Puppy crying...trying to be strong!!!

[Spit That Out]

Hi, Our puppy is crying and yapping at night and it's tugging on the heartstrings...I want to bring him to bed with me but OH is saying be strong

We've got him secure downstairs, he has a big bed, toys a chew and a few biscuits, a puppy training pad, water etc. We've put a jumper that smells of OH in with him and tried leaving a night light on and radio on for him but nothing is working.

He was ok the first few nights, after about half an hour he stopped crying and went to sleep but last night it was all night long.

We got up a couple of times to let him in the garden, he did his business and then put him to bed again but he just wouldn't settle. We didn't fuss him when we went down, just picked him up and put him out them put him in to bed again.

Would it be so bad to bring him to bed with us?

We slept with the TV on last night just to drown out his crying!!!

How long will this go on for? Our last pup settled after a couple of nights.

 

[CorvusCorax]

What age is the pup? Did you rescue in the end or buy?
I personally would be strong and not bring the pup into the room, and be firm and persevere, you did actually reward the crying by showing him attention the first night he cried all night, but it's easily done. I wouldn't actually leave constant access to a large amount of water at night, maybe I'm a meanie, but his bladder will be tiny.

 

[Slinkyunicorn]

Don't give in!

How old is puppy?and what is he? And where are the pictures?

 

[2Conker]

Hi, Our puppy is crying and yapping at night and it's tugging on the heartstrings...I want to bring him to bed with me but OH is saying be strong

We've got him secure downstairs, he has a big bed, toys a chew and a few biscuits, a puppy training pad, water etc. We've put a jumper that smells of OH in with him and tried leaving a night light on and radio on for him but nothing is working.

He was ok the first few nights, after about half an hour he stopped crying and went to sleep but last night it was all night long.

We got up a couple of times to let him in the garden, he did his business and then put him to bed again but he just wouldn't settle. We didn't fuss him when we went down, just picked him up and put him out them put him in to bed again.

Would it be so bad to bring him to bed with us?

We slept with the TV on last night just to drown out his crying!!!



How long will this go on for? Our last pup settled after a couple of nights.

Oh poor you; had this 18months ago-just tears at you the noise. Pup was in a crate, the worse was the first 2/3 nights though if I recall. Went out with her every four hours to wee etc-making no fuss and not talking to her. Dog trainer who was helping out came up with something that worked really well - bunch of keys! Went and bought a load of noisy ones, put them on a key ring. Had to throw them at the crate when she was making a noise, which startled her. That's all, no shouting or talking to her. If started again, thrown again - consistency was important. Making a fuss of her of course when been good for a while. Grew out of the crate, and now secure happy dog who sleeps on her bed (sorry, bit mean telling you that when you're going through the harrowing stage....)

Cant recall how much had to do it, but pup learned quickly. Then used it when she wouldnt listen i.e. in the garden, or bouncing after one of the cats-something to do with the distraction,stops them in their tracks and they think of something else!
Might be worth a try?
Forgot to say, were told to NEVER throw the keys AT the dog; just in front or to the side-or would defeat the objective if hurt and frightened her.

 

[NeverSayNever]

i would get a crate for him and throw the puppy pads in the bin imho all they do is teach them to go in the house,whereas if you get up and let him out into the garden he will learn to go outside quicker. with a crate he will feel more secure. I sometimes leave a radio on quietly in the room, but perseverance is the key, only go to him when he is quiet

 

[ChesnutsRoasting]

I know some say you shouldn't treat animals like humans, but with my last puppy he had a bedtime routine like a baby. He would go to bed at the same time every night, half an hour before bed we would have a game with a ragga or similiar to tire him out, then 10 minutes of quiet time. During the day, when he napped, he would be placed in his crate to sleep, with the door open. I was very lucky, he didn't make a peep, but I have had pups that create at night and it breaks your heart. They will eventually get used to sleeping alone, get him into a bedtime routime and get some earplugs! Good luck!

 

[CAYLA]

I would also be investing in a crate, as the space alone could see him being noisy as its pretty daunting being so little and left alone in such a big space for that much longer than if he is crated, also crating will teach him to hold, the pads will teach him to do his business indoors, pads whould really be used as a guide when u are actually there, the idea is, when u see the pup head for the pad/paper u then let them out, and u place the pad near the door, this teaches the puppy to head in the direction of the door, where u then let/take it out.

If u think my puppy guide would help u, just PM me your e.mail addy and I will e.mail u one.

 

[galaxy]

I crated Harley at the foot of my bed for the 1st 4 days.... I was advised that it teaches them that nighttime is for sleeping.

My plan was then to pu him on the landing with the bedroom door open, but in the end we just put him downstairs and he was fine. The 1st week he woke twice a night. Didn't speak to him, just put him straight outside an then back into his crate. The 2nd week woke once and then that was it.

 

[Spit That Out]

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I'll PM you for that puppy guide, thank you for your help.

We ended up buying in the end...He's the most beautiful 9 week old Collie with one blue eye and one brown.
We've had him checked out by the vets, micochipped, wormed, flea'd etc etc and the vet was very happy with him. He's going back on New Years Eve for his second jab and then we can look forward to long walkies!!!
We saw both of his parents and his mum was a complete mard!!
He's seen the horse and i think he quite enjoyed the warm air being blown (snorted) on him as it was a bit chilly!!!!

Typically we have spent a fortune on toys, ropes, balls etc and his favorite is a small cuddly cow i got free!!!!

We are going to enroll in the local puppy class so he can make some friends but we have already mastered SIT!!! He's super cleaver ...proud mum alert!!! For when he gets a bit older we have put our name on the Dog Agility classes list...very excited.

He's already learnt to squeak at the back door when he needs a p00p and wee...I think we have been very lucky

We were going to call him Sprout (keeping it seasonal) however we settled on Merlin

He's already pruned most of the twigs in the garden and luckily the pond is very frozen as he chased a bird across it...In the spring that will be filled in!!!

He loves rolling in the snow and we already have so many cute pics of him playing but he also loves coming in to a warm towel and a cuddle on the sofa to warm up again.

I know we have only had him a few days but we love him so much already

We will probably do loads of things wrong and will be frowned upon by many on this forum but we will try our hardest to provide him a loving, warm home with everything he needs.

Merry Crimbo everyone and as soon as i get a Photoshop account i will upload some pics

 

[stilltrying]

its awful isn't it when they cry...puppy guilt is the worst! Do try and be strong though....it doesn't last long.

Our little frenchie was ok for the first 3 nights but then went through about 4 or 5 nights of shouting the place down, tried making every noise he could think of and it was really heartbreaking...but now that he is 10 months old, fully grown, snores and farts like a trooper I am so pleased we didn't bring him up to our bed as i wouldn't want him in there now!!!

I did borrow a crate for him to sleep in, although I didn't ever shut him in there - i know lots of people favour crates for toilet training but i am not a fan. I used pee pads for when we were out / night time. He used them every night until about 5.5 months then it was every other night and by 6 months he was going all night. I accept crating does speed it up but the wees he was doing in the night were quite big and I would have felt mean making him hold. But I am a soft touch.....

 

[2Conker]

Wonderful to hear that you found such a lovely new pup; he sounds brilliant and just the dog for Agility. Happy times and look forward to seeing photos.

 

[Nickijem]

Congratulations on your new arrival! We need pics ASAP!
I am sorry you are having trouble at night with him but it won't be forever. I agree with other that you have to be strong and ignore the cries. So long as he has been out in the garden last thing at night, he should be fine for around 5 hours. When we first got Purdey, I would let her out at about 11.30pm then she would have a soothing stoke and then placed in her crate. We then walked away and shut the kitchen door. I then got up at about 5am to let her out again before she cried to come out. Over a week or so I got up gradually later and later til she would wait til about 6.30am.
When I let her out the crate, I didn't fuss her or reward her for coming out, I just put her straight into the garden.
I hope he settles soon - it is very difficult not to feel guilty, but you have no need to - he will be fine!