oh dear!!!

[kateknights]

Ok so my sharer that i took on for my boy last week took him out on a hack last night (her first one), now in the ad i did say that he is quirky and very insecure on his own (he's only rising 4).
Anyhoo, she fell off him She was ok just a bit bruised as the ground is like bl**dy concrete at the mo!
He has never had anyone fall off him before so he was naturally shocked and on his toes after this event! I think her confidence has totally gone now! She did say that she will not ride him out alone now only with another horse or someone biking or walking with her.
I am not sure what to do now, i mean i took on a sharer to get him going on his own, am i being unreasonable? When i spoke to her on the phone she did tell me she was an experienced rider, so maybe i didn't expect her reaction to be what it has been.
I am not asking to be shouted at, just a bit of advice please and your thoughts
thanks
K x

 

[Sparkles]

Have you seen her riding before this? Only as half the people I've had enquire before havestated they're experienced riders when they're actually not...hence why I always ride my horse first, show them how they go and how to ride them and then let them ride them in an enclosed space etc and then if they get on ok and can ride them, I'll accompany them out on a hack first as hacking and schooling can be 2 very different things!

I'd be thinking her reaction is more her now worried about making the problem worse, rather than lack of confidence...I'm the same with youngsters other than my own. I dislike doing anything with them alone in the early stages as it's the easiest and most fragile time to make or break them. I have confidence in myself I could do it fine as have done ones previously myself...however they were mine and not owned by someone else - hence why I don't leave it to chance something going wrong when the owner isn;t there and it coming back on me for an accident. Not my baby so I don't want the blame to fall on me if something did go wrong!

I would say if you need someone to work through his issues out on his own...then I'd do it myself or send him away to a professional rather than leave it to chance as he's obviously not going out on his own with this sharer now as you've said...that's why you got one in the first place. I don't know how many people of that experience with youngsters anyway would be paying me to share one or help me with one for free tbh.

Only my thoughts though! Hope no long term damage has been done x x

 

[Equus Leather]

I imagine your sharer is feeling embarrassed too. As asked above, have you seen her ride before?

 

[legaldancer]

Oh dear!

Do you know what happened & if something triggered it?

This happened with a horse I used to own. I asked a competent friend who had her own horse to hack him out & she came off. I had been losing my confidence on the horse, although I never expected him to do something bad enough for her to fall off!

She wouldn't get back on him either, so I was back to square one. It was years before the horse did it again, but when he did I could totally see what must have happened.

Does your sharer have her own rider's insurance? I think this is necessary these days I'm afraid. Maybe she's covered on yours?