Not missing riding... have I lost the bug, or just need a break?

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I took my horse to BD area festivals about 3 weeks ago, and he was a nightmare, coming second to last :( I have not ridden since then, not because I'm afraid, but I just feel no inclination to get on board, which is so unlike me.

I have got a lot on at the moment, I start a new graduate job on Monday, which I am desperate to make a good impression in, and very scared for too!
In addition, me and my OH have moved into a new house, and are doing lots of home improvements, new bathroom etc, which is all taking attention and energy.

I told myself I wouldn't stress myself out and try and get all the horses worked while I was starting my job, and have decided to give the horses a bit of a holiday, so I don't need to stress about them. But usually, I am missing riding like mad, and at the moment, I'm not fussed in the slightest :( in fact, I'm not even that bothered about seeing them at all! The weather turning colder is putting me off too, and I'm worried that I might be losing interest in horses! I still can't imagine giving them up despite not wanting to ride at the moment but it's not like me to feel like this...

Is feeling like this normal at all, or am I just adapting to a new chapter of my life... thoughts please??? xx
 
I know how you're feeling. Ned didn't do anything wrong, but (not sure if you know) he's been lame for a while. At first, I missed it like mad, but now I just like being around them. I'm sure once he's better, I'll want to hop back on, but for now...*shrugs*
 
You sound like you have a lot on your plate at the moment. Maybe a break will do you good? Any time I have stopped riding to concentrate on other things like college, Uni etc. I have always gone back. Good luck in your new job.
 
Wow you have a lot on your plate at the moment!. I moved house twice in 8 months and while I was only loaning at the time, I loved my riding but couldn't be bothered doing so! Don't underestimate the power of an over clogged mind. I bet if you actually got on you'd love it, but getting there takes effort which I don't think you have at the moment. It will come back when you have an ounce of space in your brain to think about it! :-)
 
its not unusual. i did have a few breaks in the last 15 years or so, partly due to work and partly due to injuries. give yourself a bit more time. hopefully everything will be ok...
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I took 3 months off riding at the beginning of the year...injury, upset/silly horses, bad environment, weather....exams, house selling and generally feeling s**tness... All made me feel that I didn't want to ride for a while and really it just wasn't practical!!!!

I found I needed the time off, gave me the oppertunity to spend quality time on the ground once I'd had a while to my self and just do the basics with them (muck out and feed etc!) and then jumped back on in April and haven't looked back since......

Just stop, relax....they won't die if you don't shower love on them..... We all need a bit of time away from them as the normally rule our lives.... Give your horse a break and I'm sure he will be better in his work!
 
I used to be really horsey - but then a full time job / kids sort of took precedence. I now have a horse (my former pointer) that I can drag in from the field when I feel like a ride - but when I don't then it does not matter (the horse is at home, so has a good standard of care) It must be far more difficult if you have a horse at livery, not at home.
 
Thanks everyone, I hope you are all right! Think I do just need some time to readjust to everything, I have a baby horse too who will be 3 in April, so hope I get enough motivation back to really keep working with him, don't want him turning wild! I suppose I could advertise for a sharer to if worst comes to worse.
 
I felt the exact same about a month ago, mine lives out in summer so it was almost too easy to just not ride, wizz down check he still had 4 legs but not much else! I just didnt feel like it, I was enjoying being clean and enjoying the summer with everyone else. This mean he had 4 weeks off, he didnt care infact he probably enjoyed it. I really worried I was losing interest and should I sell etc. I have ridden twice now this week and had forgotten how much I loved it. I think sometimes you just lose your riding mojo and need a break, take the pressure off and you may find next time you do get on, even after a break, you will have forgotten how much you love it!!
 
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