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Okay so about 5weeks ago, I lost a set of 4 Trizone brushing boots. Around the same time, a loaner left the yard after basically a dispute with the owner of the horse she loaned. I didn't connect the two, but instead turned the yard and my house upside down looking for them, searched trailer etc, rang up competition venue i'd been to the week before in case i'd somehow managed to leave them there (totally clutching at straws basically!)
On facebook tonight, see photos of loaner with new loan pony, have a look as pony looks v cute and want to see how she's getting on! Lo and behold...he is wearing the boots!!!! :eek: :( :mad:
Speak to girl on facebook chat, v v friendly, non accusatory, have a chat then ask her about boots- whether she'd accidently picked them up when she left the yard...? No, of course not, she says, becomes very blunt and short when before she'd been friendly and using lots of smilies etc. I ask her if she's totally sure (again not at all suggesting she did it on purpose), and describe them extensively, including the initials I sewed onto them with red thread when they were stolen (sorry 'borrowed') by another livery a month or two before!! Again, totally denies, says her mum bought them for her last week.
I am 100% CERTAIN they are mine- two unmatching pairs (different styles of Trizone), and in one pic you can even see a little red blur that is my initials on one of them!!!! :mad: :mad: I brought this up, she gets quite aggressive and denies again.

I am really upset/angry- probably over the top considering how many awful things happen to people on here :( , but those boots cost me quite a significant amount of money from my allowance and summer job- and were smart enough for competitions as well as at home- and one of the ancient ones i've used since the Trizones disappeared has just totally fallen apart, so i'm going to have to fork out for new ones which I really can't afford right now!! :( :( :(


Sorry I know this is really rambly and over the top, but i'm really peed off.
 
Id phone the police, its theft.

Obivously not an emergency call or anything, but maybe ring your local station. Id be very angry too.

Maybe if they pay her a visit you will get the boots back or at the very least scare her enough no to steal again.
 
If you are sure they are yours i would block her off facebook and not bother with her again! I would be peed off too, not a lot worse than thieves:mad:
 
do u know where she lives, i'f g around there and demand to see them..then take them if they are yours...if they aren't then a lot of blushing and apologising to do...
 
What she did is absolutely disgusting- why anyone would steal someone else's property just escapes me. I can totally see why you are so angry and annoyed about the whole thing. However calling the police will likely get you nowhere- I think a pair of horse boots is the bottom of their priorities. Unfortunately I don't think there's a lot you can do about it. Perhaps if you knew where she kept her horse you could go up and ask for them back, but apart from that it may be better to simply cut your losses and sever all contact with her.
 
Copy the facebook photo incase she removes it then send her a message saying you are going to the police and give her a chance to return them if no luck then do just that, theft is theft. Shame you told her about your red initials no doubt she will try to remove them now which is why you really need to copy the photo.
 
Thanks for the responses guys.
Firstly I should have clarified- she is only 13, so although I am furious, I do think that getting the police involved etc would be too heavy handed. I don't want to terrify her. Similarly, as she is the age she is, I really don't think she'll sell them on Ebay- I reckon she just wants them for her loan pony.

I don't know where she lives, or exactly where the yard is (though could probably find out through mutual friends and some careful facebook research!). My mum reckons we should go there in the day time when it's quiet (unless obviously it's a private yard at someone's house or something!) and see if the boots are there. If so, and they still have the initials on :mad: we take them and then I tell her- then she can't really do anything about it- if not, we just leave it.

I do have photos of my horse wearing them, and also I'll save the photos in case she takes them down, good idea.

Glad i'm not the only person who thinks stealing is a really deplorable thing to do. Various events at my yard such as this have made me wonder if i'm the only person who has actually had morals taught to them!? :mad:
 
Aghh. Blooming kids. We had a teenage livery (known to be light fingered) leave the yard and I couldn't find my chaps for ages. Took me ages to realise they went at the same time and now I see videos of her on you tube wearing the bleeding things!!

I just left it because she wasn't worth it and I had just bought new boots anyway. She also took someones fence energiser.

Call her mum! That's what the lady with the fence energisier did. She said it had her initials on and it came back sharpish!
 
Call the mother, threaten to call the police to her and also threaten to get in touch with her school. That should be enough for the mother to do something about it.
 
I'd make out you have your name written on them somewhere in that UV ink or something as well incase she just unpicks the thread. She's not to know you haven't.
 
You say she is only 13. This is the time kids start to learn the wrong things.

It does not matter how old she is she has still taken something that does not belong to her and she should give them back.

My kids were taught that they could only have if they could afford it and taking from others was not allowed.
 
I would call her mum, or get your mum to call her. If that doesn't work then steal them back :) I wouldn't let it pass over as she will go on thinking she can steal others belongings and get away with it. I know of a few kids at a yard that do this....they just don't understand how hard we have to work for to be able to afford such things!
 
Agree with calling her mum, chances are she's got no idea how her daughter came by the boots, if she knows she's got them at all. You're quite right to be peed off, I would be too, it's shocking that she thinks that's an acceptable thing to do.

Like heather_bambi, we've got some ... er, "light-fingered" liveries (esp. the kids and teenagers) on our yard, who seem to have no concept of how much things cost or how to look after them!
 
I would tell her that you can prove that the boots in the photo are yours, and that you will give her 24hrs to return them, without any comeback, otherwise you will be contacting the police, her mother, and the yard owners to tell them what has happened. Hopefully this should scare her into returning them, otherwise I would actually do the above.

I don't think sneaking into someone else's yard would work. It makes you as bad as her. She has probably cut off the red thread by now anyway... The ultraviolet marking line is a good one. In fact, it may be worth getting an ultra violet pen for future use...
 
Print-screen/copy the picture, then tell her you are reporting the theft and will steer the Police in her direction. If she has nothing to hide, she will allow you to check the boots, if she won't let you check....then there we go. Also ask to see the reciept for the boots. Again, if there is no reciept, it's a bit suspicious.

DON'T let it slide!
 
would like to add it ain't always teenagers! aged 16 I had my beautiful Jeffries Bridle that was bought by my grandparents as a present stolen, it went missing at the same time a middle aged livery with a grudge left!
 
EEEK I have a bad conscience:eek:

I still have a top of yours from when you were fence judging at Little Downham!
 
Lol, sorry Jemima-too?! Had no idea i'd left a top!- or indeed that i'd met you :o :o Thanks for holding onto it :D
 
*giggles*

You FJ'd at the water with us. The mad bunch in the white landy. Kerilli was FJing at the ditch by the field edge!
 
jemima_too said:
*giggles*

You FJ'd at the water with us. The mad bunch in the white landy. Kerilli was FJing at the ditch by the field edge!
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OMG! As you can tell, I had NO idea that was you :D :D Thanks for saying!!
Can't believe I had no idea i was meeting a HHOer..!

Wow it's like HHO uncovered :p
 
MOLLYA said:
OMG! As you can tell, I had NO idea that was you :D :D Thanks for saying!!
Can't believe I had no idea i was meeting a HHOer..!

Wow it's like HHO uncovered :p
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I tried to ask you if you wanted to to meet kerilli - I was going to send you over there to say hi but you didn't twig! There were various others there as well but off the top of my head I can't remember who.

Still need to get this top back to you. Do you do any C&DRC stuff or know anyone who's going to the quiz night on 12th and I can give it to them. Or pm me your address and I'll post it - you know that I'm daft but being an old lady I'm probably not a stalker!
 
Defo speak to the parents OP - you don't have to say 'Your daughter has nicked my stuff, but could ask them to have a look in case it was a 'mistake' - if your suspicions are correct, they will probably be mortified and kick her thieving backside'. I had a Saturday job in a shop several years ago and the kids we caught shoplifting were more scared of their parents than the police - one parent hauled her son back in to apologise to us and bring back what he had stolen as well as pay for it! She reckoned he would be grounded til he left home :P
 
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