MidnightStar
Well-Known Member
As the title suggests, really...
Also, I really hope this doesn't come accross as completely patronising and horrible - that's really not my intent!
So...
I've got a friend (small build, not overly confident in her riding ability or about standing up for herself, 25ish years old and will now be called X) who is a relatively competant rider (walk, trot, canter, jumps up to about 2'3", has done a bit of gentlish (mostly walk, a few trots, possibly one 100 yard canter) hacking and has done a few local showing/clear round/2' jumping competitions) With regards to riding experience, she has ridden a fair few riding school ponies and a friend's quiet cob and an elderly Trakaner (sp?) x welsh cob who is as quiet as a lamb to ride.
Currently, she's loaning a 13.2hh NF who's done a bit of everything but he's going back to his loan home in a couple of weeks and X has decided to take the plunge and buy her own horse.
With the advice of a much older friend (called A) who doubles up as her instructor (not qualified but let's just not even go there...) and helps her with mucking out/looking after the loan pony/ exercising it etc. X has decided to go with A and look at a few horses to see what's around at the moment. Now A has decided that X needs to look at slightly more 'keyed in' horses than her current loan pony and A has found X a 'perfect' horse to move onto - a 6 year old, 16.2 Dutch warmblood that has jumped 1.20m courses at home and, quite frankly, pulls like a train judging by the way the pictures she has of him being ridden by his current owner is with the horse clearly setting his jaw and locking his neck muscles up against his rider's arms!
To me, this WB is a bit of a big step up for a not overly confident rider off riding school ponies, quiet cobs and a 13.2, 16 year old Forester...
Now, A has told X that the horse is a bit more than what she's used to but that she (A) is quite happy to help with exercising and schooling until my friend gets the hang of him.
Perhaps I'm just cynical but A currently doesn't have a horse of her own and likes challenging rides... buying a horse for her or my friend...?
X keeps insisting (over and over again...) that she likes him but she only rode him for about 5 minutes in walk and a tiny trot and seems a bit definite that this WB is 'perfect'. I asked X whether she was going to ride the WB again and she said in a slightly strained voice, "Oh no, he looks fine. I think he'll just take a bit of time to settle down as he was excited today and besides, A rode him and said she liked him. He's just a bit lively, that's all - he can buck when he's jumping though but that won't matter, will it."
No, of course not... except you (X) told me a few days ago all you wanted was a nice horse to have a go at 2'3" riding club classes with...?!
When I found out about this today, huge warning signs came up in my mind but I don't know whether I should say anything to my friend about this horse being too much for her. Am I just being overly cynical and am being unfair and should mind my own buisness or am I right to be worried?
I'm just at a loss now as I really, really don't want to see my friend losing her confidence
Any thoughts? And I'm sorry for such a long post too.
Midnight x
Also, I really hope this doesn't come accross as completely patronising and horrible - that's really not my intent!
So...
I've got a friend (small build, not overly confident in her riding ability or about standing up for herself, 25ish years old and will now be called X) who is a relatively competant rider (walk, trot, canter, jumps up to about 2'3", has done a bit of gentlish (mostly walk, a few trots, possibly one 100 yard canter) hacking and has done a few local showing/clear round/2' jumping competitions) With regards to riding experience, she has ridden a fair few riding school ponies and a friend's quiet cob and an elderly Trakaner (sp?) x welsh cob who is as quiet as a lamb to ride.
Currently, she's loaning a 13.2hh NF who's done a bit of everything but he's going back to his loan home in a couple of weeks and X has decided to take the plunge and buy her own horse.
With the advice of a much older friend (called A) who doubles up as her instructor (not qualified but let's just not even go there...) and helps her with mucking out/looking after the loan pony/ exercising it etc. X has decided to go with A and look at a few horses to see what's around at the moment. Now A has decided that X needs to look at slightly more 'keyed in' horses than her current loan pony and A has found X a 'perfect' horse to move onto - a 6 year old, 16.2 Dutch warmblood that has jumped 1.20m courses at home and, quite frankly, pulls like a train judging by the way the pictures she has of him being ridden by his current owner is with the horse clearly setting his jaw and locking his neck muscles up against his rider's arms!
To me, this WB is a bit of a big step up for a not overly confident rider off riding school ponies, quiet cobs and a 13.2, 16 year old Forester...
Now, A has told X that the horse is a bit more than what she's used to but that she (A) is quite happy to help with exercising and schooling until my friend gets the hang of him.
Perhaps I'm just cynical but A currently doesn't have a horse of her own and likes challenging rides... buying a horse for her or my friend...?
X keeps insisting (over and over again...) that she likes him but she only rode him for about 5 minutes in walk and a tiny trot and seems a bit definite that this WB is 'perfect'. I asked X whether she was going to ride the WB again and she said in a slightly strained voice, "Oh no, he looks fine. I think he'll just take a bit of time to settle down as he was excited today and besides, A rode him and said she liked him. He's just a bit lively, that's all - he can buck when he's jumping though but that won't matter, will it."
No, of course not... except you (X) told me a few days ago all you wanted was a nice horse to have a go at 2'3" riding club classes with...?!
When I found out about this today, huge warning signs came up in my mind but I don't know whether I should say anything to my friend about this horse being too much for her. Am I just being overly cynical and am being unfair and should mind my own buisness or am I right to be worried?
I'm just at a loss now as I really, really don't want to see my friend losing her confidence
Any thoughts? And I'm sorry for such a long post too.
Midnight x