Now I'm a timewaster

Captain Bridget

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A bit of background info; I've recently made the decision to move home due to lack of funds. So I will be at my parents house paying half the rent I was previously paying in a rubbish flat. This does mean I need to find a new job because travelling half an hour each way for a job paying just over £6 an hour isn't worth it, especially when I'm only getting one 5 hour shift a week at the moment.

Because I moved I gave up my previous share horse. I was very lucky and wasn't paying for him. So I've not ridden since September and want to get into it. I emailed my previous shares owner but haven't had a reply yet and I sent the message on Friday. I saw someone looking for a rider for their horse on a local Facebook group so asked for some details.

I started getting into details, working out the financial contribution. I offered £50 and to help with her other horses too.

But then I realised I really can't afford to offer money to someone in case I don't get a job for a while. I do have some saving but I want to try and save them! I wouldn't want to let her down a month or two in.

So I made the tough decision to say sorry, no I can't. Now I feel like I've wasted her time and got her hopes up. I feel really bad. :(

I did my best to apologise, does this sound like a decent thing/the right thing to do in my circumstances?
 
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Better to tell her now than continue. As long as you apologised, can't see how your a time waster especially if working out the financial details.
 
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Agree that you should tell her sooner rather than later otherwise it will prob be deemed as wasting her time. Just explain that you have had a really good think about it and you are not 100% sure if you can commit and rather than waste her time you will give it a miss and let her find someone that can make the commitment.

Im sure she will understand. I have made rash decisions in the past and had to change my mind, if you explain and dont leave it too long people are usually very understanding :)
 
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Don't worry I'm sure they will understand. Just keep looking for more suitable shares/rides, I'm sure you should be able to find something.
Just to give you some examples/hope; I am at university and have found people to ride my horse while I am away (no money involved.) I also know of people who are glad of help exercising and looking after their horses and would not ask for money (unfortunately I am not near you!). So I would recommend advertising in all your local tack shops. Hope you find something soon :)
 
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