telerimist
Well-Known Member
Thankfully now ex-sharer. I advertised my mare to part share (due to uni exams) 3 days a week with a long trial due to her being sensitive and very sharp and NOT a novice ride but very safe and not silly and I also made clear she needed a confident rider who could school to a good level as my mare enjoys being challenged with opportunities to regularly compete.
Very lovely lady came and tried and seemed fine, to be fair she said she was a bit nervous as not ridden a horse for a few months. But had all BHS stages and worked on a yard and used to compete RC dressage up to novice so to me seemed a good thing!
Offered a 2 month trial to allow lady to get to grips with her, my instructor was at my yard every Wednesday if she needed a hand/advice.
The first month went fine, she was mainly hacking to get a feel for her and told me she was schooling once a week and had been fine and was enjoying her.
Toward the end of my second month my horse went very backward in her work, initially I thought it was me as had not been riding much as concentrating on my uni revision so I brushed it off as lady said she had been fine with her. Exams came and went so I started riding more, instantly felt my horse was completely not herself (I've had her 6 years since she was backed!) and found out from another livery she had in fact not schooled once and had only done some short hacks but had been so nervous she had her O/H walk with her. At the stage, still on trial and no money had been exchanged or permanent sharer agreement signed, only a trial agreement.
In the end I confronted this and asked to see her school her to my amazement she couldn't stop her in trot or canter and was so tense and heavy handed I knew this was what had caused my mare to be so odd, yet my YO 13yo daughter can happily ride in all paces and pop fences happily on a big mare!
Sharer politely ditched and had a Physiotherapist and an McTimoney Specialist out, to which they both agreed it appears her heavy handedness and tense seat has caused my mare to twist her pelvis and become blocked behind the saddle area due to all the built up tension.
I am now 2 months later and £300 down on physio and massage treatments and my mare is only starting to work softly and in an outline again after previously being competed up to elementary level unaff, but to top it all off my ex-sharer has started riding another horse at my yard (which was my friends, not so much anymore) after bulls***ing about what experience she really has and her intentions where just having a pretty horse to hack. Now leaving the time I spend with my horse very awkward having the last person I want round my horse on the yard. We have to book the school where we are and she always seems to appear every time I book it to ride, which is almost on a daily basis!
What can or should I do? Politely tell her to sod off and leave my horse and I alone to get on. Or should I just ignore and bite my tongue?
I've never been in this kind of situation before and I love the yard I'm at but I want to enjoy my horse without having that every day and the last thing I want to do is move
Any advice would be much appreciated!
Very lovely lady came and tried and seemed fine, to be fair she said she was a bit nervous as not ridden a horse for a few months. But had all BHS stages and worked on a yard and used to compete RC dressage up to novice so to me seemed a good thing!
Offered a 2 month trial to allow lady to get to grips with her, my instructor was at my yard every Wednesday if she needed a hand/advice.
The first month went fine, she was mainly hacking to get a feel for her and told me she was schooling once a week and had been fine and was enjoying her.
Toward the end of my second month my horse went very backward in her work, initially I thought it was me as had not been riding much as concentrating on my uni revision so I brushed it off as lady said she had been fine with her. Exams came and went so I started riding more, instantly felt my horse was completely not herself (I've had her 6 years since she was backed!) and found out from another livery she had in fact not schooled once and had only done some short hacks but had been so nervous she had her O/H walk with her. At the stage, still on trial and no money had been exchanged or permanent sharer agreement signed, only a trial agreement.
In the end I confronted this and asked to see her school her to my amazement she couldn't stop her in trot or canter and was so tense and heavy handed I knew this was what had caused my mare to be so odd, yet my YO 13yo daughter can happily ride in all paces and pop fences happily on a big mare!
Sharer politely ditched and had a Physiotherapist and an McTimoney Specialist out, to which they both agreed it appears her heavy handedness and tense seat has caused my mare to twist her pelvis and become blocked behind the saddle area due to all the built up tension.
I am now 2 months later and £300 down on physio and massage treatments and my mare is only starting to work softly and in an outline again after previously being competed up to elementary level unaff, but to top it all off my ex-sharer has started riding another horse at my yard (which was my friends, not so much anymore) after bulls***ing about what experience she really has and her intentions where just having a pretty horse to hack. Now leaving the time I spend with my horse very awkward having the last person I want round my horse on the yard. We have to book the school where we are and she always seems to appear every time I book it to ride, which is almost on a daily basis!
What can or should I do? Politely tell her to sod off and leave my horse and I alone to get on. Or should I just ignore and bite my tongue?
I've never been in this kind of situation before and I love the yard I'm at but I want to enjoy my horse without having that every day and the last thing I want to do is move
Any advice would be much appreciated!