Ok - am I being a stingy witch?

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Will try to be brief.

I have a horse out on loan. We have a loan agreement.
The girl has had the horse for nearly a month and seems very devoted to him. However she has just stopped working due to (longterm) ill health and is now short of money to keep him.
Before she took the horse on loan we expressed concern about her financial stability, and she assured us that her parents/OH etc would help her out if she needed, and that money would not be a problem. Despite this, and the fact that the loan agreement states that all costs (except insurance) are her responsibility whilst the horse is in her care, she has asked if we could contribute to his keep until she is able to work again.

WEll, ever the mug, I thought maybe I could help (although it was just a maybe) so I asked what amount she was thinking of and said I would think about it. She has free livery and hay, so I thought it couldn't be much - bedding, feed and shoes really as a matter of course. Anyway, the cheeky minx wants £50, a week!!

Is she bedding him down on him silk sheets and feeding him caviar???

Anyway I said no, I can't afford that anyway. I am financially able to keep my horses in a nice way (just!) but only because I have a second job to pay for them. If I could afford to keep the horse he wouldn't be out on loan anyway!

She has called me a stingy snobby witch who has no compassion for people who are not as well off as myself! I have surprised myself by nearly bursting into tears!

Am I being unreasonable? I told her that if she couldn't afford to keep the horse I would have him back.
 
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Tell her to get notted and get the horse back. How dare she say that when you have given her a lovely horse!

My horses don't cost me that in bedding and feed for 2 of them and they are fed the best of the best and on hemcore/aubiose at nearly £10 a bale!
 
She wants her cake and to eat it doesnt she? £50 per week is excessive and she has the luxery of free livery. Taking the p--ss springs to mind Im afraid. I would cancel the loan and get your horse back. What will she want next I would be asking myself. Im sure you can do better than this and in the meantime get your horse home. Could you try and find a sharer who can help with the costs and keep him at home? Just a thought.

Good luck!
 
OMG! You are not being a stingy witch at all! I would have also burst into tears if someone had said that to me! I've never had my own horse and have always loaned and would never dream of talking to the horses owner like that. I suggest you get the horse back and put him out on loan who soemone who can afford it and it grateful to you for allowing them the priviledge of not having to fork out to buy a horse!
 
What a cow! Tell her to shove it and get your horse back! She has entered into a contract to loan your horse and therefore pay the costs involved, either she can pay or she can't. I understand that people fall on hard times, but people also have responsibilities. If she can't pay for him and she has the cheek to insult you as his owner, she can't have him - simples! :D
 
Thank you. I think it just took me by surprise - was a bit shocked and didn't manage to gather my wits quick enough to tell her where to stick it!
She seems to want to play the victim card as she is unable to work (but plenty well enough to spend all day riding...)
Will not settle for a less than 10* home this time :D
 
Good on you! Be strong and be prepared for unpleasantness when you deal with her. Just remember its your horse and very precious to you - she isnt!!
 
Nope not at all.....if you could afford 50 a week you would have kept him yourself.

How much of a notice period do you have to give her or can you invoke "special cirumcstances" in the light of this.

As you say 10* home next time....what a silly girl
 
Definietly don't think you are being stingy, she already has free livery and hay, surely her parents/OH could help her out like she said they would. I would get the horse back home, you don't know where this would end. Either she lied about her parents being helpful or she's after having a free horse!! Sounds like she is a taker!
 
Unbelieveable! Get your neddy back asap, there are many people desperate for a loan horse or perhaps a sharer who would be more than willing to help pay costs, not ask you for them! Good luck. You are not a stingy witch, she is a scrounging *itch!
 
I'm shocked that anybody could be so rude to someone who has effectively given them a lovely horse. It makes me so angry that there are people like this who give loaners a bad name. I have a horse on permanent loan and I am eternally grateful to his owner - I would never ever ever ask for a financial contribution unless it was a life or death situation for the horse. Even if she had to pay for livery and hay, £50 is a seriously hefty contribution to make when you're not getting use of the horse. What a b****!!! I bet that £50 wouldn't have been spent on the horse either :(

On a more serious note, could you afford to have him back for a short period of time while you find him a new and improved loan home?
 
Nope sorry but the sooner you terminate this loan the better it will be for you and your horse.

Get your horse back asap.

Someone who has the damn cheek, nerve and terribly poor manners to turn round and call you names is a serious joke. You are working several jobs she can't be bothered to hang onto the one she has... Come on!

You are not being unreasonable in any way shape or fashion. She agreed when you spoke about you concerns for her finances that she would find a way well now she will have to live up to that won't she.

Get your horse back asap. Cheeky cow.
 
Update:
Going to get him on Saturday. God knows where we'll put him, but I've got a few days to worry about that.

Made the little brat cry and didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. Still, she needs to learn she can't have my cake and eat it, as someone so eloquently put it!

Was proud of myself for being calm and assertive. Pat on the back for me!
 
scatty_mare said:
Update:
Going to get him on Saturday. God knows where we'll put him, but I've got a few days to worry about that.

Made the little brat cry and didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. Still, she needs to learn she can't have my cake and eat it, as someone so eloquently put it!

Was proud of myself for being calm and assertive. Pat on the back for me!
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Good.

Have another pat on back from me. If it were my horse I'd be going up and checking daily from now until Saturday, things can easily turn ugly in these situations.
 
Good lord! What a piece of work! I have a horse on loan atm, and would never dream of asking his owner to pay for him - he's my responsibility whilst I have him. Part of that is taking the good with the bad; he's lame atm and can't be ridden, but I'm still paying, natch. If she's getting free livery and hay then you'd think she'd be able to cut back on other things enough to afford the horse? If not (or if she doesn't want to) then she shouldn't have said horse. Simples! Geez, some people... :confused:

Good luck in finding him a nice new home :)

Edit: agree with DG - keep an eye on him, wouldn't trust that little witch one bit!
 
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Wow - what a little biatch!

I do wonder what goes through these people's heads - nothing by the sounds of it!

You did well to stay calm, not sure I would of done!
 
I must admit I think you are being very flexible by waiting till the weekend, if he were mine I would get him now.
What region are you in maybe someone on here is looking and lives in your area?

liz
 
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Just out of curiosity, how old is she?
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18. Why?

In Sussex. I can't go until the weekend - transport issues plus I am working every day and evening until then and it is an hour and a half each way. But although she is a grasping little madam I do honestly think she is fond of the horse.
I hope anyway.
 
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Glad you're getting him back, just please be sure to check him regularly until you can collect him; better safe than sorry.

Reminds me of someone who asked if they could loan a horse from me. I was quite agreeable until she told me she wanted me to pay for all livery, feed, bedding and shoeing. Loan? I don't think so.
 
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