pregnant and feeling guilty

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I'm feeling really guilty as am early pregnancy and feel really really awfull (very sick /tired ) and cant face riding at all. boy is on livery so is properly looked after but I have to work full time and can barely get through the day let alone get on him. he seems quite happy not being ridden but I was planning on riding for a few months yet. I cant find anyone else to ride him unfortunately although I may consider formal share but I know not many takers round here at present. Also worried about how much I will be able to ride with a baby. very supportive other half but we both have to work. Do other people only ride at weekends ? and is it ok ? have a very easy going ID x who is quite happy pottering round the lanes and doesnt get at all stressy if not ridden much. Really dont want to sell him as realize what a perfect boy he is now for what I'll be doing !!
 
Dont worry about it. Give him a holiday if you want to. Just go up and enjoy him, a few pats, carrots and a nice groom, I am sure he will love it.
You are coming in to the best time of year as well so if you can turn out 24hours just do it. As long as he gets some sort of attention at some point of the day I am sure he will be fine. And you will be amazed at the difference in you when some of the pressure comes off.
 
I am now 19wks prgenant and stopped riding my mare 2wks go. I do feel aweful, she is the sort of horse that thrives on work and having only been back in work for a year from having a foal its kills me knowing she is doing nothing again but she is a difficult horse to understand and i cant risk someone undoing my 6yrs of hard work, she seem happy enough at the moment think we need to be thankful that they are having time off during the summer, i know my mare wouldnt cope over the winter
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I stopped riding my mare when I fell pregnant, she was quite sharp & I didn't want to risk anything as it wasn't just me I was pregnant for! I had a friend ride her for a bit and then she had a holiday. I found riding afterwards was fairly easy, make the most of any support you get from family/friends as you do need your own time after the birth! Also I managed to tie in riding with sleep times!
 
Don't feel guilty - I used to have a horse way back that I could only really ride 3 days a week (Friday to Sunday) or during school holidays due to the location of the yard. She was absolutely fine.
Or just consider time off - plenty of turnout now in the summer may do them good. Don't fret about it there will be time again.

Regarding the new baby, perhaps you can organise with your OH that you can ride once or twice during the week in the evening?

or take the baby along - it's what I have been doing and i have never looked back. Yes you have your mind on the baby a lot but at first they sleep a lot anyway no matter where and later get used to it! I think it is doable but you need to be more organised than alone...
 
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