I have never felt as safe and confident on a horse as I did on him. But! There was a reason I sold him and I am a better horsewoman because of the experiences I’ve had since selling him.

Echoing above, I’ve said to his new owner that I want first refusal if she ever sells him or wants him to go somewhere else for his retirement.

You’ve not had your new one for very long at all and I do think, with time, you will get the same relationship and trust in them as you did your old one. It is tough but you’ve got to remember why you sold them and try to focus on what you want to achieve with your new one.

 

[Skib]

You’ve not had your new one for very long at all and I do think, with time, you will get the same relationship and trust in them as you did your old one. It is tough but you’ve got to remember why you sold them and try to focus on what you want to achieve with your new one.

I think this is true. But my heart's darling was an over height Connie and I havent forgotten her. She had a zip and acceleration that wouldnt suit me today and I find that the horses I share and ride (my third now) become the horse I need at that time. I find that horses are obliging creatures and as John Lyons said, if you treat them politely as you would your bank manager, they are likely to treat you politely too,

 

[madsb]

Echo above, sounds like he has found a good home and is happy, in time you should grown a stronger partnership with your new horse and it should get a bit easier. You could ask for first refusal if they ever sell your old pony/if you could have him back at retirement age perhaps and get something drawn up?

Yes I have told them this, she’s always welcome back with me! I’m going to visit her this month too, her new owners are so lovely and have said I can visit anytime so I think keeping in touch has helped

 

[madsb]

I completely understand this. I sold my first horse a few years ago and even after buying 2 horses, I still miss him and regret selling him. I have never felt as safe and confident on a horse as I did on him. But! There was a reason I sold him and I am a better horsewoman because of the experiences I’ve had since selling him.

Echoing above, I’ve said to his new owner that I want first refusal if she ever sells him or wants him to go somewhere else for his retirement.

You’ve not had your new one for very long at all and I do think, with time, you will get the same relationship and trust in them as you did your old one. It is tough but you’ve got to remember why you sold them and try to focus on what you want to achieve with your new one.

Yes I felt so so safe on my pony, quite literally trusted her with my life! I don’t think it will ever be quite the same as my new boy but I like to think each horse teaches you something new

 

[spotty_pony2]

Echo above, sounds like he has found a good home and is happy, in time you should grown a stronger partnership with your new horse and it should get a bit easier. You could ask for first refusal if they ever sell your old pony/if you could have him back at retirement age perhaps and get something drawn up?

Yes I have told them this, she’s always welcome back with me! I’m going to visit her this month too, her new owners are so lovely and have said I can visit anytime so I think keeping in touch has helped

I’d get it in writing just to secure it. I once sold a pony I wanted first refusal on having back and the owner sold her without telling me. As it happens I wasn’t in a position to have her back but she didn’t even ask me!

 

[cindars]

When I lost my best mare I got a wonderful pure bred arab I found it very hard to adjust. My non horsey husband said just remember she isnt Cindy,it started to fall into plac3. Just took time.