Not sure if he's right for me, should i sell him? Help!!

[amanda1788]

Hi

I need some advice. I have a 14.2 welsh D type pony he's 5 years old and is a bit green. He was my first horse to own, I have had him for about 6 months and i'm not sure if we're right for each other. I love him a lot and care about him but judt dont feel we're right. I want to be competing and like jumping, but he has only just started jumping and is a bit green to take out yet, as he gets quite excited. I know these things can be worked on and in a year or so he could be doing loads more, but i just feel he's my first horse and i'm spending a lot of money on him and not getting to go out and have any fun on him. i'd love to do some sponsored rides and things but he isn't ready.
I feel bad saying all this as i do think a lot of him and would never want anything bad to happen t him, its just so frustrating and i could really do with some advice.
Sorry about long post.

 

[Benjamin]

Sorry to hear you are finding things hard.
Do you have an experienced person to help you?

Even now, I have someone on hand who can help me out with problems that occur, to me, this is a godsend.

But if you are thinking he isn't the one for you, maybe it will be for the best that you part and you find something a little more suitable. After all, we pay a hell of a lot of money for these beasts, and we need to be able to enjoy!

P x

 

[oofadoofa]

I posted a while ago with much the same question, and I can say, that after having my horse for about 9 months now we are finally getting to grips with one another! I bought mine as a 5 year old and he was quite green and I kept wishing I'd bought something a bit older that knew it's job. But we seem to have really "clicked" the last couple of months. So stick at it! I reckon it takes a year to really get to know a horse.

 

[Janah]

I have been in your situation. If you are not happy sell him. Welsh D's in my experience are quite difficult and not the granny's ride they are often thought to be, not that I am suggesting you want or need a granny's ride. I think Welsh D's take a while to mature.

The only thing is finding a replacement and sometimes the devil you know.......

Do you have help with him? I don't know how much experience you have but maybe something easier to cope with will be better.

I'm probably not much help to you at all. Only you know in your heart of hearts whether he is right for you.

 

[MarinaBay]

I bought a 5 year old section D as my first horse and felt exactly like you do. Now 4 years later i love her to pieces we have such a strong bond. I could never part with her now, yet at the beginning i felt just as you do. Stick at it, i agree with offadoofa it can take up to a year to get to know your horse. What is so nice is that you can learn with him. Think of how proud you will be of him in a years time to think you helped to produce the way he is. Are you at a busy yard? I find having lots of support around you helps so much. Stick at it, this is your chance to put your stamp on him

xx

 

[cob1]

Im in exactly the same position - bought rising 6 cob in April, and compared to my first ploddy horse he is strong, forward going and very green. I used to be so tense when riding him, he would just jog everywhere, but slowly but surely, i am relaxing and getting to grips with him. The thing that scares me most is taking him on roads, and i miss it dearly but we will get there in the not so distant future.

If you decide you want to keep him, just celebrate evry milestone - i went on a hack with the craziest horse on teh yard last nite, he got so wound up we were jogging sideways on the verge when cars were passing - i was extremely pleased when i got back in one piece.

If you do want to sell - dont beat yourself up - you obviously care dearly for him, and you would be doing it for teh right reasons. I put my ad up and it was down the next day!!!!

 

[ladyt25]

Don't mean to sound off but if you wanted to do all these things then I do question why you bought a 5yo green horse?

Plus, I don't get either why he isn't 'ready' for doing things like sponsored rides etc. My advice would be just take him out and about, start as you mean to go on or it will remain green. I think you will be surprised how quickly a horse will 'grow up' mentally the more you throw at them basically. Provided he's not doing anything dangerous then i don't see the problem with him being a bit excited, he's a baby he's bound to be. Take him out with a calmer horse so he realises there's nothing to get giddy about/

Take him to a couple of shows if you've not done that, pop him round a clear round or just wander him round to get used to the enviroment, there's loads you can be doing. Also if you want to jump get yourself some jumping lessons would be my advice.