Please read my previous post please. And tell me honestly if you think I'm evil!

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As you will read from my previous posts I've had a recent run of bad luck. I now have a hate campaign running on Facebook saying I'm evil and should have a gun to my head and be shot,

My crime is having my horse of only 10 months PTS because he was very lame with Coffin joint ringbone. Because I brought him the day after having my horse of 4 years PTS I'm evil.

I'm accused of doing it for the insurance money. I have the vet out every week, apparently looking for things that are not their. My dog was also PTS 2 years ago. Which is also why I should be shot.

I should never be allowed to keep animals again, and they feel sorry for my Labrador I have now and I should be banned from keeping animals. Sadly I'm not going to have another horse now because of what these people have said.

I've always done everything I can for my best friends, taken them to the vets when they have been ill. I'm so surprised that people can be so cruel.

And know that it came as a shock to his previous owner, and I was under no obligation to tell her he had been PTS but i did. To which I was told I should of waited for her to come and say goodbye before I did it.

Sorry for the ramble but i hoped that you of all people could give me your honest opinions on what you think I've done wrong, if anything? Thanks for reading x
 
I would say:

Only you know the ins and outs of every decision. If PTS was the right option, between you and your vet, then you made the right decision. Nobody here can judge; we don't know the full facts.

As for buying a new horse the day after one was PTS- people deal with their grief in different ways. Maybe the timing was just unfortunate. Either way, it is nobody's business but yours.

Sounds to me like some people have too much time on their hands, regarding the whole Facebook thing.
 
I suggest you report the abuse to Facebook and have your account deleted:(

The comments seem terribly unkind in view of the very difficult descisions you have had to make - its not as if vets just tootle around doing PTS at owners request just because they feel like it.

As for never owning a horse again - that is totally your descision and should be made for YOUR reasons not because of a pack of baying idiots on FB:o
 
Seems to me you have done nothing wrong but done the best for your animals. I can understand where last owner has come from, as my young dog put down, last friday, to me he'd gone in for bloodtests and was expecting to pick him up that evening. He did have Epilsepsy and started having Pancreatitis and they couldn't control his fits, so put him down then rang us and I must admit I was so angry, but it really came down to the fact I never got to say goodbye. For the rest you have done the best for your animals, so ignore the people on facebook or do what I did, close your account, it got so bloody boring, reading what other people twittered on about.:)
 
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I would say:

Only you know the ins and outs of every decision. If PTS was the right option, between you and your vet, then you made the right decision. Nobody here can judge; we don't know the full facts.

As for buying a new horse the day after one was PTS- people deal with their grief in different ways. Maybe the timing was just unfortunate. Either way, it is nobody's business but yours.

Sounds to me like some people have too much time on their hands, regarding the whole Facebook thing.
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This. only you can decide whats right with regards to when you buy a new horse and also when to PTS. Better a day too early than a day too late.
(((((((((huge hugs)))))))))))))))
 
Im afraid ive missed your other posts, but from what you have just posted here i would say that you havent done anything wrong at all. You've clearly had an awful time of it, its difficult enough to make the right decision for an older horse but for a 10 month old i cant imagine the difficulty and heartbreak of that decision.

What i would say is that it is very easy to sit and hide in judgement behind a computer screen, far more difficult to say those things to someone face to face. Only you know the truth behind your choices and decisions- others can speculate but they will never know. Dont let these people affect your life.

Keep your chin up- report the facebook comments / hate page to the facebook admin, they are pretty good about closing pages etc.. If youre young they act quicker, but they really dont want to be faciilitating bully in any capacity. Other than that, you dont need to defend your actions, log off, close your page for a while, dont read it, and certainly dont let it affect for future decisions.

Take care, chin up, look after yourself. xxxx
 
He could barely walk in from the field on 2 Bute a day. He was really lame. She didn't ride him he was just a pet mostly. So when I had him and did more work he went lame. When i told her she asked what I'd done to him? I'd only had him 2 months at that time, we only hacked out & went to a couple of local shows. He was always lame in trot.
 
If you ask me, the only thing you've done wrong is read the FB page. Delete your account and ignore these idiots.
When my horse had to be pts, I texted the previous owner the day after. She was sympathetic, not accusatory.

As for not getting another horse, that is entirely your decision and should be made after consideration of your own circumstances, not any-one else's opinion.
 
I was under the impression that you had "friends" on facebook, delete them as they are no friend of yours. Can you stop people who are not friends looking at what you write? Otherwise I would delete yourself from there and find another way to communicate to those who really are your friends. Not the sort of thing you want when you have just had to make that decision :(
 
Perhaps she thought you would keep him wether he was cronicle? lame or not, like she had, maybe she should have been a little more honest with you, about him. But no you have nothing to answer, just delete your Facebook, as what you don't or cann't read shouldn't bother you.
 
I've read through some of your old posts, you've really had a bad time of it but have sought vets advice and also asked for help and advice on here which people willingly and non judgementally gave

I think the only thing you are guilty of is worrying too much about what others think, relax and let them get on with it, you'll never change them but you can block it out. Facebook can be evil because its soooo impersonal

You've had terrible luck but dont let it put you off x
 
Black_Horse_White said:
I'm off it for good, my main worry is the threats, one her friends who made the comment about holding a gun to my head said it's a good job I live where I do, it's only about 20 miles away.
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If you are worried about the threats, then make a report to the police. People appear to think that if they post something on the internet, then it is not the same as 'real life', however. threats are threats no matter where they are made. You would think that by now people would have got the message, some people were convicted of inciting riots and imprisoned over the summer!
 
YorksG said:
If you are worried about the threats, then make a report to the police. People appear to think that if they post something on the internet, then it is not the same as 'real life', however. threats are threats no matter where they are made. You would think that by now people would have got the message, some people were convicted of inciting riots and imprisoned over the summer!
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I second this...if youre even in the slightest bit worried about it, report the threat to the police. They should take it seriously- oh and if the threat was send via facebook report it to them, they will take action against the sender. But if it were me, id report them to the police, no ifs no buts, its harassment at best.
 
Print the lot out asap and report it to the police.

I think what they are doing is a criminal offence as well as libel. People have gone to jail for abuse of facebook.

If nothing else the police knocking on peoples door should shut them up.

As I see it you can either delete your account and effectively hide out for a while, or you can take them on,

If it was me I would take them on, for anything and everything, but thats me.
 
She never offered to take him back until yesterday after he had gone. She said she wished she'd had him back and retired him. I asked the vet if i could retire him he said no he would be a welfare case he was that lame. She just keeps saying their was nothing wrong with him. I had x rays done, 2 lots of steroid injections. He's been sound for a month in the time ive owned him. He was only lame on hard ground to start with, then in the school then on grass and just on turnout. I really couldn't do anymore for him. He was a dream to own & ride, i would have given everything to make him better but it was never going to happen. And tomorrow I will be contacting the police, thanks everyone x
 
I would do what you can to distance yourself from these people. Take some time, and when you feel it is right maybe you will find another horse. Unfortunately, you have had a bad run of luck. I suspect the previous owner did not ride much due to lameness issues.

I really hope that things start to sort themselves out for you. My only comment is maybe you were so keen for things to go right after your 1st horse was put down, you made a decision for the wrong reasons, or were too trusting when you bought your 2nd horse, which would account for the lameness not being picked up.
 
You made a very hard decision and worked with your vets to give your horse the best possible care. These people are horrible. Hope you are ok, delete your facebook account and move on with your life.
 
Relieved to hear you will be reporting these people to the Police. Differences of opinion are one thing, death threats are bang out of order.

Once ringbone advances it is horrible to see and when it gets to the stage it got to with your boy you had no choice. Your vet obviously agreed otherwise would not have PTS.

There are evil people out there who avoid using the vet to PTS as they had not cared for the horse as instructed by the vet.

You are not one of them.

The old owner would have known there was intermittent lameness a long time ago. I believe it is her guilt making her react this way.

Please don't give up horses because of mob rule, then they really have won.
 
ISHmad said:
Relieved to hear you will be reporting these people to the Police. Differences of opinion are one thing, death threats are bang out of order.
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This sort of behaviour makes me so angry
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The police take cyberbullying very seriously I hope you get a good response.


ISHmad said:
Once ringbone advances it is horrible to see and when it gets to the stage it got to with your boy you had no choice. Your vet obviously agreed otherwise would not have PTS.

There are evil people out there who avoid using the vet to PTS as they had not cared for the horse as instructed by the vet.

You are not one of them.
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So please do not let yourself feel guilt on top of the usual emotions for losing a horse.

ISHmad said:
The old owner would have known there was intermittent lameness a long time ago. I believe it is her guilt making her react this way.

Please don't give up horses because of mob rule, then they really have won.
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Well said ISH!
 
Right screen shot the fb pages and phone the police.. No one should make threats like this to you. The police will take you seriously as I know of a lovely chap who received similar threats on fb and police took it very seriously.

I can't see that you have done anything wrong x
 
I'm with ISH-Mad, your horse didn't get like that overnight, the old owner should've looked into it and done the right thing instead of selling the horse on, shes lucky you bought him and were brave enough to do the right thing
 
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