Really do feel like just calling it quits with all things equine.

[showqa]

I am so downhearted with all things equine that I really wonder whether I should continue.

I've had to have my old pony PTS recently, completely the right thing to do but you can imagine how that has made me feel. My 7 year old, who has been yarded for weeks due to the horrendous conditions, is slowly smashing through every fence and gate - ending up on the road today. It was only the odd job man from up the road who alerted me, and when I saw the gate you wouldn't believe it. Due to the overnight thaw I was planning to start his work again today, but he's horribly lame on his right fore all of a sudden, and I think I can feel heat in his tendon. The vet is coming out tomorrow and I'm so worried that this is going to be a big injury that's going to take him out for a long time, and I'm also worried that because of how I feel I'll just break down and cry if she says it's something long term and serious. Especially if I'm expected to keep him stabled and quiet - I just know he won't accept it and it'll be complete and non-stop hell.

My little mare is only just getting right after slipping on the lorry ramp and sustaining nasty injuries to her hind leg, one of which is still not 100%. Together with the weather, she's been off for about 6 weeks in total and again, is chewing all the fences and getting very irritable through boredom and lack of exercise.

It just seems to me that everything horse related I touch lately is a disaster and emotionally it's taking so much out of me that I'm feeling really depressed. Sorry, there's no point to this at all, I just feel utterly low with it and my OH bless him, well he's not into horses and so just doesn't understand how important they are to me and so what a smack in the teeth it is when things keep going so wrong with them. I feel so trapped - it's like there's nothing I can do to really change anything about any of it.

 

[PurplePickle]

It will improve honestly, i think all us horsey people go through bad spells, they can last for a while though.


the weathers rubbish and feels never ending, when things go wrong something else seems to follow. I hope you feel a bit brighter soon.

 

[fjordhorsefan]

I can't offer anything apart from a big cyber ((((hug)))). The nights are getting shorter, things will be better soon. xxxx

 

[Stelzar]

2 months until spring is here and the grass comes through! Even though it seems hopeless at the moment, please do not wish for the worst! It could just be an infection from a splinter from destroying gate etc.

Maybe you should think about some electric fencing that might keep your horse in.

Things will improve my husband is totally not horsey and its hard for him to understand how much the horses mean to me too, infact they have been a lifeline for me moving so far from home recently.

I'm sure you will get through this, keep your chin up x x x

 

[Daisy2]

Oh dear you have it bad and you are quite right to feel the way you do because you love them and want them to be right and healthy. So how to get through it.... one day at a time with time out for yourself and loads of patience. Good support is essential during these times. Ive heard many people say on here that horses do very well at healing themselves so chin up one day at a time and try to put things into perspective, I know it can be difficult but you will get through it. 8 weeks or so til spring, time for your horses to heal and the rest of the year to enjoy!

 

[showqa]

Thanks for your support. You know, I'm really not one who falls at the first fence either, but every which way I look the view seems so bleak at the moment.

 

[pottamus]

First of all I am sorry to hear of all the bad luck and troubles that you are having...but it is ok to cry and it is ok to feel so low about it all. I truly hope that you find the strength to get through this...because you will and will be back on the straight and narrow before you know it.
As others have said, we have all been there, when you think everything is against you and nothing will ever be right again. I got so low, so frustrated, so sad and so angry at the same time during the time my lad had laminitis that I wanted to call the vet and have him put down to end the pain and trauma that we were going through...even though my horse was on the road to recovery at the time. I would NEVER have done it and my husband told me to pull myself together...but I felt like I would explode if I had to carry on with no clear joy in sight. Things did turn a corner eventually and life looked brighter, but it took time and the only way I got through it was to deal with each day separately and each problem separately and then move on from there, each day at a time.
Good luck and I hope things turn out well for you sooner than you think.

 

[Yorkshire dumpling]

just stick with it, come summer you will wonder what all the fuss was about, honestly i think everyone horsey has this feeling espec when its 3 foot deep snow, cold, wet, and windy and the vet has to come out ect. you just have a snap of the winter blues. ((((((((big hugs))))))))
im sure you will feel better and even if the horse has got long standing problem that will take a while to sort out, you know once it is better he is so worth it. xxx
hope you feel better soon xx

 

[MiJodsR2BlinkinTite]

Giving you lots of hugs hun, coz so many of us here on this forum know what its like to lose a friend we've had to make the hard decision to PTS, and there is that awful period afterwards of everything looking very bleak and black and horrible, and the blimmin weather's not helping either is it.

I think you're coping tremendously well with everything that's been thrown at you, particularly your other horse who's obviously grieving, as you are too, for the horse you've lost, which is always a difficult thing. Horses do sense loss just the same as us, I believe, and will probably be feeling very lonely and insecure at the moment, plus of course being yarded because of the weather won't be helping either.

Things are obviously not easy at the moment for you; there's nothing worse than having a stressy horse you don't know what to do with to the extent that it keeps breaking out, and all that additional worry and hassle for you.

Give things time to settle down; hopefully the weather will be improving very soon and you can get things a bit more sorted, and to find time for yourself as well.

Sending your hugs! We horsey people are a tough bunch, and you will come through this.

 

[showqa]

Just want to say thanks to all my forum friends for kind words. You've no idea how valuable they can be when someone hits rock bottom, so thanks a lot for taking the time out to chivvy me along.