oh how I would love a horsey bf

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dont get me wrong, current (sort of/most of the time/when he fancies it/when there is no football going on in the entire universe) bf does try!

but someone who actually enjoys horses and who (heaven forbid!!) would enjoy trudging around the events and shows or go for a lovely pre- sunday dinner ride rather than ''but its Sunday, why would you get up early on a sunday, surely even the pony wants a lie in''

does such a beast exist!!
 
You don't want a horsey bf as they then intrude on your "me time" with the horseys, but a bf that is happy to help bath said horse on occasions and come to Olympia and spend money there on you, and happy to walk around horse trials with you, is a good start! I've got one of those!! He would ride, if I had a horse but he's not that bothered. Mind you, I do walk around the fields with him at the Model plane shows etc, and help him set up his planes, so guess its only fair!

He'll never understand the affect a horse has on me (like lack of sanity!) but he's fine with it!!
 
I can't think of anything worse to be honest!

Horses are my 'me' time, I don't mean the day to day grind which is a downright bore to be honest and I'm grateful for any help I do get in that respect.

It would drive me insane if OH wanted to come out when I ride. I ride to get away from everything, and everyone, and would hate it beyond words if that freedom was taken away from me too.

If I want to talk horses I have plenty of friends to do that with, it is quite nice not to talk horse at home.
 
I couldnt deal with a horsey bf.

My other half is great he will happily come out and give me a hand if I ask, give them a pat and a carrot, bring in from the field, drive the lorry etc but its my thing and thats how I like it.

He puts up with living in the middle of no where and having a fairly long trek to the office, comes with me to events, walks round shops and is generally supportive but as others have said its my escape from the world. Nothing like hanging out on your own with your horse. :cool:
 
I understand what you are all saying but here is my 2p worth. Although I'm a bloke it can works just the same, I too need my ME time with my horse and am aware of how important it is. My partner has her horse at the same yard but we make a point of not doing everything together. I hack out with the other girls in the yard and also on my own, we share the yard works and sometimes do it together when time is short. So a fine balance is needed and she knows my horse comes first :-)

Kev
 
I absolutely love the fact that my OH is a horsey person! He doesn't ride anymore (is a fair bit older than me and says he wouldn't bounce anymore!) but helps me muck out every day and enjoys spending time with my horse, he loves her as much as I do. It's one of our shared interests.

I don't have any horsey friends to talk to really so it's ideal in my case.
 
My hubby hates horses and moans constantly about the money and the time I take with them (while he has the kids) however I have tried to get him involved a bit - he doesnt ride either and I thought he was maybe feeling a bit left out!

So I have convinced him he can become my driver when I go out competing - he is so hooked on the idea he has just bought me a 7.5 non HGV instead of trailer so we can all go out as a family...hee hee IT WORKED.. how good was that LOL
 
Well mine wasn't horsey when i met him & was positively scared of them....nearly 5 years later he now has 2 of his own. So why don't you just find a bloke & convert him, at least that way he wont come with any preconceived ideas about how you should do this that & all the other & drive you nuts in the process lol!!!
 
Well I have just had a really weird experience. Me and boyf just had a arguement about whether we need either a) new hoover b) New driving bridle for his cob


I WON :D


But weird argueing against buying new horse stuff. Plus if your both horsey it means the house is muddy, both cars are muddy. But secretly I LOVE having a horsey boyf and one that can make his own hay by doing some extra work around the place he works on he has been "given" 4 acres for the summer, now that is love and devotion for you :D
 
My OH gets grumpy when Iam out doing the horses. Always complains that I was FAR longer than I said I would be. I can't seriously compete EVERY month can I? lol (I don't btw but the though almost gave him heart failure!) Horses are very expensive and only for 'posh' people, so when I say I really do have a horse on the cheap he doesn't understand - his computer games cost more than my months horse rent!
I wish he would show some interest, come and watch me once or twice competing or join me on his bike while we go out for a hack - but no, it's boring!! When we first met, he did join me once at a BE, he claims never again. Somewhere I aslo have a photo of him holding Meg while Iam doing a photo shoot - he looks quite worried by the experience, but at least he did do it! (I also managed to take him out on a borrowed big horse - he liked that horse and it worked for 3 rides. The past is a shocker!!)
 
Oh no thanks! I'd like one in between; where they will help lift the heavy stuff but not invade 'my space'. My ex used to get jealous of my horse. My argument; I've waited 21 years for a horse and not going to waste a minute. That and I knew the horse would always be there for me whilst my ex wouldn't! ;)
 
i was thinking the same thing earlier! but then thought of them getting in the way and me time etc :/ maybe a bf that just understands and is there for you would do me fine :) and preferably this side of the atlantic! :(
RuthnMeg - Your meg has a look of my meg a lil :o
 
I love having a horsey bf. We get to spend loads of time together, I have someone to bounce schooling ideas off, a free groom at shows and vice versa for him, someone to hack out with and we both understand the time, effort and money horses take.
Then if we want some me time we just get on with our own horses or one of us has a day off from the yard while the other goes down.
 
It's nice to have someone you trust look after your horse while you are ill or hungover. We are at diff yards but just 1/2 mile apart so can spend lots of time together or apart. He still thinks my mare has far too many rugs etc. That's the biggest downside they know if you"need" another rug or just buy too much.
 
My bf wasn't horsey when he met me but he now loves Harry as much as I do :) bless him, he's still very much learning and sometimes he really riles me when he thinks what I'm doing is wrong (wouldn't mind if he knew something!) and it can take time for him to understand why I do things as I do, but he is brilliant if I want a lie in or go away for the weekend, as he'll happily sort coblet.

I work full time mon-fri and at a night club fri and sat, so he normally gets up at the weekend to sort him as I don't get in til gone 4 lol. But I would agree that sometimes I feel he's stepping on my toes and invading my 'me' time so have to make him stay at home sometimes but hey ho, can't complain when he does so much :) He's also learning to ride so he can ride Harry, but that won't be for a while as he can't last more than 5 minutes trotting at the mo!! I love that I'm fitter than him :D

Unfortunately, he doesn't like coming to shows with me as it bores him (he doesn't see the point), but would be lovely to have him there with the camera sometimes. Ah well, maybe, just maybe, I'll bring him round to that too :D
 
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