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Hi girls finally took the plunge and brought a new horse! :) for tho's of you who don't know any back ground, i've been non horsey for about 6 years due to having 2 children.

Got him home on Thursday travelled lovely, he is a bit poor but nothing a wormer and a good feeding regime can't fix.

He's 15 hands 10 years old welsh section D x Friesian. (pics soon)

Now for the bad part me! i've been building up to this for months buying bits and bobs to add to what i already had (Kept everything).

And looking so forward to getting back in the saddle, and now i've gone to pot, I'm jumpy, not confident around him, he has a funny five minutes earlier due to the spring grass, all normal i know but i nearly cried, questioning to what he was doing and why, i could kick myself if i could i know im being silly, but it's like im going to have a panic attack. just feeling really disappointed with myself and had to talk to someone even if it is to complete strangers.

any advice appreciated
 
Aww lovely, well done on making the plunge to get back into the horsey world. It might be a good idea to have some lessons on a trusted school master to help you regain your confidence?
 
do you have anyone nearby who can come and help you with him.If not whereabouts are you? I'm sure there is someone who will be willing to help you. I doubt you are anywhere near me.I'm in East Kent.
All new horses will try it on with a new handler. This is to be expected no matter what age,size or type of horse. You need to feign confidence even if you don't feel it.I know this is easier said than done. Do not allow him to get away with naughtiness or he will push his luck further.You need to be firm with him setting boundaries so he knows what is expected of him from the start and he will be less likely to push his luck with you and should settle faster. Given you have been away from horses for a fair amount of time you are bound to feel stressed and worried that you are doing things right. However try to be firm with him when he pushes his luck with you and don't make excuses for him with spring grass as he will then think this is acceptable behaviour.
 
dont worry, you'll soon get back into the swing of things :)

Are you at a yard or do you keep him at home? it may be a good idea to go to yard (if not already there) for a little while, as sure there will be lots of very experianced and friendly people to give you a hand and reassure you. And once you get riding, maybe go out on quiet hacks with a friend? or join local rc? i find that you are less likely to panic if you have someone with you, and if you do they will soon reassure you!

good luck and have fun with new horsey :) sure you will

x
 
My advise, get a really good instructor or at least an experienced friend to help you out. Give it time, take it slow and you will be well away!
 
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Or even better, book a lesson on your new horse at your own place if poss. so you don't have to worry about travel at this stage. You'll feel so much more confident even after just one lesson I'll bet, and it'll set you on the right road. Remember that he'll also be feeling "lost" at this stage too - perfectly natural for both of you. Very best of luck!
 
I was sort of where you are two years ago. New horse and returning to riding after a long break. I have the advantage of a very knowledgeable OH and I am also a very confident person, so within a very short time I was riding H out on my own, but I probably wouldn't do that again as he was nappy and I was a rubbish rider.

I believe it would be very worth while if you just spent time with him, doing field chores or messing about in the stable or grooming him.

You don't know him, he doesn't know you and time spent just getting to know one another is valuable.
 
Oh bless u, I know exactly how you feel, I bought one in October after a 9 year break and was horrified at my lack of confidence. I would suggest having someone on the ground when you ride, even chatting with you as you ride round keeps you breathing evenly and more relaxed and do have some refresher lessons to help you re establish your seat. Sadly my lovely boy was mis sold and had to be returned to dealer a couple of weeks ago so while i look for something else i intend to hack out at local riding school to try and build confidence up so it doesn;t deplete further. Persevere, it will be so worth it and as you build a bond with your new horse everything will feel so much better and you will soon feel good enough to enjoy it all properly again. Good luck, keep us posted x
 
Beckie65 said:
Hi girls finally took the plunge and brought a new horse! :) for tho's of you who don't know any back ground, i've been non horsey for about 6 years due to having 2 children.

Got him home on Thursday travelled lovely, he is a bit poor but nothing a wormer and a good feeding regime can't fix.

He's 15 hands 10 years old welsh section D x Friesian. (pics soon)

Now for the bad part me! i've been building up to this for months buying bits and bobs to add to what i already had (Kept everything).

And looking so forward to getting back in the saddle, and now i've gone to pot, I'm jumpy, not confident around him, he has a funny five minutes earlier due to the spring grass, all normal i know but i nearly cried, questioning to what he was doing and why, i could kick myself if i could i know im being silly, but it's like im going to have a panic attack. just feeling really disappointed with myself and had to talk to someone even if it is to complete strangers.

any advice appreciated
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Hope you're feeling a wee bit more 'up' about things today?

You'll get there in the end. I always find when I have wobbles and doubt myself that a good horsey friend and a good moan to said friend always helps!

When I first bought my horse I was very much on my own with her and as soon as anyone turned up (i.e farrier, vet, friends etc) I'd bend their ear off about how they thoguht I was doing. In hindsight prob would have been better off at a nice friendly yard!

There's no rush - you've got him forever now if you want, take your time and get to know him at a pace you're comfortable with

Good luck - keep us posted! x
 
Oooo he is gorgeous, good luck with him! I know what you mean about being nervous and stuff, I was the same, but just spend time with him and let you both get use to each other and I'm sure he'll be a lovely boy :)
 
Beckie 65......welcome to the getting a new horsie after having a break club :-D
I got my new horse in march after a break of 7 years (only riding out every 6 months or so in that time). I took the plunge and i had the same as you......i suddenly had a bit of a confidence crisis. My new horse napped and had a pretty good buck to him (a 12 year old having got away with murder in his last home!) and i was totally all over the place....but it will come back, you will be fine, i am now happily riding him out and putting up with his odd tantrum with no worries at all now. It really does take time to get into the full swing of it, they are big animals at the end of the day....we are not talking bunny rabbits or kittens....they are heavy, unpredictable and strong so its no wonder that you are a bit nervous as i was. But give it a few more weeks, you will be the boss and you will be fine. DOnt try and rush anything, just do everything at your own pace, little steps at a time. Also, if you have got horsey or even non horsey people around you that are willing to spend a bit of time with you and your horse, dont be afraid to ask them, just having someone around when you ride can make the world of difference.
New horse looks lovely. Hope you both have a wonderfull time together and keep us posted :-D
 
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