new horse but not excited?

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Hi I was just looking for some opinions and own experiences about when you brought your new horse home. I brought mine home 3 days ago and when I tried him I LOVED him but I have not had the I am loving this feeling yet. Is it too early to be worried? Haha am I just being a big baby and once he settles he will be more like he was when I tried him? You guys will prob say give the poor guy a chance but worry is sneaking in and I should be so excited!
 
Its only been 3 days, so give him more time! Each horse is different, and some can take a while to bond with. So dont worry - just enjoy him! :)
 
i always get the pre-collection excitement but go off the boil slightly as soon as they are home as i worry over everything from 'have i done the right thing' to 'will my set up suit them' and then usually 'omg i bet i fall off the first time i ride':o i don't think i've ever fell head over heels in love straight away, takes me time to get to know them and their ways;)
 
Ibblebibble said:
i always get the pre-collection excitement but go off the boil slightly as soon as they are home as i worry over everything from 'have i done the right thing' to 'will my set up suit them' and then usually 'omg i bet i fall off the first time i ride':o i don't think i've ever fell head over heels in love straight away, takes me time to get to know them and their ways;)
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I get this way too plus if I fall off will they b****r off. I think most people have concerns when they first get a new horse, it takes a while to get to know each other.
 
Like others have said, give him (and yourself!) some time, it does take a while to bond. I've had two experiences of buying new horses and they've both been very different..

The first horse I had on loan at first and when I saw his advert online I just 'knew' that he was the one for me, tried him and loved him, and was so excited when I brought him home a few weeks later; the love was there from the beginning even though he wasn't the easiest of horses! And despite the difficulties (he'd been mistreated and was quite pessimistic and wary so I had a lot to work on) the bond just grew.

A couple of months after he passed away suddenly and tragically after a serious bout of colitis and colic, I bought my current horse from my yard owners and they bred him. I'd known him for a few years and always liked him, got to know him and liked him even more, but the excitement was never really there. I think it was because I was comparing him to my previous horse and still grieving for him, but everyone around me was telling me to move on and I knew I should have been doing that. I've had him for six months now and the bond has grown; I always loved him but it has taken me a while to get to know his quirks and develop my own relationship with him; this has been difficult in some ways because I keep him at the same yard and so his old owners are always around, although they never interfere or anything like that.

So I think for me the experience depends on circumstance; with my first horse it was a much more neutral experience, if that makes sense. I had nothing really to compare him to as although I'd been riding for over 10 years I'd never had my own horse, so there was the 'first horse excitement' as well. And it is normal to go through a stage of questioning whether you have done the right thing and/or whatever you are feeding them or whatever, it's because you care and want to get it right!

Good luck, enjoy your new boy.

Tash x
 
I thought I had died and gone to heaven when I got my horse. I was prepared for him to take a while to settle but he settled immediately and I felt like he had been mine forever. However I think that is quite rare! It took me a little longer to bond with my old horse (like months!) but once we got there it was fab, she was a star and I loved her to bits. Sometimes it can take time. Take each day as it comes and try not to worry too much.
 
I got my new one about 2 weeks ago and only this week have i had that feeling i was really excited about him coming then the worry sets in but now i think he is great
 
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