Plans and Dreams

[JollyTall]

OK, so I have been very inspired by lots of posts I have seen on HHO from people who only got a horse of their very own later in life...
I now have decided to instead of thinking that it will never happen to make a 5 year plan to achieving my goal! Started volunteering at some local charities for one, to get my horsey fix, have re-doubled my efforts at Uni, started doing voluntery work at local schools to get experience so I can go on to do a Primart school teachers qualification (really want to do something usefull with my degree which will help me get a decently waged job). So in 5 years I will have my own, fingers crossed! Pro-activeness away!

I was just interested - to all those who only got your first horse later in life, how long did you plan and work towards it? What sort of things were you doing?

 

[rhino]

To be honest I got my horse at a really bad time, I had just finished my first year at University and was very novice. He was a present from my Dad; I had just lost my Mum to cancer and I think he thought it was a good idea to keep me out of trouble/give me a 'purpose'.

I was very, very lucky with the horse I bought, he has been amazing but I am very aware that it could all have gone horribly wrong! It has been difficult though, having him through undergrad/masters and then primary PGDE and I never really utilised his full potential (not that he cares )

I wish you well, definitely sounds like you will be far more 'ready' for a horse than I was. I like this quote

"Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use."
- Earl Nightingale

 

[JollyTall]

Thanks Rhino
Very sad about your situation with family, I'm glad everything came right for you and your pony in the end.

I have allways worked with them (mostly just at weekends around school/college/uni) so I have a pretty good idea about care etc. I was allways put off the thought of having my own by my parents who made it seem like the most un-abtainably expensive thing in the world so I guess i've always been stuck in that mindset haha. But not anymore, she says!

 

[rhino]

I have allways worked with them (mostly just at weekends around school/college/uni) so I have a pretty good idea about care etc. I was allways put off the thought of having my own by my parents who made it seem like the most un-abtainably expensive thing in the world so I guess i've always been stuck in that mindset haha. But not anymore, she says!

Oh they are unbelievably expensive! but perfectly manageable when you are earning yourself.

They certainly help keep you sane after a hard day's teaching!

 

[JFTDWS]

That's a great quotation, rhino

good luck, Jolly Tall

 

[JollyTall]

Oh they are unbelievably expensive! but perfectly manageable when you are earning yourself.

They certainly help keep you sane after a hard day's teaching!

Hehe I can imagine! Do you think I could be a real pain and ask if you would be so kind as to PM me with some tips as to what I should be doing while still an undergraduate to help get a place on a PGCE? I would be very gratefull.

 

[rhino]

Hehe I can imagine! Do you think I could be a real pain and ask if you would be so kind as to PM me with some tips as to what I should be doing while still an undergraduate to help get a place on a PGCE? I would be very gratefull.

I have to go out to the yard in a bit but will have a think and pm you later if that's ok

 

[JollyTall]

I have to go out to the yard in a bit but will have a think and pm you later if that's ok

Thank you! Have fun at the yard x

 

[BlairandAzria]

I can't quote on the phone but saying that your Parents ways made it seem like it was an unattainable dream is exactly how it always was for me. I had lessons and spent all day every weekend and holiday at the stables as a kid, but never got to do pony club or compete or anything. My dad lost his job, so everything stopped, no horses no swimming no anything- I must have cried myself to sleep for a month! Then late teens , it still never happened, horses was something country people. And rich people did. But during my a levels I volunteered with my local rda- and I loved it. I would really recommend it if you haven't thought about it. Then uni, I joined the riding club but felt very much on the out side as I didn't have my own, and they didn't really cater for anyone other than the teams, but I found my local rda at uni and again helped out as much as I could. Fast forward to my early twenties... I graduated got a job and was in a stable situation financially do I started having lessons again- it was only when talking to my instructor and she asked me if I'd thought of getting my own and I just laughed and she was like oh I can definitely see you with your own in the future - that was really the first ever time I started to think that there might might just might be a possibility it could happen and that I didn't have to win the lottery first. It was someone else who mentioned to me about loaning- can you believe I'd never heard of it! So I looked and looked and looked before finally sending an email on the off chance- and that's how I got a mare on part loan a couple of years doing that then I finally took the plunge and got my boy- by a quirk of fate rather than a targeted search but he's perfect 14 yr old tb x. I remember exactly the weekend I decided to get him- I took my friends dog for a walk, I had torn a ligament in my ankle, and it was pouring with rain, by the time I came back I thought my god am I really going to do this!? Slept on it, and I blame sister act 2 for this bit, I went to bed thinking about him and I woke up thinking about him- so I just knew he was going to be mine. He was mine on the tuesday- Because of the dodge ankle I'd never sat in him....which I definitely wouldn't recommend. But waking up that tues morning knowing I was fiung to be going up to buy my First horse I was ridiculously excited! It wa like I wa five again and you can't wait for Santa to bring you that red bike you've always wanted. That feeling has never really left me, i think because I had to wait do long it's made it that much sweeter now- I am that kid who spent every day dreaming of her own pony, knowing it would never happen, but my dreams came true. I loved him inmediately, and every night he brightens my day lifts my heart. Your plan is a good one! And this place is good for inspirations and support, I know I've learnt a lot from different people on here. Good luck in your quest- if you want it bad enough your dreams can come true- im testament to that !

 

[JollyTall]

I can't quote on the phone but saying that your Parents ways made it seem like it was an unattainable dream is exactly how it always was for me. I had lessons and spent all day every weekend and holiday at the stables as a kid, but never got to do pony club or compete or anything. My dad lost his job, so everything stopped, no horses no swimming no anything- I must have cried myself to sleep for a month! Then late teens , it still never happened, horses was something country people. And rich people did. But during my a levels I volunteered with my local rda- and I loved it. I would really recommend it if you haven't thought about it. Then uni, I joined the riding club but felt very much on the out side as I didn't have my own, and they didn't really cater for anyone other than the teams, but I found my local rda at uni and again helped out as much as I could. Fast forward to my early twenties... I graduated got a job and was in a stable situation financially do I started having lessons again- it was only when talking to my instructor and she asked me if I'd thought of getting my own and I just laughed and she was like oh I can definitely see you with your own in the future - that was really the first ever time I started to think that there might might just might be a possibility it could happen and that I didn't have to win the lottery first. It was someone else who mentioned to me about loaning- can you believe I'd never heard of it! So I looked and looked and looked before finally sending an email on the off chance- and that's how I got a mare on part loan a couple of years doing that then I finally took the plunge and got my boy- by a quirk of fate rather than a targeted search but he's perfect 14 yr old tb x. I remember exactly the weekend I decided to get him- I took my friends dog for a walk, I had torn a ligament in my ankle, and it was pouring with rain, by the time I came back I thought my god am I really going to do this!? Slept on it, and I blame sister act 2 for this bit, I went to bed thinking about him and I woke up thinking about him- so I just knew he was going to be mine. He was mine on the tuesday- Because of the dodge ankle I'd never sat in him....which I definitely wouldn't recommend. But waking up that tues morning knowing I was fiung to be going up to buy my First horse I was ridiculously excited! It wa like I wa five again and you can't wait for Santa to bring you that red bike you've always wanted. That feeling has never really left me, i think because I had to wait do long it's made it that much sweeter now- I am that kid who spent every day dreaming of her own pony, knowing it would never happen, but my dreams came true. I loved him inmediately, and every night he brightens my day lifts my heart. Your plan is a good one! And this place is good for inspirations and support, I know I've learnt a lot from different people on here. Good luck in your quest- if you want it bad enough your dreams can come true- im testament to that !

Wow thank you TNF, that definitely gave me a little :') I think the reason my parents always blew it up so much so it seemed impossible is they felt bad about not being able to get me a pony, so by making it seem so it did make me not think they were just being stingy, if you see what I mean.
I am waiting to hear back from my nearest RDA, it is over an hour away so I can't really just pop over so I am still waiting for them to get back to me.

I still get the santa feeling when I just know I'm going to go and muck out and cuddle ponies, let alone anything else