OH and Your Horses

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Bettyboo1976

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Well, Just had new horse for just over a week now and she is settling in really well... Dragged me to field first day.. GRRR! but not done it since.. silly mare! Bolted with me as she thought we were going to jump a XC jump... lmao we were in walk.. silly mare again.. oh well guess she was just being silly spooky. Anyway, my non horsey OH decied he want to sit on her.. so that was fine.. she is 16h biggest he has sat on was about 14h. anyway he thought this was great... wow i feel really high up etc.. now he wants me to ride her out on hacks and then me to lead him back... (so much for my horse) he has also decided to take up riding lessons at local school.. .. ok thats fine.. but... today he said can i bring "Betty" in today for you and groom her and she will be ready for you when you get home from work to ride... does he not understand.. this is MY horse.. NOT his... I want to bond with her.. NOT HIM! am i being really selfish? are all OH like this? I can see it now. 6weeks time after what 6 or so lessons he will be like.. why do you do it like that.. you shouldnt be doing it that way.. GRRR!! i do love him but... I want my horsey back!! does anyone else have this trouble? will the novelty wear off? oh i hope so.. i love my time with my horse.. not kids no OH... just wondering you oppionions
 
TBH I think you are being a bit selfish, him wanting to bring her in and groom her for you is lovely, and it wont make her love you any less.

When we got Beau in Feb I got OH to do loads with him too, so he bonded with us both, OH got into riding and now rides both horses.

I certainly dont feel jealous and I would rather have a partner who was interested and wanted to be involved than one who didnt give a toss.

Enjoy it, the novelty may wear off, and if it doesnt, well you will have a riding buddy and an excuse to have another horse!
 
Wow i would love my OH to be that interested in my horses!
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He can just about manage to come down with me, maybe at a push lead one in from the field, and will pat and make a fuss of them but that is about it! Major improvement on a year ago however when he would not come within 5 miles of them - not joking!
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Ok.. so maybe i am being a little bit selfish... its just you know having a family etc.. i dont get a lot of time to myself.. and this way i get space and time to chill.. i feel like he is trying to take over.. even though he doesnt have a clue... lol i suppose i should be greatfull.. maybe i should pretend to be ill for a few days and let him get up at 6am and muck out etc.. obviously i would make sure it was a wet and cold day.. lol i am so nasty.. but i do love him (honest)
 
Maybe my OH is just feeling a little bit neglected.. i did fall asleep at 8.30 on saturday night when he had planned a nice romantic night in.. ooh and when i went to stables on sunday morning i didnt return till 1pm as i was watchin dressage.. etc.. lol its just sooo peacefull though..
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Maybe my OH is just feeling a little bit neglected.. i did fall asleep at 8.30 on saturday night when he had planned a nice romantic night in.. ooh and when i went to stables on sunday morning i didnt return till 1pm as i was watchin dressage.. etc.. lol its just sooo peacefull though..
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You'd better be careful...if your horse is paying your OH more attention than you, his affections may wander.
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Well, my OH enjoys riding, but that is it. He likes to turn up and get on, go for ride, then come back, get off and go home!

He will pick up a brush at a push, but boy does he moan. As for mucking out, he thinks the horses put their poos into the wheelbarrow themselves!
 
I think it is lovely that he is so intrested and willing to help. Why not just get him a horse of his own that he can look after then you can look after yours and you will both be happy?
 
As i said he is non horsey and this is the first horse i have owned in nearly 10 years.. OMG how things have changed... where did all the canvas rugs go?? lol not that i mind. Theses new fangled ones are much lighter. as i said he is probably feeling a little neglected.. i guess i should encourage his interest.. who knows maybe a year down the line he could have his own. actually 2 horses does sound better than one.. ooh a friend for Betty she would love that
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.. I wonder if my bank balance could stretch??? more to the point could his???
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Oh I would love for my OH to do that on occasion...make my life so much easier if I could just get on and go! But my OH never would...he loves my horse and comes to say hello and will feed him if I am stuck working one night but that is as far as it goes because my horse just see's him as an easy touch and pesters the hell out of him! I don't mind that though as my horse is my time and I like to do things for him to myself.
 
My OH used to ride my horse (Mae) and i admit it did annoy me. She was suppose to be my baby!! However she bonded with me more as i was the one feeding her lol. We bought a half brother of hers (Finn) and he started turning his attention to him, but then started complaining he couldnt ride as Finn is only coming 2.

So bought him a 15.2hh tb which he loved but once weight was on him, he turned into a evil boy. Sold him and bought angel a 13.3hh heavy cob who looks like Finn, she was too "slow and boring" so i took her on and he went and bought Mo, his big 17hh tb who is the sweetest horse ive met. They have a great bond and he leaves Mae alone now, well most of the time.
 
my OH has never been interested in horses or my riding to be honest, but he seems more interested now I have George, but he is happy to help with mucking out (yeah!), making up haynets and feeds. He pats George and chats to him, and leads him but has shown no interest in grooming or riding, I am really happy that he is starting to show some interest, but like you I might get worried if he got too interested!!
 
Hmmm, bit torn on this as OH doesn't take much interest in the neds these days and sometimes wish he would. Having said that he ties them to odd things and is a bit of a liability TBH. I just wish he'd get more involved with the social scene on the yard but the new place isn't full of nubile young women so he's lost interest!

I think the novelty will wear thin eventually especially when your OH next has a cold/man flu so would just make the most of the help, it won't last!
 
my OH convinced me to buy my boy and we both insist on turning up to "do him" ususally in seperate cars even tho we both say we want the night off, we cant stay away but it makes me laugh, cos my OH moans she never gets to ride my boy (altho her dad does, her nephew does, her sister in law does) and when she gets given the chance ie my work commitments or illness etc, she is too busy or tired so i cant win! however, i do well out of it, very, she wont let me buy him anything secondhand so if i spot a "bargain" that he needs and i "cant afford" new she invariably insists on buying it new for him, not me you understand, him! i am pushing my luck with the "popping down to see him" line and returning 4 hours later oops. i must admit tho, talking about the bonding / selfishness aspect of it, when i got him i made sure he was groomed/fed by me and knew i was mum and i was thrilled when OH took care of the boy when the farrier came this week (i was ill) and farrier said that he thought she would/could handle the boy better than me cos of her yard experience and size but obviously not, to which OH replied, youre kidding, he does nothing for me but does absolutely anything "mum" asks for...ah bliss AS IT SHOULD BE haha!
 
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