reluctant sharer...

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Due to my being pregnant and my pony turning a little daft iv got a sharer for him, she started off paying his livery and doing the riding, with me paying shoes, feed etc and sorting that side of things out! She wasnt forthcoming with the money so i thought she was maybe struggling to pay and changed the agreement to her only paying half the livery and 2 of the kids from the stables helping with the riding!

Its now like pulling teeth to get her to pay and ride, we sort out days for who's riding at the beginning of the week but she just doesnt bother to do it! Granted the pony is naughty but she's never fallen off and he's never hurt her, i think he's probably given her a scare on the odd occasion and she doesnt want to admitt it, she mostly rides with someone walking with her on foot, when she bothers to ride. My problem is that i dont completely trust the pony to behave with the kids if she isnt riding him the days she's meant to, he needs a constant workload!!

Im ending up with a mad pony thats getting no work and 2 kids that are desperate to sit on him but cant ride him everyday!!

Any suggestions?
 
sell the pony and get one that your kids CAN ride???


I understand your predicament, but asking someone to pay YOU to do YOU a favour really isnt on ... and I think in her own way she's telling you that.
 
sorry, my mistake.

so is sharer having to pay for the priveledge of mucking out and making this pony rideable for the others and the others don't have to pay anything???
 
And I think that the sharer knew what the set up was when she agreed to share. Most people would expect to pay towards a horse for a share of the riding. If its now got to the point that she doesn't want to share the pony she should just be honest instead of pretending that she's going to ride.
 
I thought the whole point of getting a sharer was to ride an animal that you don't have time to ride and help with the cost of keeping it............so thats what littletinker is trying to achieve here (I think !)
So.......find out if the sharer wants to continue with the arangement. If not, find another sharer ? working livery ? put him on loan ? grass livery, take his shoes off and just turn him out until you have time to ride again ?
 
Iv been thinking along the lines of shoes off and not riding, only problem with that is he's on limited turnout because of an injury to his mouth, he has a tear in his lip and cant graze properly, have a feeling he'd go insane if he wasnt being ridden!

No mucking out etc involved for sharer, purely riding on the days we organise, she just isnt riding!! Iv tried talking to her about it and she always comes back with money is fine, things have just kept cropping up on the days im meant to ride!

If i could get another sharer that would be fine but how many people will take on a daft 13hh 5yr old! Other than kids that dont have time to keep him ticking over properly and keep him sensible!
 
Can you arange for her to pay by direct debit? If not start requesting payment a month in advance, then you have a full month to collect it before it affects you.
Regarding the riding, tell her that except for emergencies, you need to know 2 days before if she wont be riding him on her day so you can make alternative arangements for his exercise. Firstly, this may enable you to make them, and secondly it will mean she cant just decide on the day that she doesnt feel like it, and will significantly reduce the number of times she doesnt ride.
 
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