Regaining confidence

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Its a funny old thing isn't it? So easily lost so difficult to regain.The newbieis a total saint and I am slowly regaining my nerve. Instructor told me to slow down in last lesson but then commented on how nice it was to be able to say that to me and how nice it was to see that I was happy to let him go on a bit.I STILL get butterflies before I get on him though.Funny isn't it?
 
It certainly is. I got a horse after a 15 year break and within a few weeks had a really minor fall but badly injured my knee and by the time I got on again I had lost my confidence and he'd turned into a bronc. Its taken two and a half years to get to the stage where I don't have butterflies just at the thought of getting on and don't have panic attacks and get off when he misbehaves. I found a great instructor who has helped me hugely, and I'm now conquering the jumping fears with a brilliant instructor. Had jumping lessons on his old schoolmaster until I was ready to start having them on my boy. Now out competing happily, albeit at a mini height level, and even getting placed.
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Horrible when you lose it but such a brilliant feeling when you can feel it coming back, persevere
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I have learned, the right horse most important, followed hard on its heels by the really good instructor, who is also patient, pleasant and doesn't try to push you too quickly AND I have to say, the right livery yard.
 
I lost all of my confidence about 6mths after getting George, I had a really scarey fall on a hack and fell off at a couple of shows. I then convinced myself that despite loving him dearly that I had bought a horse that was too big and too much for me. But the patience of my friends at the yard and my instructor, and me taking tiny baby steps it slowly started coming back, george looked after me and now I trust him and him me. But I am very careful to take new things slowly as I don't want to lose it.
 
Yes - the right horse will do it every time! And putting in the time and the mileage to build up trust. But even now, after nine years of my mare looking after me, I still have 'windy' days when I prefer to just pootle about quietly.
 
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